Reading Readiness, It Has To Do With The Body
In order for children to read, write and spell they must be developmentally ready. Some are ready at the age of four or five, some not for many years later. This readiness includes complex neurological pathways and kinesthetic awareness. It includes the proprioceptive sense developed through sensory receptors in the muscles, joints, and tendons: a form of maturation essential for a physical sense of self (even essential for learning how to modulate one’s voice and to hold objects carefully).
reading  motordevelopment  academics 
august 2017
The Power of Play Therapy (And 4 Ways to Encourage It)
Most therapeutic play is far less obvious than the example of the boy and the spoon, especially before children are able to talk. Usually it’s below the radar, undetectable to us. We’re left wondering what our babies might be processing, if anything. And that will remain a mystery. But since birth itself is stressful, even the youngest infants could conceivably have issues to work through. Honing our observation skills helps us detect the more subtle examples.
Play  feelings  trauma 
august 2017
Gun Play
As the executive in charge of enacting legislation, I feel it’s my responsibility to use some discretion in enforcing the ban. I’ll usually look the other way as long as the gunplay stays within a self-contained group of children and doesn’t start involving the children who would rather not be “scared” or “shot.”
play  gunplay  rules 
august 2017
6 Little Secrets of a Sleeping Baby | Science of Mom
"BabyC cried because she was tired. I responded by distracting her with bounces until she was lulled to sleep. I now realize that what she needed was to be heard, not hushed. I am not suggesting that we should ignore babies’ cries – not at all – but simply that we be thoughtful about responding in a non-intrusive way that is consistent with how we want the baby to eventually learn to sleep. In reality, this may be just a small shift in our actions, but it is a huge shift in our intention, and it actually requires greater attention to our babies. I believe that this simple shift in thinking may have prevented the sleep problems we found down the road."
sleep  newborns  ScienceofMom 
march 2014
Random Thoughts On “Beyond Bottles And Breasts” (My Previous Post) | Janet Lansbury
"I believe the idea that babies are best comforted by keeping a nipple (of any kind) in their mouths is a misconception that can make breastfeeding needlessly daunting. We are all so afraid of the tears. I agree they go straight to the heart and are impossible to hear, but how is a baby ever going feel comfortable with his feelings if his parents aren’t?"
JanetLansbury  feeding  crying  emotions  play 
december 2013
Beyond Bottles And Breasts – The Key To Whole Baby Nourishment | Janet Lansbury
"Take a break from the phone, TV, computer and other distractions and let your child know that when he is in your arms he is worthy of your full attention. Take the opportunity to nourish your baby physically, emotionally and spiritually while you feed. Several minutes spent in communion with each other every day (bottle or breast) is more satiating, more vital to a baby’s well-being than hours and hours of nursing (or dry sucking) with a disconnected, multi-tasking parent."
JanetLansbury  feeding 
december 2013
Parenting To Prevent Childhood Obesity (Guest Post by Kiyah Duffey) | Janet Lansbury
"Healthy self-regulation is key to healthy eating habits in children. Certain types of behavioral feeding practices, which are often closely linked to parenting style, have been shown to diminish a child’s ability to self-regulate food intake. Over time, this inability to self-regulate (to listen to internal cues of hunger and satiety) can lead to overeating, eating in the absence of hunger, and ultimately to health consequences like overweight and obesity: parents’ short term food goals end up having lasting and negative consequences down the road."
JanetLansbury  feeding 
december 2013
RIE Parenting Basics (9 Ways to Put Respect into Action) | Janet Lansbury
"RIE parenting could be summed up as an awareness of our babies. We perceive and acknowledge them to be unique, separate people. We enhance our awareness by observing them — allowing them the bit of space they need to show us who they are and what they need." "We learn to differentiate our children’s signals from our own projections. We become more aware of the habits we create (like sitting babies up or jiggling them to sleep), habits that can then become our child’s needs. These are artificially created needs rather than organic ones. In short, RIE parenting asks us to use our minds as well as our instinct, to look and listen closely and carefully before we respond."
JanetLansbury  respect  emotions  RIEBasics 
december 2013
There’s A Person On Your Breast – Don’t Take The Intimacy Out Of Breastfeeding | Janet Lansbury
"Our baby is new to the world, and every moment we spend touching and holding him is a lesson about intimacy, about what it means to be in a relationship with another. We don’t have to be a perfect parent — stuff happens, and we can’t always be attentive while we feed our baby. We just have to perceive our baby as a person, a partner, and have the good intention to include him whether it works out each time or not. That might mean acknowledging, “I’m sorry, I’m so tired that I’m going to close my eyes while you drink, but I love you.” Or, “It’s loud and distracting here, I know. “ Or even, “Just let me accept this friend request and I’ll be right back with you.”"
emotions  feeding  JanetLansbury 
december 2013
Breastfeeding For Comfort (The All-Night Diner) | Janet Lansbury
"Actually, helping our child change habits of any kind is usually much easier than we imagine it will be, once we are sure that the change is best for all concerned. But if we (our child’s leader) are tentative, uneasy or uncertain, it is much more difficult for the child to transition comfortably. Children sense our ambivalence a mile away."
JanetLansbury  feeding  sleep  crying 
december 2013
On Feeding, Vol V No 4 Fall 1984
"Offering the breast is offering food. Food is what your baby needs when hungry. But to use food as a means to soothe, to overcome tiredness, to eliminate discomfort or pain, can create unhealthy habits for a whole lifetime." "While infants vary in the amount of food they take at each feeding, the goal should be to optimally fill up the baby's stomach, allowing the baby to feel the sensation of fullness. Then, after allowing time to digest the meal, the baby will gradually begin to feel the signs of hunger again. A baby who has gotten into the habit of constant snacks will never experience real hunger nor real satiation, and may develop a constant pseudo-need to suck, and a continuous appetite for food. "
feeding  crying  respect  MagdaGerber 
december 2013
When Your 3 Year Old Grabs Toys
Janet commented, "I’ve noticed, even while answering the comments on this post, how impossible it is to generalize these situations. Each is unique and nuanced. If the child is stuck in a pattern, and it is clearly getting the better of him or her, I would intervene as you suggest and I suggest in this post. Also, with a child closer to 3 years old and older I would intervene a bit more. By then, the grabbing has usually gone beyond the experimentation and “hi, how are you I want to play with you, but don’t know how” stage into something more intentional, more about testing limits, less socially adaptive. Continual observation of the children the key to knowing what to do… because you can sense their intentions… and sometimes these intentions are along the lines of “help, stop me, I need boundaries.” Or, “please get me out of this pattern of upsetting my friends.” "
sharing  socialdevelopment  JanetLansbury  toddlers 
october 2013
Dear Moms: You Matter Too! Enough of Martyrhood Mothering
"By showing your children that you need your own limits to be respected, you are also showing them that they can do the same as an adult. You will, in turn, be giving them a model for healthy boundaries later in life."
LearningMotherhood  emotions  self-care 
september 2013
Don’t Fight the Feelings
"One of the most ironically counterintuitive twists of parenting is this: the more we welcome our children’s displeasure, the happier everyone in our household will be."
emotions  JanetLansbury  crying 
september 2013
7 Reasons To Calm Down About Babies Crying | Janet Lansbury
“A crying baby responds to gentleness and calmness. Respond slowly and acknowledge that she is crying by saying, “You’re crying. What’s the matter?” Next, make sure that her basic needs are taken care of. Be sure your baby is fed and warm. Some babies are more sensitive to a wet diaper than others, so check that. If she is neither hungry nor tired and seems to have no other pressing need, observe her to discover the possible source of any other discomfort. Tell her you’re trying to understand what she wants. This is the start of lifelong, honest communication.” – Gerber
emotions  JanetLansbury  crying 
september 2013
The Most Confusing Word in the English Language
"I don't know why we insist on children saying please as soon as they start talking. This would be analogous to us expecting kids to hold the door open for people behind them, as soon as they started walking. But we don't expect that. We understand that young children don't have the level of awareness it takes to remember to hold doors open for others...Some adults I know never say please, some say it excessively. I am friends with both kinds of people, and it doesn't make much of a difference to me. If you think please is such a great word, try using it more and expecting it less. Maybe our children will grow up to be a people who say always say please, and maybe not. So the next time a child asks you for something, please give this a try: just happily grant the request, and see how nice it feels. Try to remember how confusing it is for a child to properly use social conventions."
demandeuphoria  manners  respect 
august 2013
Hi, Bye And Thank You | Janet Lansbury
"A child imitates the adults in his life, so parents teach best by modeling the manners they want the child to learn, then trusting the child to incorporate those responses into his social repertoire when he is ready...Even when we have modeled graciousness for a child, we must still find the patience to wait for him to find his own motivation to show gratitude. If we force him to mimic good manners, the child may begin to perform for approval only and not as an expression of his genuine feelings. Ultimately, we want our children to understand the words and greetings they are using. Realistically, most children cannot be expected to say “Thank you” (and mean it) until they are at least 4 or 5 years old."
JanetLansbury  manners  respect 
august 2013
Giving Your Children The Brush Off | Janet Lansbury
It always jars me when a child is hurt -- on the playground, in a soccer game, or just horsing around -- and when he tearfully staggers towards his parents, he
emotions  JanetLansbury  respect 
august 2013
5 Benefits of Sportscasting Your Child’s Struggles | Janet Lansbury
"Sportscasters don’t judge, fix, shame, blame or get emotionally involved. They just keep children safe, observe and state what they see, affording children the open space they need to continue struggling until they either solve the problem or decide to let go and move on to something else."
sharing  struggle  JanetLansbury  sportscasting 
july 2013
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