Say the Hard Thing – Rands in Repose


52 bookmarks. First posted by ebv june 2018.


Favorite tweet: katemats

Say the hard thing https://t.co/4MpZxcHOii

— kate matsudaira (@katemats) July 5, 2018

http://twitter.com/katemats/status/1015016245970817024
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10 weeks ago by tswaterman
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created originate with my choice to not say the hard thing. On my short list of critical leadership skills, the ability to “say the hard thing” is right after “delegate until it hurts.” via Pocket
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june 2018 by LaptopHeaven
On my short list of critical leadership skills, the ability to “say the hard thing” is right after “delegate until it hurts.”
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june 2018 by jeffvautin
Some very practical and useful suggestions for giving and receiving candid feedback.

> Your goal in life is to make feedback in all directions no big deal. You and your team never start in this state, they earn it. They start with small spoken observations that slowly turn into more useful feedback. They watch to see if each other are listening to the feedback and eventually acting on it.3 Once everyone has seen that feedback is both shared and acted on, they begin to feel more comfortable sharing large, more complex, and harder feedback. Why? Trust.

This sentiment definitely resonated with me.

> We exacerbate the problem because we don’t want to say the hard thing because we have the same voice in our head telling them, “It would be hard for me to hear this, so I don’t want to say it.”

It’s hard to give and get candid feedback. I tend to think we all feel we are better at it than we are. Leaders particularly have to focus on this __all the time__.
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june 2018 by thingles
Rands in Repose talks about giving & receiving feedback.
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june 2018 by adamtait
"The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created originate with my choice to not say the hard thing. On my short list of critical leadership skills, the ability to “say the hard thing” is right after “delegate until it hurts.”"
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june 2018 by garrettc
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june 2018 by leonbarnard
lots of good stuff here, but I wanted to call out this body/brain forced feedback loop: "The yelling is your brain defending its poorly informed reality, but the yelling distracts you from hearing anything. It has taken years, but the moment I hear the beginning of hard feedback, I adopt the position: crossed legs, folded hands, and head slightly tilted. This is my “I am listening” position. It reminds me to listen."
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june 2018 by cwinters
Say the hard thing, hear the hard thing: https://t.co/ZEtKKog8Ql
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june 2018 by davegullett
Say the hard thing, hear the hard thing:
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june 2018 by rootman28
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created originate with my choice to not say the hard thing. On my short list of critical leadership skills, the ability to “say the hard thing” is right after “delegate until it hurts.”
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june 2018 by marshallk
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created and participated in originated or were amplified by the fact that either myself or another manager chose…
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june 2018 by flobosg
Favorite tweet:

Say the hard thing, hear the hard thing: https://t.co/ZEtKKog8Ql

— rands (@rands) June 11, 2018
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june 2018 by pberry
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created originate with my choice to not say the hard thing. On my short list of critical leadership skills, the…
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june 2018 by freeatnet
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june 2018 by stinkingpig
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created and participated in originated or were amplified by the fact that either myself or another manager chose…
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june 2018 by adamayers
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june 2018 by bowbaq
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created and participated in originated or were amplified by the fact that either myself or another manager chose to not say the hard thing. On my short list of critical leadership skills, the ability to “say the hard thing” is right after “delegate until it hurts.”
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june 2018 by timotheus
The majority of people-related disasters I’ve created and participated in originated or were amplified by the fact that either myself or another manager chose to not say the hard thing.
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june 2018 by mud
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june 2018 by ebv
Say the Hard Thing:
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june 2018 by dvanlunter