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You have less friends as you get older, and you spend more time alone, according to the data — Quartz
Hours spent in the company of children, friends, and extended family members all plateau by our mid-50s. And from the age of 40 until death, we spend an ever-increasing amount of time alone.
age  life  aging  science  research  health  friendship  relationships  marriage 
june 2017 by allaboutgeorge
Dating Games – The New Inquiry
It’s easier to talk to someone at a series of shows and parties and only gradually start to spend time with them on purpose, and then still not admit attraction until 6 am and sunrise finds both of you still sitting on their couch, talking in hushed tones across a six-inch distance. If it never happens, it’s easier to pretend there was never anything at stake. Ambiguous and indeterminate contexts leave room to negotiate and to save face.
dating  relationships  love  sex  technology  marriage  friendship 
february 2013 by allaboutgeorge
I Will Check My Phone At Dinner And You Will Deal With It
Is part of it antisocial? Sure. Can it lead to distractions if you read a work-related email that you need to respond to? Of course. But this is the way the world works now. We’re always connected and always on call. And some of us prefer it that way.
dinner  food  mobile  technology  friendship  relationships  culture  attention  presence  social 
february 2011 by allaboutgeorge
Collaboration culture in news: No room for pettiness | Knight Digital Media Center
“It suggests equivalency, collegiality. The other news outlet, they’re not in a position just yet to be breaking anybody’s rice bowl. But the attitude above me is: well, who wants to help them get there?”
journalism  media  newspapers  hyperlocal  news  social  friendship  behavior  community 
july 2010 by allaboutgeorge
SimsBlog: If Newspapers Cease to Be, There Will be Two Causes of Death
Why is social media so powerful?

Two reasons. Trust: we don’t send our friends crap to read. Relevance: we’re more likely to have common interests with our social network and therefore our links are more likely to be relevant.

Ah, trust and relevance. Sound familiar?
community  newspapers  socialmedia  socialnetworking  social  journalism  friendship  media  attention 
july 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Music - James Taylor and Carole King’s ‘Troubadour Reunion’ Tour - NYTimes.com
As reunions go, this one is less dramatic than some others from the period. While Ms. King and Mr. Taylor performed and recorded together quite a bit in the early 1970s, they were never formally a duo. They never fell out and never broke up. Most significantly — and highly uncharacteristically for those freewheeling times — they were never lovers, so there was no complicated personal history to resolve. If the tour can be said to have a message, it’s that not everything has to end — or end badly.

“It’s nice to see a man and a woman who have continually respected what they meant to each other professionally,” said Sheila Weller, the author of “Girls Like Us,” a book about Ms. King, Joni Mitchell and Carly Simon. “It’s like the people in ‘The Big Chill’: ‘I will never let you down. No matter where you are, call me and I’ll come.’ ”
friendship  music  livemusic  songwriting  1960s  1970s  women  men 
june 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Imitation Promotes Social Bonding In Primates
"It has been argued that the link between behavior matching and increases in affiliation might have played an important role in human evolution by helping to maintain harmonious relationships between individuals," the study authors wrote. "We propose that the same principle also holds for other group-living primates."
friendship  relationships  science  research  fauna  attention  reputation  social 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Straight, Single, and Sixty: The Truth About Dating After 55 | RHRealityCheck.org
Dating over fifty-five is alive and well in spite of the challenges, the heartbreak, and the silly happenings that come with age. The need for intimacy never ends.
sex  relationships  aging  love  friendship  health  1960s  dating 
august 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Well - Divorce, It Seems, Can Make You Ill - NYTimes.com
In a series of experiments, scientists at Ohio State studied the relationship between marital strife and immune response, as measured by the time it takes for a wound to heal. The researchers recruited married couples who submitted to a small suction device that left eight tiny blisters on the arm. The couples then engaged in different types of discussions — sometimes positive and supportive, at other times focused on a topic of conflict.

After a marital conflict, the wounds took a full day longer to heal. Among couples who exhibited high levels of hostility, the wound healing took two days longer than with those who showed less animosity.
marriage  health  science  divorce  communication  friendship  relationships  love  research  happiness  exercise 
august 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Merce Cunningham and John Cage, forever inseparable | Culture Monster | Los Angeles Times
The only reason this approach could work is because the dancer and composer were on the same wavelength. They understood that music and dance would come together as friends. Theirs was a deep relationship based upon trust that honored independence, which is different from separation.
music  dance  friendship  relationships  art  creativity  work  beauty  love  gay 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Adding value in the new news ecosystem « BuzzMachine
The greatest value a news organization can add to this new news ecosystem is to identify, curate, vet, and train people. Ideally, that needs to happen before the big story breaks. But it can even be done outside the country, as I saw CNN do this morning, talking with a Columbia University student from Iran, who knew who was real and was there from her network of family and friends. Of course, even if you know the people you’re listening to, it’s impossible to know whether everything they say is true unless you can verify it yourself. But that’s the point: You can’t.

[...] The larger the network of people a news organization can organize, the better shape it will be in when news breaks, the better it can filter the reports that come – whether from people in that network or in the larger network of people those people know. The more people in the network, the more who can go to the scene of news or research closer to it – the more you can ask for help.
journalism  newspapers  news  internet  twitter  social  editing  media  business  corporations  relationships  friendship  iran 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Findings - Message in What We Buy, but Nobody’s Listening - NYTimes.com
“Evolution is good at getting us to avoid death, desperation and celibacy, but it’s not that good at getting us to feel happy,” he says, calling our desire to impress strangers a quirky evolutionary byproduct of a smaller social world.

“We evolved as social primates who hardly ever encountered strangers in prehistory,” Dr. Miller says. “So we instinctively treat all strangers as if they’re potential mates or friends or enemies. But your happiness and survival today don’t depend on your relationships with strangers. It doesn’t matter whether you get a nanosecond of deference from a shopkeeper or a stranger in an airport.”
psychology  science  nytimes  marketing  books  biology  friendship  relationships  happiness  death  love  evolution  social 
may 2009 by allaboutgeorge
SFGate.com: TV, radio, Web ad revenue taking big hit
"People are increasingly wanting a strong connection with the person delivering them the news. We are talking about the Oprah-ization or the Ellen-ization of the news," Copeland said.

"There is incredible brand loyalty on these sites," Copeland said. "Facebook is great. But people don't have a loyalty to Facebook. They have a loyalty to their friends who are on Facebook."
social  facebook  tv  cable  twitter  marketing  friendship  socialnetworking  news  media  journalism  newspapers  radio  celebrity  communication  business 
may 2009 by allaboutgeorge
You're Fired—but Stay in Touch - BusinessWeek
Alumni networks follow a tenet of the knowledge economy: Personal connections transcend corporate boundaries. Already, office workers routinely Twitter and share Facebook status updates with long lists of "friends" that often include business rivals and former colleagues. With their alumni networks, corporations attempt to dissolve those boundaries themselves, establishing for each company a broad network of people who can keep in touch throughout their careers to benefit from each other's knowledge and contacts. Some companies mix alumni with current employees; others keep them apart.
jobs  work  business  corporations  twitter  facebook  friendship  economy  social 
april 2009 by allaboutgeorge
TED Interview: Tribes Author Says People, Not Ads, Build Social Networks | Epicenter from Wired.com
It's not for you to somehow beam your message to strangers and convert them, because you can't convert strangers anymore. Not one major new consumer brand built in the last five years was built on the back of advertising. Google and Facebook, etc. are built because one person brought another one by the hand, not because someone bought ads on the Super Bowl.
marketing  socialnetworking  technology  internet  social  ted  interviews  attention  reputation  google  facebok  friendship 
february 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Strangers May Cheer You Up, Study Says - NYTimes.com
“There’s kind of an emotional quiet riot that occurs and takes on a life of its own, that people themselves may be unaware of. Emotions have a collective existence — they are not just an individual phenomenon.”
sociology  nytimes  happiness  psychology  health  social  friendship  relationships  emotion  research  science 
december 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Well - More People Appear to Be Cheating on Their Spouses, Studies Find - NYTimes.com
“I see a changing landscape in which the emphasis is less on the sex than it is on the openness and intimacy and the revelation of secrets. Everybody talks by cellphone and the relationship evolves because you become increasingly distant from whomever you lie to, and you become increasingly close to whomever you tell the truth to.”
marriage  love  sex  relationships  friendship  technology  identity  ethics  communication  research  polyamory  cellphones  mobile 
october 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Why McCain can't stop saying "my friends." - By Paul Collins - Slate Magazine
"Among the wide ranks of modern presidential 'my frienders'—let us call them MF'ers for short—only Jimmy Carter and 'Silent Cal' Coolidge appear to have been determined to avoid the term. For Democrats and Republicans alike, it seems, a president who isn't a little bit of an MF'er is a once-in-a-century event."
president  language  usa  history  friendship  speech  rhetoric  democrats  republicans  mccain  politics 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Relationships and Online Social Networks: The Value of Sites Like Twitter and Plurk
"If these lifestreaming/microblogging sites help you to develop persistence in beneficial relationships, isn’t that a good enough reason to use them?"
blogging  friendship  internet  marketing  life  relationships  social  socialnetworking  statistics  technology  twitter  identity  reputation  attention  presence 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Padma Lakshmi: The anti-Martha Stewart - Los Angeles Times
"In my kitchen, things are chaotic, people talk over each other, neighbors drop in when they're not invited and friends stay way later than they should. I would call myself the imperfect hostess."
health  culture  cooking  food  social  business  marketing  friendship 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com Life | Those dirty girls
"Sexual ecstasy is not something you buy. It cannot be bought. But we have come a long way. No question. Definitely. But it's not because of 'Sex and the City.' It's because of what real women have done in real lives, not on TV sets."
sex  women  television  power  beauty  writing  diy  cable  friendship  cities  urban  feminism 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Nerve: Triangulation, by Caitlin MacRae
"Half of me wants to grow out of this, find a single, solitary person and hunker down for the long haul. The other half can't let go of that ideal, the nostalgia for the time when being the third meant being a significant other."
sex  relationships  identity  love  friendship  polyamory 
april 2008 by allaboutgeorge
On being unmarried for forty years, by Lisa Gabriele - Nerve.com
"That's why most relationships crack under pressure, I think — they're not built to fix us. We're supposed to fix them."
relationships  marriage  love  identity  friendship  alcohol  drinking  sex  religion  essay 
april 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Electrolicious» Blog Archive » How we’ve made it work
"And so now I say things like, 'I’m tired and whiny. Will you pay attention to me and pat my head and tell me it will be alright?' And he does! It works out awesome for both of us."
relationships  marriage  love  friendship  communication  happiness 
march 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Beauty and success | To those that have, shall be given | Economist.com
"It therefore makes biological sense for people to prefer beautiful friends and lovers, since the first will make good allies, and the second, good mates."
beauty  reputation  fashion  love  friendship  work  jobs  sex  sociology  aesthetics  dating  health 
january 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Macworld | Editors' Notes | Available to chat
“I'm tired of words. I want to hear people’s voices, see them in the flesh. I want to analyze their body language and look them in the eyes—like old times. I want to reconnect.” “You're a damn fool."
communication  social  technology  friendship  work  jobs  relationships  public  attention  presence  via:cecilyk 
december 2007 by allaboutgeorge
History of Single Life: Infidelity - Nerve.com
"Social capital depends on belonging to a church, which in turn depends on acting like a mensch." Got religion?
religion  sociology  social  public  yasns  behavior  relationships  marriage  love  friendship 
october 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Who Sleeps Around? Scientists Know - Yahoo! News
"A warm person might hug lots of people; a warm person might kiss lots of people. Well, maybe a warm person might sleep with lots of people."
sex  love  relationships  friendship  men  women  psychology  altruism  dating  society 
may 2007 by allaboutgeorge
NYT: Judd Apatow's Family Values
"I finally learned something maybe most people learn as a kid. If you want someone to come around to your point of view, it’s not wise to curse and then tell them they're idiots."
family  families  cinema  story  fiction  memory  creativity  friendship 
may 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com Life | My vegan friend insists I justify myself
"We are what we are. We eat what we eat. In the end, we do not become steaks or bacon or flowers. We become dust."
food  friendship  relationships  farming 
april 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Sex and Love - The Great Escape - The Tale of a Recently Separated Woman -- New York Magazine
"For me, the great, unmanageable sadness came before, and this part, the starting-again part, brings along with the obvious terror its own relief, its own pleasures."
relationships  marriage  friendship  women  men  identity 
april 2007 by allaboutgeorge
'With this ring ...' | Family and relationships | Life and Health
"Given the chance, I could make marrying a regular habit, even a way of life. Why not? California's a good place to be. And I already have the ceremony written for next time."
uk  marriage  relationships  ritual  friendship 
april 2007 by allaboutgeorge
The Wire: Taking Modern Culture by Strategy
"[I]f there is any unit of cultural intelligence, it's empathy. [...] It does have to do with how much you understand the impression you make. On other people round you. And how important that is to you."
intelligence  behavior  criticism  culture  ethics  friendship  relationships  counseling  aesthetics 
april 2007 by allaboutgeorge
George Saunders: When I am dead | Weekend | Guardian Unlimited
"I am thinking of something kind a now-dead friend once said to me. My still-beating heart is filling with quiet pride, and a commitment to do better, to do good. How did he do that, when he's dead? Funny."
death  essay  happiness  writing  relationships  friendship 
march 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Interview: AL Kennedy | Review | The Observer
'If you were around all week, I'd want to kill you. I wouldn't tell you, even: I'd just go for increasingly long walks. Having achieved the joy of your friendship, I'd find it disappointing, as I find everything I attain.'
friendship  creativity  writing  fiction  uk  interviews 
march 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Band aid - baltimoresun.com
"You got the band together. You found a practice space. You've even started writing your own songs and performing for friends and family. Now comes the hard part."
music  marketing  friendship  family  pop  rock 
march 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Pop music ignores wedded bliss, misery | Chicago Tribune
"We're not seeing so much focus on marriage because there isn't a central idea about relationships. There isn't this great narrative that everyone has tapped into. Now, there are a lot more ways of living your life that people are happy with."
sex  marriage  songwriting  relationships  friendship  pop  music  hiphop 
february 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com | Is there life after Bush?
"You use power so you can make life better; it isn't life itself. Obsessing about power or politics takes your mind away from the things that really matter."
aesthetics  2008  politics  bush  identity  power  republicans  democrats  culture  art  literature  science  religion  sports  friendship  love 
february 2007 by allaboutgeorge
NYT: They Can Play. Can They Play Nice?
“To me it’s like a Bergman movie. Nothing happens until two very violent acts. One is the bridge, two is the coda. But not a mouse stirs. It’s like a still life.” “But there might be a lion, sir.” “Yeah. That’s me.”
1980s  songwriting  aesthetic  uk  canada  vancouver  music  rock  friendship 
february 2007 by allaboutgeorge
IBA: Heartbreak warning: This is national breakup season, study says
"Listen, and be a good sounding board. Then, maybe take them to a movie to distract them and encourage them to let go."
love  relationships  men  women  jobs  work  friendship  polyamory  research  yahoo 
january 2007 by allaboutgeorge
Friends, friendsters, and top 8: Writing community into being on social network sites
"Social network sites are not digital spaces disconnected from other social venues — it is a modeling of one aspect of participants’ social worlds and that model is evaluated in other social contexts."
academia  community  culturalstudies  culture  education  environment  friendship  futurism  identity  livejournal  philosophy  psychology  reading  writing  work  web  theory  technology  sociology  social  smartmobs 
december 2006 by allaboutgeorge
Pitchfork Feature: Interview: Tom Waits
"There is no such thing as nonfiction. There is no such thing as truth. People who really know what happened aren't talking. And the people who don't have a clue, you can't shut them up."
nonfiction  fiction  music  poetry  songwriting  creativity  friendship  story  journalism  documentary  behavior  interview  pitchfork 
december 2006 by allaboutgeorge
NYT: Where Plan A Left Ahmad Chalabi
“I’ve been a friend of America, and I’ve been its enemy. America betrays its friends. It sets them up and betrays them. I’d rather be America’s enemy.”
iraq  war  middleeast  mideast  uk  usa  bush  cheney  friendship 
november 2006 by allaboutgeorge
NYT: To Be Married Means to Be Outnumbered
“You used to get married to have sex. Now one of the major reasons to get married is to have children, and the attractiveness of having children has declined for many people because of the cost.”
marriage  gender  gay  population  usa  relationships  love  men  women  identity  religion  ritual  friendship  community  children  sex 
october 2006 by allaboutgeorge
Psychology Today: Humor's Sexual Side
"Men taunt other men with clever nicknames and insults. That isn't something that women do. They don't tend to play practical jokes, or engage in humor that humiliates or puts somebody down."
marriage  friendship  comedy  culture  gender  health  humor  love  men  philosophy  psychology  relationships  science  sex  society  women 
october 2006 by allaboutgeorge
Pitchfork Feature: Column: Resonant Frequency #39
"And I found myself wishing, while it was playing, that I could be Kate Bush sitting at a piano. This, instead of playing air guitar to Page's solo on 'Stairway to Heaven.' What could it mean?"
aesthetics  popmusic  rock  teenagers  music  memory  men  children  friendship  gender  detroit  school  uk  drinking 
august 2006 by allaboutgeorge
Independent UK: Just good friends...
"Why is it that just because there's a man and a woman there needs to be a romance? I mean, not every man you meet has to be a potential suitor."
friendship  men  women  gender  poly  relationships 
january 2006 by allaboutgeorge
SFGate: Marriage can be right for us all, says Dan Savage. But let's not get carried away with monogamy.
"We don't do the straight thing, which is to regard an infidelity as a betrayal on a level that the only response is that you must leave to salvage your self-respect and self-esteem."
marriage  love  gay  men  women  relationships  friendship 
october 2005 by allaboutgeorge
CHE: 9/23/2005: Frans B.M. de Waal's "We're All Machiavellians"
"Power is all around us, continuously confirmed and contested, and perceived with great accuracy. But social scientists, politicians, and even laypeople treat it like a hot potato. We prefer to cover up underlying motives."
politics  animals  identity  altruism  psychology  social  friendship  stress  academia  education  war 
september 2005 by allaboutgeorge
NYT: Courtship Ideas of South Asians Get a U.S. Touch
"Among South Asian men and women here in their 20's and 30's, the vast majority of whom are foreign born, fewer than 10 percent marry outside their ethnic group, according to an analysis of the Census Bureau's 2003 American Community Survey [...]"
india  marriage  men  women  usa  family  friendship  love 
august 2005 by allaboutgeorge
NYT: Mysteries of the Brain Vex a Novelist and His Hero
"Shaw once said that sometimes galley slaves working at the oars formed very touching friendships, but that doesn't make the chain a useful ornament. One finds virtues in life. One turns things to one's use."
behavior  altruism  friendship 
april 2005 by allaboutgeorge

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