Imagining a Better Boyhood - The Atlantic


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In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid costume—on weekends and after school. Then he began wearing them to sleep in lieu of pajamas, changing out of them after breakfast. via Pocket
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Today’s Masculinity Is Stifling
As boys grow up, the process of becoming men encourages them to shed the sort of intimate connections and emotional intelligence that add meaning to life.
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8 weeks ago by habi
To embrace anything feminine, if you’re not biologically female, causes discomfort and confusion, because throughout most of history and in most parts of the world, being a woman has been a disadvantage. Why would a boy, born into all the power of maleness, reach outside his privileged domain? It doesn’t compute...

While society is chipping away at giving girls broader access to life’s possibilities, it isn’t presenting boys with a full continuum of how they can be in the world. To carve out a masculine identity requires whittling away everything that falls outside the norms of boyhood. At the earliest ages, it’s about external signifiers like favorite colors, TV shows, and clothes. But later, the paring knife cuts away intimate friendships, emotional range, and open communication...

There are so few positive variations on what a “real man” can look like, that when the youngest generations show signs of reshaping masculinity, the only word that exists for them is nonconforming. The term highlights that nobody knows what to call these variations on maleness. Instead of understanding that children can resist or challenge traditional masculinity from within the bounds of boyhood, it’s assumed that they’re in a phase, that they need guidance, or that they don’t want to be boys.
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8 weeks ago by iamfantastikate
“Soon he will run his dear little head against that blank wall of foregone conclusions which shuts out fairyland from a workaday world.”
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8 weeks ago by trs
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8 weeks ago by bperrier
Some good points in here. I was certainly interested more in Girl Scouts than Boy Scouts! But I wasn't non-conforming in the usual gender ways, just not competitive or physical.
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8 weeks ago by UltraNurd
Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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8 weeks ago by stevenbedrick
In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid costume—on weekends and after school. Then he began wearing them to sleep in lieu of pajamas, changing out of them after breakfast. via Pocket
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8 weeks ago by jburkunk
Eager to see the seedlings of change...
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9 weeks ago by Reneelloyd
In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid costume—on weekends and after school. Then he began wearing them to sleep in lieu of pajamas, changing out of them after breakfast.
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9 weeks ago by mud
Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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9 weeks ago by lach
As boys grow up, the process of becoming men encourages them to shed the sort of intimate connections and emotional intelligence that add meaning to life.
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9 weeks ago by basemaly
Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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9 weeks ago by hybridsolidr
Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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9 weeks ago by leeomara
Today's masculinity is stifling
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9 weeks ago by sherenejose
Jessica Love In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. For months, he wore dresses—or his purple-and-green mermaid…
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9 weeks ago by karsh
As boys grow up, the process of becoming men encourages them to shed the sort of intimate connections and emotional intelligence that add meaning to life. In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. via Pocket
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9 weeks ago by schmitz
As boys grow up, the process of becoming men encourages them to shed the sort of intimate connections and emotional intelligence that make life meaningful. In hindsight, our son was gearing up to wear a dress to school for quite some time. via Pocket
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9 weeks ago by drewcaldwell
I wrote for about boyhood and the confines of masculinity: .
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I wrote for about boyhood and the confines of masculinity: .
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9 weeks ago by doingitwrong