How to master your life - Leading a better life - Quora
"Being successful at The Sims is very easy. It’s just like real life, **except without a barrier between what you decide and what you do.**"

Say you want to get fit.

In the Sims, you immediately buy whatever lame fitness equipment you can afford. If you can’t afford anything, go run in the park. Each day you tell your Sim to spend a spare minute exercising, and although progress is slow, you see their bars slowly inch up. Success is guaranteed.

In real life you think about getting fit. You’re not sure what to buy. Can you really afford the ‘right’ equipment? You read reviews. Do you have enough time? You ask questions on Quora. Maybe you buy something. You don’t know how to use it. Maybe you use it a couple times. You don’t see any results. You talk and think and share and do anything but exercise.

The first lesson from The Sims is good decisions require little thought. To get fit: exercise. To be smarter: read. To eat healthier: cook. Such mechanics are elementary to a child playing the game, but when leading your own life, your mischievous mind paralyses you with too much thinking. Stop holding out for perfect decisions. Pick. Act.

You can solve half the hassles of humanity this way. “I like this girl, how do I get her to like me?” Just click on her, and pick something.

“But what do I say?” Anything moves you closer to your goal. Pick something. “But she might not like me!” Right now, she doesn’t even know you. Fix that. Pick something.

The second lesson from The Sims is to nurture your state.

If your Sim is tired, desperate for company or wetting themselves, they won’t get much done. A decent player keeps an eye on these bars and never lets them slide too far; the exceptional player builds a life that takes care of them automatically.

And so it is in real life. If you’ve found yourself having a crappy pointless argument, chances are you were a bad mix of tired, stressed, or hungry at the time. If you want to be your wittiest, smartest, and most resilient, you’d better take consistently good care of yourself. The best way to be consistently awesome is to be in a consistently good state.

The third lesson from The Sims is to build selected skills.

Almost every action your Sim can take makes them better at something. Some skills are easier to gain, depending on your natural strengths, but you can get impressively decent at just about anything with time.

You don't live forever though, so to get great at something means saying no to something else. You must pick, and focus. Fully developed strengths tend to make your weaknesses irrelevant. Woody Allen would not be better off if he had spent less time writing and more time at the gym.
insight  game  gaming  Sims  life  lesson  parallel  paradigm-shift  inspiration  motivation  profound 
november 2013
Oliver Emberton's answer to Self-Confidence: Why do I need self confidence? - Quora
Think of confidence as a crude instinct for guessing when you're going to succeed or fail. It’s exceedingly stupid and makes decisions based entirely on whatever comes to mind first.

Humans evolved in dark and dangerous times. An argument with your tribal leader could get you killed. Being rejected by an influential guy / girl could make you unmateable. Unchecked, your actions could end you.

Playing life too safe wasn't much better. A man who wouldn’t hunt, or farm, or build, or bring any value to his peers was unlikely to survive. As we’re all blessed with uniquely uneven skills, it makes sense to act upon our strengths and shun our weaknesses.

We evolved confidence to focus our efforts on what we’re best at.

There’s just one minor problem: life has changed a lot since 100,000 BC

In the modern western world, the survival cost of failure is zero. You can jump out of a plane, argue with the biggest beefcake in the bar and ask Mila Kunis to take you to the ball. Not only are you almost certain to live through it, Mila might even say yes.

The rewards for those who are confident today are staggering. Confidence is attractive. It breeds opportunity. It makes us stand our ground and assert our worth. Confidence in yourself is infectious – it inspires others to believe in you – and can be self fulfilling.

Yet most of us have constant crises of confidence. We fret over something as banal as disagreeing with our superiors, or talking to a stranger. Many men would rather mud-wrestle a bear than ask their dream girl out; swimming with sharks is considered less scary than public speaking.


What evolved primarily to keep us safe in an age of sabre-toothed tigers is now holding you back.

* Be social. Nothing feels better or stings harder than feedback from others. This means your successes must be witnessed. Start in private, by all means, but know that the greatest leaps in self-worth will come from victories like public speaking, dancing in a crowd, or kissing the girl. You can’t do that staying at home or in your head.

* Effort trumps all. The wonderful thing about trying hard is it almost always succeeds, eventually. I’m not a natural runner, but if I try hard enough, I will accomplish something through sheer force of will, and that breeds self-worth.
=== In the absence of confidence, work your ass off. ===

* Resilience. The most important thing is how you handle knocks. They are inevitable. They will make you feel like crap. But the more longer you linger on them, the further your confidence will tumble. Counter swiftly: try again, try something else, but never dwell.

The greatest confidence in life is won, not given. Ultimately, having confidence is the difference between doing what you want, and doing what you’re told. Without confidence, we condemn ourselves to a life in servitude of those who have it.
confidence  inspiration  motivation  Oliver  Emberton  Quora 
november 2013
The Best Kept Secret to Highly Successful Couples | Emma Seppala, Ph.D
There are three types of people: givers, takers and matchers (who keep track of the give and take). Oh wow.

As a giver, seek another giver, and be aware and don't get taken advantage of.
relationship  personality  style  romantic  long  term 
november 2013
History of Religion
Map of expansion of religions, from Hinduism to Judaism
religion  history  map  world 
november 2013
Men With Attractive Wives Report Higher Levels Of Marital Satisfaction, New Study Finds
"partner physical attractiveness played a larger role in predicting husbands’ marital satisfaction than it did in predicting wives’ marital satisfaction."

Interestingly, the attractive wives also reported higher levels of satisfaction, all because having a happy hubby made them happier too.
marriage  long  term  relationship  attractiveness  attraction  wife 
november 2013
Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch — The Good Men Project
American men, in an attempt to avoid any possible hint of committing unwanted sexual touch, are foregoing gentle platonic touch in their lives. I’ll call it touch isolation. Homophobic social stigmas, the long-standing challenges of rampant sexual abuse, and a society steeped in a generations old puritanical mistrust of physical pleasure have created an isolating trap in which American men can go for days or weeks at a time without touching another human being. The implications of touch isolation for men’s health and happiness are huge.

The lack of touch in men’s lives results in a higher likelihood of depression, alcoholism, mental and physical illness. Put simply, touch isolation is making men’s lives less healthy and more lonely.
men  male  touch  USA  America  culture  homophobia 
november 2013
Richard Feynman’s Letter to His Departed Wife: “You, Dead, Are So Much Better Than Anyone Else Alive” (1946) | Open Culture
[[Richard and Arline were soul mates. They were not clones of each other, but symbiotic opposites – each completed the other. Arline admired Richard’s obvious scientific brilliance, and Richard clearly adored the fact that she loved and understood things he could barely appreciate at the time. But what they shared, most of all, was a love of life and a spirit of adventure.

During their years together, Richard and Arline exchanged frequent letters, many now collected in the volume, Perfectly Reasonable Deviations from the Beaten Track. But none is more poignant than the one written to Arline sixteen months after her death. Still despairing, still lost, Feynman wrote a cathartic letter that was sealed and never opened until his own death in 1988. Deeply touching, it reads as follows:

October 17, 1946


I adore you, sweetheart.

I know how much you like to hear that — but I don’t only write it because you like it — I write it because it makes me warm all over inside to write it to you.

It is such a terribly long time since I last wrote to you — almost two years but I know you’ll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing.

But now I know my darling wife that it is right to do what I have delayed in doing, and that I have done so much in the past. I want to tell you I love you. I want to love you. I always will love you.

I find it hard to understand in my mind what it means to love you after you are dead — but I still want to comfort and take care of you — and I want you to love me and care for me. I want to have problems to discuss with you — I want to do little projects with you. I never thought until just now that we can do that. What should we do. We started to learn to make clothes together — or learn Chinese — or getting a movie projector. Can’t I do something now? No. I am alone without you and you were the “idea-woman” and general instigator of all our wild adventures.

When you were sick you worried because you could not give me something that you wanted to and thought I needed. You needn’t have worried. Just as I told you then there was no real need because I loved you in so many ways so much. And now it is clearly even more true — you can give me nothing now yet I love you so that you stand in my way of loving anyone else — but I want you to stand there. You, dead, are so much better than anyone else alive.

I know you will assure me that I am foolish and that you want me to have full happiness and don’t want to be in my way. I’ll bet you are surprised that I don’t even have a girlfriend (except you, sweetheart) after two years. But you can’t help it, darling, nor can I — I don’t understand it, for I have met many girls and very nice ones and I don’t want to remain alone — but in two or three meetings they all seem ashes. You only are left to me. You are real.

My darling wife, I do adore you.

I love my wife. My wife is dead.


PS Please excuse my not mailing this — but I don’t know your new address.]]
Richard  Feynman  love  letter  deceased  wife  touching  emotion 
november 2013
Une Bobine, the Strong and Flexible Smartphone Data/Charging Cable
Une Bobine is the only cable that is actually useful when unplugged on the other end. Some unique uses: keeps your smartphone stationary so that you can take stable photos and video recordings holds up your phone so you don’t have to when watching movies/video chatting stands your phone up in the kitchen so that you can view your recipes without getting your phone dirty holds your phone in any position in a car for GPS/map viewing or speakerphone calls -

See more at: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/fusechicken/une-bobine-for-people-who-love-iphone
2buy  cool  microUSB  smartphone  charging  cable  stand  wotsit 
november 2013
Marina Bay Sands - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
[[the world's most expensive standalone casino property at S$8 billion, including cost of the prime land.

With the casino complete, the resort features a 2,561-room hotel, a 1,300,000-square-foot (120,000 m2) convention-exhibition centre, the 800,000-square-foot (74,000 m2) The Shoppes at Marina Bay Sands mall, a museum, two large theatres, seven celebrity chef restaurants, two floating Crystal Pavilions, an ice skating rink, and the world's largest atrium casino with almost 500 tables and over 2,500 slot machines. The complex is topped by a 340m-long SkyPark with a capacity of 3,900 people and a 150m infinity swimming pool, set on top of the world's largest public cantilevered platform, which overhangs the north tower by 67m.]]

The popular top view image,
is is an artist's impression but the top structure is real:
travel  cool  awesome  visual  stunning  omg  Marina  Bay  Sands  Singapore 
november 2013
Want to Live Longer? Don't Try Caloric Restriction | TIME.com
Doesn't work in humans and large primates, according to a study by Rafael de Cabo at the National Institute of Aging.

Apparently contradicted in 2014 - http://www.nature.com/ncomms/2014/140401/ncomms4557/full/ncomms4557.html
against  calorie  restriction  aging  debate  study  monkeys 
november 2013
The Morning Glory Pool at Yellowstone National Park - a rainbow wonder - Second Globe: amazing places and amazing people
"The Morning Glory Pool is a hot spring that is one of the more famous sites at the park. It is known for its vibrant color."
cool  travel  visual  stunning  Yellowstone  USA 
november 2013
Consistent bed time and wake time linked to healthier weight
Correlation only. Study on college-aged women. "Those with the best sleeping habits had healthier weights"

"Those who slept between 8 and 8.5 hours per night had the lowest body fat."
sleep  wake  time  body  fat  study  correlation 
november 2013
Packaging Existing Libraries for Meteor
How to package 3rd party libraries for Meteor.
meteor  external  library  package  howto 
november 2013
27 Surreal Places To Visit Before You Die
Glowworm Caves in Waitomo, New Zealand
The Great Blue Hole in Belize
Mendenhall Ice Caves of Juneau in Alaska, United States
Sea of Stars on Vaadhoo Island in the Maldives
Trolltunga in Hordaland, Norway
Whitehaven Beach at Whitsunday Island in Australia (sand doesn't retain heat!)
Marble Caves at General Carrera Lake in Patagonia (Argentina and Chile)
Salar De Uyuni in the Potosí and Oruro departments of southwest Bolivia
Enchanted Well at Chapada Diamantina in Bahia, Brazil
tourism  travel  stunning  surreal  visual  cool 
november 2013
Ghirardelli Square Events
Chocolate Festival (mid Sep)
Tree Lighting Ceremony (Fri Nov 29, 2013)
Light the Menorah (Wed Nov 27, 2013)
Ghirardelli Goes Green (Earth Day, April 20, 2013)
Fleet Weekend (Blue Angels Air Show, Oct 10-12, 2014)
Uncorked! Wine Festival (mid May) - http://www.sresproductions.com/uncorked.html

Music calendar at http://www.ghirardellisq.com/visitor-info
San  Francisco  events  chocolate  wine  tasting  Bay  Area 
november 2013
Sausalito - Heath Ceramics Factory Tour
Friday 11:15 AM
Saturday & Sunday: 11:45 AM, 2:30 PM
ceramics  factory  tour  Sausalito  San  Francisco  Bay  Area  travel  tourism 
november 2013
Episode 425: An FBI Hostage Negotiator Buys A Car : Planet Money : NPR
0. Consider the BATNA - Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement.

1. Nibbling: agree to the basic deal, then ask for extras that the other party doesn't really care about. Example: offer to be bumped by an airline for a voucher, then ask to be put in first class for the next flight, be offered a hotel room, transportation to and back, and meal vouchers, justifying each ask.

2. Expanding the pie: realize you're negotiating on more than just one thing. Classic example: salary, plus benefits: vacation, use of the company car, insurance etc. Picturesque example: woman tries to buy pumpkins from an African villager, who only offers two of the four, no matter the price. Turns out she needed the other two for seeds. The negotiator wants to make pumpkin pie, doesn't care about the seeds, and simply offers to cut the pumpkin on the spot, extract the seeds and give them to the villager.

3. Be really nice and appeal to emotions. Example: Go to the car dealership on Friday afternoon, when salesmen are tired at the end of the week.
Buyer: I really love this car, the color is beautiful, here is my offer. [You have to make the seller mad, but not so mad that they walk away]
Seller: That's way too low etc. [walks out of the room, comes back with a counter-offer]
Buyer: You know, this car is worth all the money you're asking for it, I really love it, but I just can't pay any more than my initial offer.

Etc. Repeat until you get your price. THEN, ask them to give you until Monday to make sure on this important decision. Check other dealers until Monday.

Text for 1 & 3 at http://www.npr.org/blogs/money/2012/12/28/168197017/what-a-former-fbi-hostage-negotiator-can-teach-us-about-the-fiscal-cliff
cool  negotiation  tips  example  audio  NPR  buy  car 
november 2013
Sexual Thoughts, Sex Drive, and the Pill | Psychology Today
[[It has been known for some time that hormonal contraceptives lower free testosterone in the body, and the most common cause of lowered testosterone in women is the use of hormonal contraceptives.

There was a significant correlation between changes in testosterone levels, the frequency of sexual thoughts, and the number of times women felt sexually aroused. For the most part, women on oral contraceptives experienced falling testosterone and libido. They didn’t always notice it, but their partners did.

Hormonal contraceptives may also impact a woman’s attraction to her partner. Watching a video depicting an attractive man was shown to increase testosterone only in women not using hormonal contraceptives. Another study examined the effects of hormones on sexual thoughts. Women were told to write about a sexual situation, imagining their ideal partner. It was found that these sexual thoughts increased testosterone in women — unless they were taking hormonal contraceptives.

It's important to keep in mind that not all women using hormonal contraceptives will expeience problems, even if testosterone levels fall. Many women have no loss of sex drive and some even experience an increase.

One commonsense solution for women experiencing these side effects would be to simply stop taking the Pill. However, it is not clear how long it takes for the hormone balance to return to normal as many women continue to show indications of lowered testosterone months after discontinuation (Panzer et al., 2006).]]
oral  contraceptive  birth  control  pill  hormone  testosterone  low  women  libido  sex  desire  drive  attraction 
november 2013
Lybrido for Female Sexual Dysfunction / Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder
http://clinicaltrials.gov/show/NCT01432665 completed in July 2013. No results posted as of Nov 2013.

[[Lybrido (working title) has been developed for patients with HSDD and a relatively insensitive system for sexual cues.

Lybridos (working title) has been developed for women with HSDD and maladaptive sexual inhibitory mechanisms.

Both drug candidates can be taken ‘on demand’ and help to increase central sexual motivation (libido) about 3 to 6 hours after intake.

Moreover, we have developed an algorithm (simple, practical and useable), partly based on genetics, by which a differentiation can be made between Lybrido and Lybridos responders.]]
female  women  sex  drive  desire  libido  drug  increase  pill  clinical  trial 
november 2013
Myths About Low Sexual Desire | Psychology Today
"In relationships, sex isn't just the icing on the cake. It is the cake."

"low sexual desire in women is rarely the result of physiological causes. In most cases, the problem stems from how she feels about herself, her partner, and her relationship."

Myth #2: Emotional intimacy guarantees a good sex life.
The solution is to give yourself permission to be playful, to take risks, to be less emotionally intimate and more sexy. For many people, a far greater turn-on than emotional intimacy is feeling desired. "The secret is to forget about doing what you think is normal, and instead embrace whatever it is that makes you feel fun and young and sexy," says Hall. "Feeling desired is a prelude to feeling desire."

Michelle Weiner-Davis book, The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple's Guide To Boosting Their Marriage Libido

When people get married, they negotiate where to live, when to have kids, careers etc. but ignore their sex life. "That's an oversight because sex is the tie that binds,"

People have different "love languages," she explains. For some people, touch makes them feel loved; for others it's meaningful conversations, or how much time you spend together. "But if you're married to someone whose love language is touch, you can buy them expensive gifts or take them on vacations or say I love you until the cows come home, but it won't matter because it won't mean love,"

Myth #4: Couples should deal with emotional problems before sexual problems.
"When couples start touching again, they feel closer to each other, which puts them more emotionally on the same page and makes it easier to resolve other differences."
fix  relationship  marriage  problems  low  sex  drive  libido  love  language 
november 2013
The 11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs a Man | JustMyTypeMag
[[A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life).  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.
A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.]]
difference  men  boys  dating  relationship  man  boy 
november 2013
The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman | JustMyTypeMag
[[1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.

4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.

6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.

7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

8. A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with. “A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah

9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. “After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah

10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available…

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.]]
girl  woman  difference  dating  relationship  romance 
november 2013
Why does the Bay Area appear to have so few physically attractive women? - Quora
Skewed gender ratio. The attractive women go to NY or LA for industries that value attractiveness (acting, fashion, media). Large contingent of hippies. Men must work hard -> little time for dating. Public transit sucks, outside of SF. The Bay Area style is way more casual than NYC.

Tech industry attracts few women, and men who complain about dating are in tech. American Apparel or the like attracts more beautiful women.

Women don't need to be attractive, because they face little competition. Brainiac girls weren't taught the hacks of beauty.
against  Silicon  Valley  Silicon_Valley  women  dating  attractive  gender  ratio 
november 2013
Silicon Valley: What is it like being a single girl in Silicon Valley? - Quora
Why single women in Silicon Valley have a hard time finding a suitable date: "The odds are good, but the goods are odd."
Silicon  Valley  Silicon_Valley  women  dating  Quora 
november 2013
The Perfect Man
The Perfect Man

A man walks out to the street and catches a taxi just going by. He gets into the taxi, and the cabbie says, "Perfect timing, Mister! You're just like Frank."

Passenger: "Who?"
Cabbie: "Frank Feldman. He's a guy who did everything right all the time. Like my coming along when you needed a cab, things happened like that to Frank Feldman every single time."

Passenger: "There are always a few clouds over everybody."

Cabbie: "Not Frank Feldman. He was a terrific athlete. He could have won the Grand-Slam at tennis. He could golf with the pros. He sang like an opera baritone and danced like a Broadway star and you should have heard him play the piano. He was an amazing guy."

Passenger: "Sounds like he was something really special."

Cabbie: "There's more! He had a memory like a computer. He remembered everybody"s birthday. He knew all about wine, which foods to order and which fork to eat them with. He could fix anything. Not like me. I change a fuse, and the whole street blacks out. But Frank Feldman, he could do everything right."

Passenger: "Wow, some guy then."

Cabbie: "He always knew the quickest way to go in traffic and avoid traffic jams. Not like me, I always seem to get stuck in them. But Frank, he never made a mistake, and he really knew how to treat a woman and make her feel good. He would never answer her back even if she was in the wrong; and his clothing was always immaculate, shoes highly polished too -- He was the perfect man! He never made a mistake. No one could ever measure up to Frank Feldman."

Passenger: "An amazing fellow. How did you meet him?"

Cabbie: "Well, I never actually met Frank. He died and I married his damned widow."
humor  perfect  man 
november 2013
NSA infiltrates links to Yahoo, Google data centers worldwide, Snowden documents say - The Washington Post
NSA taps into the traffic between Google data centers, which isn't encrypted :)

"For the data centers to operate effectively, they synchronize large volumes of information about account holders. Yahoo’s internal network, for example, sometimes transmits entire e-mail archives — years of messages and attachments — from one data center to another.

Tapping the Google and Yahoo clouds allows the NSA to intercept communications in real time and to take “a retrospective look at target activity,” according to one internal NSA document."

Google said they'll encrypt the data links.

Bitcoin developer and Google employee Mike Hear joined another Googler in saying FUCK YOU:
NSA  GCHQ  intercept  fiber  Google  Yahoo!  USA  surveillance  state  1984 
november 2013
Smooth operators: why phone companies don't fight the NSA | The Verge
"By the nature of the industry, the companies are constantly asking for favors from government agencies. The result is that making enemies in Washington is much more troubling than a few angry customers."
USA  surveillance  state  telecom  companies  cell  phone  operators  NSA 
november 2013
Almost half of American women fear becoming bag ladies, study says - latimes.com
Allianz Life Insurance Company of North America poll on 2200 women 27-75yo:

60% women describe themselves as the primary breadwinners in their households
54% manage the family finances
57% said they have more earning power than ever
42% said financially independent women intimidate men and risk ending up alone. 31% said those women are hard to relate to and don't have many friends.

Even so, 49% fear becoming homeless

27% of women earning more than $200,000/yr fear homelessness

Such concerns were most pronounced among single women (56%), divorcees (54%) and widows (47%). But even 43% of married women harbor such fears, according to the study.
women  earning  power  USA  poll  survey  homeless 
november 2013
In Hookups, Inequality Still Reigns - NYTimes.com
Women twice as likely to reach orgasm in serious relationships as in hookups.

"Study of 24,000 students at 21 colleges over five years found that about 40% of women had an orgasm during their last hookup involving intercourse, while 80% of men did." In serious relationships, 75% of the women had orgasm.

"young men surveyed in Dr. England’s study often admitted that they are less focused on sexually pleasing a woman they are seeing casually than one they are dating"

Some women are just happy to share intimacy, spend the night with someone if they don't want to be alone, even if sex is lackluster, or feel empowered that they can please a man.
hookup  casual  sex  women  want  orgasm  relationship 
november 2013
Love's all in the brain: fMRI study shows strong, lateralized reward, not sex, drive
"studies indicate that some 40% of people who are rejected in love slip into clinical depression"
romantic  love  breakup  depression  study 
november 2013
▶ Total Eclipse of the Heart Literal Video Version - YouTube
YouTube has repeatedly banned literal videos, despite copyright law allowing parodies. Check http://www.funnyordie.com/dascottjr for altneratives.
fun  humor  spoof  parody  literal  video  Bonnie  Tyler  Total  Eclipse 
november 2013
medical science - Can one be knocked down in one hit, movie style? - Skeptics Stack Exchange
Not really. Knock outs cause brain damage if they last for more than a few seconds.
movies  skeptic  knock  out  blow 
november 2013
Fortress House Would be Perfect for the Zombie Apocalypse
"The house actually is covered in windows, but can be made into a fortress."

Mirror at http://archive.is/IOlyp
cool  architecture  fortress  house 
november 2013
What You Need to Know About Getting Magnetic Finger Implants
"The implant would allow you to sense magnetic fields, pick up tiny metal objects, and determine whether metals are ferrous. It's also useful for people who work with electronics. You’d be able to feel the live wires versus the dead wires. The magnet would also enable you to feel the security gates you pass through when entering some stores. They can also be used to detect large electric motors when they start up and shut down — for example, motors in the fridge, or in streetcars."
magnetic  finger  implant  biohacking  transhumanism  sensory  augmentation 
november 2013
A Bio-Patch Regrows Bone Inside the Body : Discovery News
Regenerating bone by sending bone-producing instructions directly into cells using microscopic particles embedded with DNA. Nonviral-based gene-delivery system for treating bone loss.

"The study is novel in that the researchers directly delivered bone-producing instructions (using piece of DNA that encodes for a platelet-derived growth factor called PDGF-B) to existing bone cells in vivo, allowing those cells to produce the proteins that led to more bone production. Previous attempts had relied on repeated applications from the outside, which is costly, intensive, and harder to replicate consistently."

”If you deliver just the protein, you have keep delivering it with continuous injections to maintain the dose. With our method, you get local, sustained expression over a prolonged period of time without having to give continued doses of protein.”

"The plasmid-seeded bio patch grew 44-times more bone and soft tissue in the affected area than with the scaffold alone, and was 14-fold higher than the affected area with no manipulation."

Researchers' statement: http://now.uiowa.edu/2013/10/bio-patch-can-regrow-bone
Study: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0142961213012519
bone  generate  generation  regeneration  osteogenesis  cure  loss  DNA  plasmid  biomaterials  transhumanism 
november 2013
A Bio-Patch Regrows Bone Inside the Body : Discovery News
Regenerating bone by sending bone-producing instructions directly into cells using microscopic particles embedded with DNA. Nonviral-based gene-delivery system for treating bone loss.

"The study is novel in that the researchers directly delivered bone-producing instructions (using piece of DNA that encodes for a platelet-derived growth factor called PDGF-B) to existing bone cells in vivo, allowing those cells to produce the proteins that led to more bone production. Previous attempts had relied on repeated applications from the outside, which is costly, intensive, and harder to replicate consistently."

”If you deliver just the protein, you have keep delivering it with continuous injections to maintain the dose. With our method, you get local, sustained expression over a prolonged period of time without having to give continued doses of protein.”

"The plasmid-seeded bio patch grew 44-times more bone and soft tissue in the affected area than with the scaffold alone, and was 14-fold higher than the affected area with no manipulation."
bone  generate  generation  regeneration  osteogenesis  cure  loss  DNA  plasmid 
november 2013
Africa from the air: Martin Harvey's aerial photos of landscapes and wildlife - Telegraph
[[An aerial view of Nabiyotum Crater in Lake Turkana - the world's largest desert lake and the world's largest alkaline lake - in the Great Rift Valley in Kenya. Photographer Martin Harvey said: "These photographs were taken while accompanying clients on exclusive helicopter safaris in Namibia, Botswana and Kenya. I take top business people and entrepreneurs.]]
cool  travel  tourism 
november 2013
Bitcoin's role in the future of micropayments - CoinDesk
"Small businesses in the US like to require that customers make at least a $10 transaction on a credit or debit card. That’s because some processors charge more for smaller transactions in order to make money on every purchase."
bitcoin  advantage  micropayments 
november 2013
My bank account's got robbed by European Commission. Over 700k is lost.
"The most of circulating assets on our business Current Account are blocked.
Over 700k of expropriated money will be used to repay country's debt. Probably we will get back about 20% of this amount in 6-7 years.

I'm not Russian oligarch, but just European medium size IT business. Thousands of other companies around Cyprus have the same situation.

The business is definitely ruined, all Cypriot workers to be fired.
We are moving to small Caribbean country where authorities have more respect to people's assets. Also we are thinking about using Bitcoin to pay wages and for payments between our partners."
Bitcoin  pro  Cyprus  bank  account  frozen 
november 2013
How Everyday Ergonomics Shape Your Behavior | Co.Design | business + design
Test participants at wider workplaces were more likely to cheat on their answers.

"Participants in a spacious car simulator were more likely to hit-and-run during a lab game (despite explicit instructions to stop after a crash), and cars with big driver's seats were more likely than those with small ones to be double-parked on Manhattan streets (even controlling for car length)."
embodied  cognition  posture  ergonomics  psychology 
november 2013
Penis size interacts with body shape and height to influence male attractiveness
"Positive linear selection was detected for penis size, but the marginal increase in attractiveness eventually declined with greater penis size (i.e., quadratic selection). Penis size had a stronger effect on attractiveness in taller men than in shorter men.

There was a similar increase in the positive effect of penis size on attractiveness with a more masculine body shape (i.e., greater shoulder-to-hip ratio).

Surprisingly, larger penis size and greater height had almost equivalent positive effects on male attractiveness."
size  matters  penis  cock  dick  women  want  attraction 
november 2013
People Seem More Attractive in a Group Than They Do Apart - Association for Psychological Science
"Cheerleader effect" confirmed: small (2%) bump in perceived attractiveness if target is in a group, due to automatic averaging of faces that the brain does, which smooths out idiosyncrasies (the average face is more attractive than particular faces, which can go either way).

For best results, pick someone with complementary features (e.g. wide eyes if yours are narrow.

Study on 130 undergrads shown pictures of 100 people.

Original study at http://pss.sagepub.com/content/early/2013/10/25/0956797613497969.abstract
attraction  attractiveness  visual  study  cheerleader  effect  group  photo  friends  face  average 
november 2013
6 Habits of Remarkably Likable People | Inc.com
* Lose the power pose. Watch Mandela and Clinton greet.

* Pat the other person lightly on the upper arm or shoulder.

* Social Jiu Jitsu: As soon as you learn a little about someone, ask how they did it. Or why they did it. Or what they liked about it, or what they learned from it, or what you should do if you're in a similar situation.

* Don't try to win the "getting to know someone" competition. Try to lose. Be complimentary. Be impressed. Admit a failing or a weakness.

You don't have to disclose your darkest secrets. If the other person says, "We just purchased a larger facility," say, "That's awesome. I have to admit I'm jealous. We've wanted to move for a couple years but haven't been able to put together the financing. How did you pull it off?"

* Don't ask for stuff by pulling the networking card

* Close the interaction genuinely, not just with "nice to meet you": Shake hands again. Use your free hand to gently touch the other person's forearm or shoulder. Say, "I am really glad I met you." Or say, "You know, I really enjoyed talking with you." Smile: Not that insincere salesperson smile that goes with, "Have a nice day!" but a genuine, appreciative smile. Making a great first impression is important, but so is making a great last impression.
social  interaction  jiu  jitsu  networking 
november 2013
Productivity Tip: Best Way to Start, Well, Anything | Inc.com
"A great way to be significantly more productive is to start anything you're about to do with one question:

What does a wildly successful outcome for this meeting, project, conversation--whatever it might be--look like?

If you ask that question up front you co-create success: Everyone knows what you're shooting for and actively works towards making it happen."

Followed by great example of interviewing a productivity guru:

[[I had planned to interview Mike for an Inc. article, and normally I would have said something like, "I'm looking for five or six tips readers can use to be more productive."

That's fine... but it's also pretty bland. And it sets up the interview to be pretty bland. I don't sound enthusiastic, I don't sound into it, and I definitely don't sound like I'm excited to talk to Mike (which I was, but at first I did a terrible job of showing it).

I should have said, "I'd love to get five or six great tips that small business owners can use to really supercharge their day. Not just to get more done but to feel great about themselves: to feel more efficient, more effective, more in charge. I'd love to get five or six great action steps that readers will immediately be excited to try and I know you're the perfect person to supply them."

Voila! Now it's not just any old phone call. Now it's not just any other conversation, one to have and check off the calendar. I'm excited. He's excited--and flattered. Now we have a real purpose. Now, together, we're going to try to create something great.

And with that kind of start, we most likely will.]]
mindset  frame  wildly  successful  howto  start  outset 
november 2013
The Shadow Superpower - By Robert Neuwirth | Foreign Policy
OECD: half the workers in the world were working off the books in 2009, and 2/3 will do so by 2020. Total value of "System D" is $10 trillion, the second economy in the world after the US.

"A 2009 study by Deutsche Bank, suggested that people in the European countries with the largest portions of their economies that were unlicensed and unregulated -- in other words, citizens of the countries with the most robust System D -- fared better in the economic meltdown of 2008 than folks living in centrally planned and tightly regulated nations. Studies of countries throughout Latin America have shown that desperate people turned to System D to survive during the most recent financial crisis." -- http://www.dbresearch.de/PROD/DBR_INTERNET_EN-PROD/PROD0000000000252019.pdf
underground  economy  regulation  against  central  planning 
november 2013
Searching for a Mate: The Rise of the Internet as a Social Intermediary
2012. About 3000 couples.
* relationship satisfaction only marginally related to how the couple met
* 1-yr breakup rates not much influenced by how the couple met, except for meeting in church and in primary or secondary school (much lower). However, this doesn't say much, because people who me in bars, for instance, could (and probably typically do?) break up way before one year
* 17% of hetero couples met online
* 41% of same-sex couples met online

Chart of all ways of meeting a partner on page 47
relationships  dating  marriage  study  where  venue  meet  partner  online 
november 2013
Friends You Can Count On - NYTimes.com
Study on 721M FB people: 94% of the time, a user had fewer friends than their friends: 190 vs. 635. And that's necessary by math: popular friends contribute disproportionately to the average, since besides having a high number of friends, they’re also named as friends more frequently when calculating the number of friends that each person's friends has.

Application: connectors got sick with H1N1 two weeks earlier than their friends.

Thought experiment: a professor has a class of 90 students, and another of 10 seniors. What's the average class size? Not 50, but rather poll each of the students about their class size, so (90x90 + 10x10) / 100 => 82. Intuitively, most students will say that the class size is 90.
friends  friendship  paradox  math  weighted  average 
november 2013
Singular Sensations - NYTimes.com
What time is at the North Pole?
Irrelevant - you can skip from one time zone to another.

Plus some things about palm lines that's TL;DR
paradigm-shift  time  zone  North  Pole 
november 2013
A Self-Made Man - ABC News
Lesbian goes in male drag and infiltrates the world of men. Men turned out to be way more supportive of each other than expected, and struggled to cope with the role of stoic provider. Women in bars weren't really looking for a woman soul in a man's body, but rather for a stoic main.
story  woman  man  gender  identity  lesbian 
november 2013
Hispanics predicted to become majority in California in 2014 - CBS News
[[Demographers predict the number of Hispanics in the state will equal that of whites by mid-year and exceed it in early 2014 for the first time. Each group currently represents about 39 percent of the population.

Whites currently lack a majority in only two other states — Hawaii and New Mexico.

Demographers say Hispanics' share of the overall California population will continue to increase to about 41 percent by 2020, when whites will make up less than 37 percent.

By 2060, Hispanics could account for 48 percent of the state's population, with whites falling below 30 percent.]]
California  demographics  Hispanics  Mexico 
november 2013
Center for a Stateless Society » Find Your Philosophy Quiz
"Notice: The C4SS Quiz is currently not rendering results. We appreciate any comments regarding the questions and how we can improve them. We hope to have the quiz fixed soon."
philosophy  quiz  survey  find  your  politics 
november 2013
Does More Butt And Thigh Fat Make You Healthier? - ABC News
Fat stored in the stomach is harmful because "it's metabolically active", but fat in the lower regions of the body tends to be more stable.

Some more reporting (and more optimistic) at http://elitedaily.com/news/world/big-butt-healthy-butt-study-says-women-big-butts-healthier/
fat  storage  women  big  butt  ass  wide  hips 
october 2013
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