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A lot of people will look at this photo and believe they are seeing an agreement or conversation. Let me tell you all what actually happened and give you a lesson in what misogynoir is.
A lot of people will look at this photo and believe they are seeing an agreement or conversation. Let me tell you all what actually happened and give you a lesson in what misogynoir is.
My first run in with this man occurred when he came to the counter-protest side and proceeded to yell a list of obscenities directly into my face. This almost started a fire, but de-escalators stepped in place and formed a line blocking him out.
The second time I heard him speak was in the midst of a conversation where white womanhood was centered. At this time he made a statement about "black trash women." while we talked about those who they were taught to put on a pedestal. (White women are going on a pedestal here btw, not the likes of myself) I made a note of that.
The next moment, the moment when this picture was taken, I was discussing how he could have been a patient of mine at an old facility I worked at due to his age. I encouraged him to go home and get hydrated. Instead, he told me "I would be fine if I had a nice little brown thing on my arm like you" he placed his hand on my thigh and said..... "you could be my dominatrix"
This is the very definition of misogynoir; the intersection of racism and sexism. By his standards, I am trash, I am capable of taking slurs and obscenities yelled into my face, I am incapable of being put on a pedestal let alone equal footing, BUT I am capable of being a sex object.
It doesn't matter how strong you portray yourself or how respectable you come across, conversations with those that can't see or choose not to see your humanity bear no true fruit. Taking the power out of the hands of those that are hateful by unifying with others that are marginalized, standing with allies that see your worth and selflessly put themselves on the line for you, that bears fruit.
May the ancestors bless us with the strength to continue shaking these trees.
racism  misogyny  sexism  sexualharassment  forcluelesswhitepeople 
september 2017 by stormclouds
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Like This Page · 5 December 2015 · Edited ·

"When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around the bush, she didn’t lie and say she was taken–she just said no.
One day, in third period, after being rejected several times, he said; “I have a gun in my locker. If you don’t say yes, I am going to shoot you in seventh.”
She refused again, but right after class she went to the principal’s office and told them what happened. They searched his locker and there was a gun in his backpack.
When he was arrested, some of my sister’s friends (some female, even) told her that she was selfish for saying no so many times. That because of her, the entire school was in jeopardy. That it wouldn’t have killed her to say yes and give it a try, but because she was so mean to him, he lost his temper. Many of her male friends said it was 'girls like her' that made all women seem like cock-teases.
Wouldn’t have killed her to say yes? If a man is willing to shoot someone for saying no, what happens to the poor soul who says yes? What happens the first time they disagree? What happens the first time she says she doesn’t want to have sex? That she isn’t in the mood? When they break up?
Years later, when I was a senior, I was the only girl in my Criminal Justice class. The teacher, who used to be a sergeant in the police force, told us a story of something that had happened to a girl he knew when she was in high school. There was a guy who obviously had a crush on her and he made her uncomfortable. One day he finally gathered up the courage to ask her out, and she said no.
The next day, during an assembly, he pulled a gun on her in front of everyone and threatened to kill her if she didn’t date him.
He was tackled to the ground and the gun was taken from him.
When my teacher asked the class who was at fault for the crime, I was the only person who said the boy was. All the other kids in the class (who were all boys) said that the girl was, that if she had said yes he would’ve never lost it and brought a gun and tried to kill her. When my teacher said that they were wrong and that this is what is wrong with society, that whenever a white boy commits a crime it’s someone else’s fault (music, television, video games, the victim) one boy raised his hand and literally said; 'But if someone were to punch me and I punched him back, who is at fault for the fight? He is, not me. It’s self-defence. She started it, so anything that happens to her is in reaction to her actions .It’s simple cause and effect.'
Even though he spent the rest of the class period ripping into the boys and saying that you are always responsible for your own actions, and that women are allowed to say no and do not have to date them, they left class laughing about how idiotic he was and that he clearly had no idea how much it hurt to be rejected.
This isn’t something that’s rare. This isn’t something that never happens, or that a select group of men feel as if they are so entitled to women that saying no is not only the worst possible thing a woman can do, but is considered a form of “defence” when they commit a crime upon them (whether it be rape or murder-as-a-reaction-towards-rejection).
Girls are being killed for saying no to prom invites. Girls are being killed for saying no to men. They are creating an atmosphere where women are too scared to say no, and the worst part is? They are doing it intentionally. They want society to be that way, they want women to say yes entirely out of fear. Even the boys and men who aren’t showing up to schools with guns are saying; 'Well, you know, I wouldn’t do that, but you have to admit that if she had just said yes…'
If you are a man and you defend this guys’ actions or try to find an excuse for it, or you denounce what really happened, or in any way lay blame on women, every girl you know, every woman you love, has just now thought to themselves that you might lose your shit and kill them someday for saying no. You have just lost their trust. And you know what? You deserve to lose it." —vampmissedith

watercolor by Marcos Beccari
from an original photograph by Jefferson Ramos [ jeh182 ] (model: Luisa Fontan)
victimblaming  maleprivilege  forcluelessmen  sexism  patriarchy  misogyny 
may 2017 by stormclouds
I do not think that word means what you think it means
“I'm not anti-Muslim, I just think keeping them out is an acceptable price for people like me getting a job.” (1)
“I'm not homophobic, I just voted for my family - I think that their needs are more important than the needs of a gay person's family.” (2)
“I'm not transphobic, I'm just so worried about the economy that I think having a powerful currency makes it OK that LGBTQ people are being beaten in the streets. (3)
“I'm not sexist, I just think that a woman mishandling some emails is worse than a man mishandling women, and possibly children.” (4)
“I'm not a misogynist, I just think that our money is better spent building border walls than it is protecting women from disease.” (5)
“I'm not a warmonger, I just think that 'shaking things up in Washington' should involve spending more on the military, and is worth playing right into ISIS's hands.” (6)
“I'm not racist, I'm just so desperate to change my life that I'm happy to scapegoat them.” (7)
I'm not being flippant. I think it must be awful to realise you are indirectly harming groups that you don't directly wish harm to.
You may not be racist through the definition of believing people have different genetic traits based on race. You may not be homophobic in the sense that you'd directly think less of an individual for being gay.
But however many gay disabled Mexican Muslims you're pals with, if you vote for people and policies that openly favour you and people like you above people who are not like you, you cannot claim not to be discriminatory. (8)
(1) Donald Trump pledged to ban all Muslims from entering the US. The claim has now been removed from his website, but only after the election result.
(2) Trump said he would strongly consider getting the courts to overturn gay marriage
(3) Hate crimes towards all minorities have increased and been legitimised since the election result. Although it's possible to claim this was an unintended result, it’s difficult to claim it is a surprising one.
(4) Trump has been accused multiple times of raping women. The recent case accusing him of child rape was dropped following rumours of death threats. Even if you write that off as lies (which in itself is mysogynist), he has been recorded on tape saying he likes to sexually assault women.
(5) Trump wants to build a wall from Mexico, but remove funding from Planned Parenthood, who, amongst other things, are the only group helping to prevent the spread of the Zika virus.
(6) Trump's plans for military spending, on his own website. ISIS celebrate Trump win.
(7) See building a wall from Mexico (5), keeping out Muslims (1)
(8) Oxford Dictionaries define discrimination.
whiteprivilege  racism  transphobia  homophobia  sexism  misogyny  forcluelesswhitepeople  forcluelesscispeople  forcluelesssanepeople  forcluelessmen 
november 2016 by stormclouds
Nate Parker's Rape Case has revealed several things
Angela Nicole Winfield
18 August at 14:55 ·
Nate Parker's Rape Case has revealed several things -
1. Men have no idea what rape is.
2. Men have no idea what rape does to a woman.
3. Men will defend a rapist simply on the notion that men have been falsely accused of rape in the past.
4. Men believe rape is a forgivable and it's really no big deal if you didn't die, get pregnant or get beat up in an alley.
5. Men believe that if you come to their place, you are expecting to get fucked, why else would you come over.
6. Men believe women who get drunk deserve to be raped.
7. I know a lot of rape apologists. My male friend circle is decreasing by the minute
rape  rapeculture  rapeapologist  rapists  feminism  sexism  misogyny 
september 2016 by stormclouds
France burkini: Highest court suspends ban
"At least three mayors have already said they will keep the bans in their towns."
islamophobia  burkini  france  racism  sexism  misogyny  forcedreligion  sexualharassment  perverts 
august 2016 by stormclouds
Armed police order a Muslim woman to remove burkini on a packed Nice beach
Majid Freeman
Like This Page · 23 August ·

Armed police order a Muslim woman to remove burkini on a packed Nice beach. This is france for you.
burkini  france  ban  sexism  harassment  misogyny  racism  islamophobia  police 
august 2016 by stormclouds
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