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BBC - Future - Why it pays to be grumpy and bad-tempered
On stage he’s a loveable, floppy-haired prince charming. Off camera – well let’s just say he needs a lot of personal space. He hates being a celebrity. He resents being an actor. To his ex-girlfriend Elizabeth Hurley's friends he was apparently known as ‘Grumpelstiltskin’.
Archive  happiness  person  psychology 
16 hours ago by leninworld
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Really interesting, shows that people's lives tend to get subjectively worse birth of child and better after a divorce (for a few years).
happiness  death  children  marriage 
2 days ago by porejide
Why More Stuff Won't Make You Happy - YouTube
After you’ve got your basics needs met getting more stuff, more money or more likes won’t make you any happier. Why is that?
happiness  minimalism  video  youtube 
3 days ago by kogakure
The Mystery Around Middle-Age Suicides - WSJ
For accomplished or well-known people, isolation can be a risk factor, she says. “Social connection is one of the biggest antidotes to suicide,” she says. “I think it can be pretty isolating to be a celebrity, where outside people may seek social opportunities rather than social connection.”
fame  happiness 
3 days ago by redlunate
Why Expressing Your Creativity Increases Your Confidence
So why exactly does expressing your creativity increase your confidence? It turns out this isn’t just based on new age artistic bullshit. It’s actually backed up by research. 

Something to look forward to

When you have a new habit or hobby, it gives you something to look forward to every day.

When I say “express your creativity”, you might be thinking that you should paint, sing, or write. But creativity can be shown through many different means. You can design an app, write code, or even make something with legos.

And the satisfaction you get from it isn’t dependent on anything external, like someone else’s approval — it’s something you do because it lights you up.

The problem with trying to find satisfaction and happiness through external means is that what’s external is largely out of your control.

You can’t control how someone feels about you. But you do have complete control over the decision to show up each day and express your creativity. It’s something that you can always count on regardless of what else is going on in your life.

Presence, flow, and happiness
When we’re feeling stuck in life, it’s almost always because we’re dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.

When I started working with Nick, I was obsessed with trying to improve my dating life. If a date went poorly, I would tell myself a dozen stories about what it meant for my future. If it went well, I’d tell myself more positive stories, but they were all still rooted in anxiety and fear of being alone. And almost nothing worked out.

A week before my 40th birthday, a woman I was seeing ended things. This spurred a dramatic shift in me. I no longer had the mental energy to focus on my dating life because I had a new book coming out. I had to redirect all my energy into writing articles like this one.

One of the byproducts of expressing your creativity on a daily basis is that you’re forced to become present. This eventually triggers what is known as a state of flow. And if you didn’t know, the euphoria from being in a state of flow is pretty much on par with sex.

Chances are you have been in a flow state before and not known it. It’s what happens when time ceases to exist, the world around you disappears, and your only concern is task at a hand. This singular focus ignites the spark that leads to remarkable achievement and performance. Once you’ve had a taste of this, your whole life changes. It’s exactly why surfers say “just catch one good wave and you’ll be hooked.”

What follows the state of flow is happiness. For the most part, we have the happiness equation backward.

We think that we’ll be happy when we get promoted, get the hot girl, become rich, etc. However, nearly all of the research shows that our happiness is what makes all of those outcomes much more likely.

It’s the most counterintuitive thing in the world, especially when it comes to your dating life.

When your own happiness becomes the filter through which you make decisions, you won’t chase women who aren’t into you and your long-term self-worth will increase.

If there’s anything that I hope will convince you to pick up a creative habit, it’s this: the greatest source of motivation for anyone is visible progress. And a creative habit gives you an opportunity to experience that on a regular basis.

For example, I write 1000 words every morning. It’s something I’ve done for five years and will do for the rest of my life. I’ve even asked a girl who spent the night to get out my chair in the morning, so I could get my writing done. But I digress.

By the time I get to the end of the week, I see that I’ve written 7000 words. Because it’s visible progress, I’m motivated to keep doing it. This one simple habit has done more than improve my confidence. It’s netted me an ROI in the high six figures.

You can apply this to anything. Let’s say you want to learn how to play an instrument. You could track your progress by attempting to practice for a certain number of days in a row. The longer you go without breaking the chain, the more motivated you become to continue.

Visible progress towards anything you find fulfilling creates an ongoing cycle of motivation. In turn, that motivation fuels your progress and they feed off each other. This is often the path to extraordinary accomplishment in every area of your life, which leads to a ripple effect.

The ripple effect of a keystone habit
One of the reasons that habits are so powerful is because they have ripple effects.

Every single thing you do has byproducts. Somebody once explained this to me using the following metaphor. Say that you have an apple tree. Well from that tree you can produce apple juice, applesauce, apple pie, and so on.

Let’s say that in my life, the apple tree is my daily writing habit.

That habit has resulted in articles like this one, books, and speeches. Eventually, it created a ripple effect that resulted in a daily reading habit that ultimately led me to consume over 100 books a year.

Say that your keystone habit is to go to the gym every day. Eventually, you’ll look better. If you look better, you’ll start to feel better. As you feel better, your self-image will improve. As your self-image improves, you’ll begin to pick up new habits.
creative-work  happiness  life-advice  srini-rao 
3 days ago by lwhlihu
Neuroscience Of Mindfulness: How To Make Your Mind Happy - Barking Up The Wrong Tree
Everybody is talking about mindfulness… but nobody seems to be able to explain clearly what the heck it really is. Ask people and you’ll hear, “Umm, be in the moment and SOMETHING SOMETHING SOMETHING, uh, meditation.” But is it merely the latest fad? Actually, no.
Archive  happiness  neuroscience  psychology 
4 days ago by leninworld
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4 days ago by cameronolivier
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5 days ago by stateless

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