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The Year I Decided That My Voice Mattered
That changed this year. 2015 was the year that I decided that I was worth listening to. That I could be so bold as to think that someone would want to read what I wrote, that someone would care about my take. If I thought someone was worth a 1,800 word profile, I would trust that instinct and go for it. I would stop questioning myself. I would take up all the space (and try to stop apologizing for doing s0).
not-the-standout  confidence  imposter-syndrome  juliana-f-reyes  medium  journalism  writing 
november 2017 by yolandaenoch
Martin Luther King, Jr., "What Is Your Life's Blueprint?"
Barratt Junior High School in Philadelphia on October 26, 1967.

1. A deep belief in your own dignity, your own worth, and your own somebody-ness. Don't allow anybody to make you feel that you are nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth. Always feel that your life has ultimate significance.

2. Have as a basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry.
martin-luther-king-jr  confidence  black-history  black-people 
december 2016 by yolandaenoch
Lord, give me the confidence
"Lord, give me the confidence of a mediocre white man." First heard this phrase by Heben on the Another Round podcast.
t-shirts  confidence  funny  to-buy  wishlists 
december 2015 by yolandaenoch
What 2 powerful women taught us this week about telling the truth.
When you're standing up with a strong argument, it helps to know the facts and, as tedious as it may feel, educate your audience on them. >> Sometimes, it will feel like you're standing alone. >> When you're standing alone and telling the truth on behalf of people who otherwise aren't being heard, it's highly likely that those people will make sure you actually aren't alone.
confidence  kick-ass-women  elizabeth-warren  planned-parenthood  cecile-richards 
october 2015 by yolandaenoch
The Creative Benefit of Complete Ignorance - 99U
The next time you have an idea, skip over the preparation and research phase. If you are writing a Western screenplay, don’t binge watch every single Western ever made. Just start writing. By watching what has already been done, your mind will have trouble finding it’s own path to originality. >> Research is an important part of the creative process and an idea cannot go to production without it. However, when you are in the beginning phases and experiencing inspirational blocks, try skipping it. The process is there to be a guideline, not a hard and fast rule. Dive into your idea, or as Portman puts it: Dive into your obliviousness. It may turn out to be the greatest project you ever worked on. Ignorance is bliss, but it can also be a creative advantage.
natalie-portman  99u  confidence  ignorance  research 
july 2015 by yolandaenoch
VIDEO: How to use "Competence Triggers" in a salary negotiation
Competence Triggers: telltale behavioral signs of someone with high competence — who’s good at what they do — or low competence. (for salary negotiations check out Payscale.com & Salary.com)
social  skills  ramit-sethi  confidence  competence-skills 
april 2015 by yolandaenoch
10 Ways Society Can Close the Confidence Gap
What too many people are choosing to infer from books like Kay's and Shipman's, or other such as Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In, is that women's lack of confidence is all in our heads. That is not the authors' intent, but it's a popular outcome. The fact that our competence and credibility are questioned is not in our heads. It's in the workplace, in courts, in law enforcement, in doctors' offices, and in our political system. Women, even those with excessive belief in their own abilities, are expected to prove their qualifications and have more of them. We need more qualifications in order to be paid fairly and to succeed. People and institutions demand it. Managers overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. People don't trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees.
psychology  gender-bias  lean-in  confidence  women-issues 
march 2015 by yolandaenoch
5 Ways to Combat Imposters Syndrome for Women
When you don’t perceive yourself as worthy of all you’ve accomplished, you may be less likely to seize leadership opportunities, finally take the plunge and change jobs or careers, or even ask for the promotion or raise you really deserve.

“beratement bootcamp.”

She notes that you’ll probably find many of the entries at your list to be extremities. That “if you don’t know everything, you know nothing.” So be sure to get everything onto paper that you feel is holding you back from getting where you want to be so you can see they don’t hold water for yourself. Then list out the ways those things are holding you back...Once you’ve figured out the falsehoods your Impostors Syndrome makes you believe, you can start to address doing away with the lies it tells you.

The easiest way to reaffirm your self-worth is to remind yourself of all that you’ve accomplished. After a lifetime of downplaying your achievements, this may be more difficult than you think.

That means taking the time out of your busy schedule to reflect on the awesome work you’ve been doing.

Update your resume to include a big project you did at work that had a major impact, the blog post you wrote that brought in thousands of page views, or the presentation you gave at a conference. Be sure to keep track of how much of an impact your work has had on the bottom line at your company or organization.
everyday-feminism  imposter-syndrome  confidence  ally-boguhn  beratement-bootcamp  tanya-geisler 
august 2014 by yolandaenoch
Now THIS is how you DON'T write a winning application {Mike Newton}
Great post by Mike Newton on the lessons he learned about himself and why he didn't apply to Ramit's "Meet Me in NYC for Dinner Contest."
rbt  failure  confidence 
august 2014 by yolandaenoch
10 Positive Consequences of NOT Improving Yourself
You will probably be more accepting of the way people are. And by "accepting" I don’t mean that you stay in unhealthy relationships with narcissists (insane), or that you hire people purely for their potential (risky), or that you join the committee just to be a good sport (ugh). By "accept" I mean that you stop expending energy trying to change other people, which means that you will have so much more energy for LIVING your life. This calls for an "OMG!" There, I said it. OMG.
danielle-laporte  self-improvement  confidence 
july 2014 by yolandaenoch
Adultery Saturdays: It’s Not About Having The Biggest D*ck In The Room
It’s not about having the biggest dick in the room. It’s about making people think you do.
the-middle-finger-project  confidence 
may 2014 by yolandaenoch
How Can I Stop Being Afraid to Rock the Boat? — Break The Frame
Know why you’re speaking up instead of staying silent.  Some people constantly speak up because they just can’t stop themselves while others speak up because any other choice would not be honoring their values or leadership.  One feels disrespectful and ego-centric and the other is values-centric.  Which leader do you want to be?
confidence  women-issues 
may 2014 by yolandaenoch
The Art of Negotiation | Early To Rise
The 7 Core Principles for Million Dollar Negotiations by MaryEllen Tribby
early-to-rise  negotiation  confidence 
november 2011 by yolandaenoch

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