The Unforgiving Minute


31 bookmarks. First posted by drewcaldwell november 2017.


John Berger famously said that “men look at women, and women watch themselves being looked at.” I’m sick of being looked at. I want to be seen. There are none so emotionally blind as those who look at a person standing right in front of them and see a mirror, not a window.
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The biggest missing piece of this picture is women’s desire. If femme and female citizens were allowed to actually articulate our own desires then we could skip a few lessons and move straight to the advanced level of learning-to-treat-women-as-people, the one where we talk about managing our feelings like grown-ups.
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What women like me want in the long term is for you to stop this shit and treat us like people.
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You’ve just arrived in this strange new country where women are human beings whose lives and feelings matter and while you find your way around, yes, it’s useful to memorise a few key phrases. May I kiss you? Ok, that’s fine. Do you like this? Do you want me? Here’s what I want; what do you want?
sex-issues  laurie-penny 
26 days ago by ENOTTY
Laurie Penny | Longreads | November 2017 | 12 minutes (3,175 words) “I’m sick of being asked to suffer so a man can grow.” – Alexandra Petri “Everyone. Fucking.…
from instapaper
6 weeks ago by dshack
You ask how the species is going to survive if we have to constantly check for consent before we get to the means of reproduction, but I promise you that the species has more pressing problems than that.
feminism 
11 weeks ago by cipherpolice
"Everyone, including the 'good guys,' knew it was happening. We just didn’t think it was all that wrong."
from twitter_favs
11 weeks ago by wasnotrice
The Unforgiving Minute (via Instapaper)
IFTTT  Instapaper 
november 2017 by laze
The so-called “revelations” about endemic male sexual aggression in Hollywood, in the media, in politics, in the tech world, and in communities large and small have not stopped, despite every conceivable effort to dismiss, discredit, shame, and belittle the survivors coming forward to demand a different world. The most uncomfortable revelation is the fact that none of this, really, was that revelatory.
november 2017 by spectrevision
Worth reading from : The Unforgiving Minute
from twitter
november 2017 by kcarruthers
"We must look at what we have done and allowed to be done to others, without flinching or making excuses."
from twitter_favs
november 2017 by Palafo
The Unforgiving Minute This is actually happening. Added November 10, 2017 at 12:39AM
Pocket 
november 2017 by np
Laurie Penny | Longreads | November 2017 | 12 minutes (3,175 words) “I’m sick of being asked to suffer so a man can grow.” – Alexis Petridis “Everyone. Fucking.…
from instapaper
november 2017 by peterjblack
Laurie Penny | Longreads | November 2017 | 12 minutes (3,175 words) “I’m sick of being asked to suffer so a man can grow.” – Alexis Petridis “Everyone. Fucking.…
from instapaper
november 2017 by zsoltika
Now, Old Dinosaurs are wondering how to negotiate with an oncoming asteroid. Current or former Stupid Young Men are in a state of panic about their imminent introduction to the concept of “consequences,” leading to the question: what, precisely, is the age when men are expected to take responsibility for their behavior?

The answer, with any luck, is “The Digital One.”
november 2017 by limeonaire
This is actually happening. via Pocket
IFTTT  Pocket 
november 2017 by kubia
This is actually happening. via Pocket
IFTTT  Pocket  instapaper 
november 2017 by drewcaldwell