The Only Way to Keep Your Resolutions - The New York Times


31 bookmarks. First posted by aram december 2017.


Cultivate gratitude, compassion, and pride.
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january 2018 by gpe
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january 2018 by branyon
Andrew Chuani Ho New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.”…
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january 2018 by jolilius
The research on self-control shows that willpower, for all its benefits, wanes over time. As we try to make ourselves study, work, exercise or save money, the…
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january 2018 by sigul
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january 2018 by ono
He says what makes people stick to their long term goals is compassion and gratitude and pride, because these emotions lengthen your time horizon type of view. This is interesting.
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january 2018 by chrchr
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow.
january 2018 by pitiphong_p
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow.
january 2018 by AnthonyBaker
Andrew Chuani Ho New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.”…
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december 2017 by kohlmannj
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow. via Pocket
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december 2017 by domingogallardo
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow.
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december 2017 by psanwikarja
RT atmostbeautiful : 이기적 계산보다 이타적 감정이 새해 결심 지키는 데도 좋다. 자신의 굳은 의지보다 감사와 헌신의 감정에 맡겨보라. 전자는 단기 욕망과의 힘겨운 싸움이 되지만 후자는 가치를 향한 여정이 된다. 오랜 진화력을 봐도 장기적 사회적 보상 위해 희생하는 데 더 익숙하다. http://bit.ly/2CguyK1 December 30, 2017 at 10:14PM http://twitter.com/atmostbeautiful/status/947093420199223296
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december 2017 by seoulrain
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow. via Pocket
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december 2017 by arronpj
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow.
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december 2017 by WFreeland
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow. via Pocket
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december 2017 by joostw
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow. via Pocket
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december 2017 by wai2k
To keep your New Year's resolution, think about how others are counting on you to do it and will be grateful for it.
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december 2017 by brian_frank

Given self-control’s importance for success, it seems as if evolution should have provided us with a tool for it that was less excruciating to use.

I believe it did; we’re just ignoring it. That tool is our social emotions. These are the emotions — things like gratitude and compassion — that support the positive aspects of social life. For years I’ve been studying the effects of these emotions on decision-making and behavior, and I’ve found that unlike reason and willpower, they naturally incline us to be patient and persevere. When you are experiencing these emotions, self-control is no longer a battle, for they work not by squashing our desires for pleasure in the moment but by increasing how much we value the future.

For millenniums, what led to success wasn’t the ability to study for exams, save for retirement, go to the gym or wait for a second marshmallow. For most of our evolutionary history, none of these self-focused goals mattered or even existed. It’s far more likely that what led to success was strong social bonds — relationships that would encourage people to cooperate and lend support to one another, which helped to ensure that their sacrifices would be returned time and again when required in the future.
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december 2017 by aries1988
Andrew Chuani Ho New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.”…
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december 2017 by ecandino
New Year’s Eve is a time to set goals: to eat better, to save more money, to work harder, to drink less. It’s Day 1 on the road to a “new you.” But this road, as we all know, is difficult to follow. via Pocket
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december 2017 by archizoo

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