When You Share Your Mess With the Public, the Public Will Share (and Talk About and Joke About) Your Mess. Duh!
But when that self-induced adversity hits and you decide to share it with the public—whether on TV or radio or in a status message or a tweet—people might form opinions. People might have commentary. People might make jokes. People might take sides. People might decide to just not fuck with you anymore.
damon-young  very-smart-brothas  the-breakfast-club-radio  dj-envy  desus-and-mero  desus  kid-mero 
12 hours ago
Learned about this song through Franke Santos.
franke-santos  yolanda-enoch  me  music 
13 hours ago
‘Ricky Gervais: Humanity’ Netflix Review
What these comedians are demanding is that we respect their feelings while they exercise their constitutionally safeguarded prerogative to hurt other people’s feelings. That’s not a level playing field. It’s the power dynamic preferred by a playground bully, in which all the discomfort flows in one direction: away from them. They aren’t really angry about “censorship,” but instead about being reminded that other people are as human as they are, even if they refuse to recognize them as such. As my friend Jay Smooth put it recently, “The only thing more tiresome than lazy punch-down humor is all the tortured sophistry trotted out in defense of it, whenever someone deigns to critique it.” The title Humanity is ironic in ways that Gervais didn’t realize: The title tells you what’s missing.
ricky-gervais  jay-smooth  netflix  stand-up-comedy  comedy-specials  dave-chappelle  vulture  matt-zoller-seltz 
3 days ago
You Think You Want Media Literacy… Do You? – Data & Society: Points
Realizing that history is written by the winners shook me to my core. This is the power of education.
danah-boyd  media  media-literacy  education  medium 
4 days ago
Ijeoma Oluo on Louis Farrakhan & Intersectionality
If you are not confronting it, you are enabling it. You can love him and you can spend time with him and you can see and appreciate the good in him, but if you have the privilege to choose whether or not to be around him and you choose to, and you do not take that opportunity to address this you are failing both us and him. And I know this sounds unfair but what is really unfair is the fact that you feel like you get to choose when to address the bigotry that harms us at all."

We are all products of a system that fights every day in countless ways to make us play our part in the oppression of others. And in our battle to free ourselves and others from that system and from oppression, we are going to fuck it up. We are going to fall short. But that is why we have to always try to help each other when we are pulled off-course. We have to bring each other back to our values. We have to help each other do better.
jay-smooth  ijeoma-oluo  louis-farrakhan  intersectionality  oppression 
6 days ago
"Eartha Kitt, fully in her bag https://t.co/thQWhoXev4"
A man comes into my life and I have to sacrifice? *Evil laugh* For what?!?
eartha-kitt  relationships  dating  feminism 
6 days ago
How to Make, Drink, and Store Bone Broth - StrictlyDelicious
Then, on the suggestion of a fellow blogger, I tried freezing the broth in a muffin tray. This was by far the best! Each disk from the muffin tray is just under half a cup of liquid, so I can always get the exact amount I need for a recipe without having the defrost the whole bag. And in just a few runs I can freeze an entire batch! It’s also super convenient in the freezer this way, because I can lay the disks flat in a bag and they take up very little space. Perfect!
bone-broth  gut-health  strictly-delicious  lina-calin 
7 days ago
Zio Rentals | Portable Toilet Rentals
Saw their portable toilets on Raymond Avenue on 3/9/2018.
restrooms  rentals  party-supplies  portable-toilets 
8 days ago
Ava DuVernay on the importance of images, having a voice — and why she flipped the script in ‘A Wrinkle In Time’ — The Undefeated
She said she has this take on things because she started being a filmmaker when she was in her early 30s. “Ryan Coogler is 31, and he’s made three films. I look at that and I think I started late. My story’s not just race and gender. It’s age. … Beautiful women filmmakers have made films, but it’s been a challenge for them to have certain resources and support. So it just makes me feel like, ask for what you want. … They’re probably going to say no, but you can still ask and you can still push, and if their answer’s no, you say yes to yourself in a different way.”
ava-duvernay  profiles  kelly-l-carter  the-undefeated 
8 days ago
Grown-Woman Theology
Black girls and Black women, particularly those who have had any sustained encounter with Christianity, are often immobilized by the hyperregulation of their sexuality from both the church and the state. These messages about excessive and unregulated Black flesh that converge from both the nation-state and the church, form a double helix of sexual ideas that form the core of cultural ideas about Black sexuality. These messages constitute a critical strand in a sticky social web that immobilizes Black women caught at the intersections of race, class, gender, and lack of access to normative modes of sexual behavior. Black feminist scholar Patricia Hill Collins refers to this sticky web as a matrix of domination, a sociological term for the way social systems of power converge to impede Black women’s agency and structural well-being. Far too often the result of trying to extract ourselves from these webs, which immobilize us until all of the life is drained from us, is that we leave critical pieces of ourselves behind.
religion  longreads  black-women  sex  brittney-cooper  feminism 
8 days ago
Everyone Is Going Through Something | By Kevin Love
but I wanted to share that story because of how eye-opening it was to talk about it. In the short time I’ve been meeting with the therapist, I’ve seen the power of saying things out loud in a setting like that. And it’s not some magical process. It’s terrifying and awkward and hard, at least in my experience so far. I know you don’t just get rid of problems by talking about them, but I’ve learned that over time maybe you can better understand them and make them more manageable.

Not talking about our inner lives robs us of really getting to know ourselves and robs us of the chance to reach out to others in need.
kevin-love  mental-health  the-players-tribune 
11 days ago
Tristan Walker: The Beauty Of A Bad Idea | Masters of Scale podcast
"The most scalable ideas don’t have to tackle dramatic ideas, they have to tackle neglected problems."

(looking at something that existed for song long they no longer even recognized it was a problem).
tristan-walker  reid-hoffman  masters-of-scale-podcast  entrepreneurship  startups  podcast-episodes 
13 days ago
Doctors Have Finally Ruled Menstrual Cramps As Painful As Heart Attacks
Menstrual cramps, or Dysmenorrhea as it's technically called, has finally been ruled as painful as having a heart attack. Professor of reproductive health at University College London, John Guillebaud, told Quartz that patients have described the cramping pain as "almost as bad as having a heart attack."
george-driver  periods  menustration  menustral-cramps  dysmenorrhea  john-guillebaud  marie-claire 
17 days ago
Donald Glover Can’t Save You
Zazie Beetz had told me that she’s often cast for her light skin, as “a pop of color” in a role that could go to a white actress, and that she knew some fans of “Atlanta” had wanted Van to be darker-skinned. “I don’t know if I was cast off of talent instead of look,” she said. “That’s my insecurity.” Glover said that it was talent. “But I was also, like, ‘People are going to feel that way about her—and they should.’ We have to show the consequences.” He noted that his own skin color had surely influenced his career, beginning with his first job, as a writer on “30 Rock.” “I wondered, Am I being hired just because I’m black?” Tina Fey, the show’s creator and star, told me that the answer was in large part yes; she admired Glover’s talent but hired him because funds from NBC’s Diversity Initiative “made him free.”
tad-friend  donald-glover  profiles  atlanta-tv  new-yorker 
18 days ago
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