I run a Silicon Valley startup – but I refuse to own a cellphone | Technology | The Guardian | https://www.theguardian.com/
There are some practical issues of course. Without a phone, I can’t check things. People with phones seem to spend their life checking things: messages, email, the news, the weather, some random celebrity’s Instagram – I don’t know what it is exactly, but you all seem to be checking things the whole time. And I can’t do that, obviously. Tragically. Somehow, though, I cope.

But just in terms of our basic humanity, I find the idea that we should all be connected and contactable all the time not just bizarre but menacing. We used to think of electronic tags as a way of restricting criminals’ liberty – we can keep them out of jail but still keep track of them. It seems that now, everyone is acquiescent, through their phone, in electronically tagging themselves; incarcerating themselves in a digital jail where there is no such thing as true freedom or independence or solitude or privacy.
disconnect  minimalism  cellphones  siliconvalley  culture 
3 days ago
Is it wrong to let my child play on my smartphone? | Technology | The Guardian | https://www.theguardian.com/
For children that young, the official line from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) is that exposure to screens arrests language development and social skills. Until recently, the APP advised that for children under two, parents should permit absolutely no screen time whatsoever. In October last year, reflecting popular usage, it revised the wording of this advice, so that “avoid all screens under age two” became “avoid solo media use in this age group”.

My children were both early talkers and they interact fluently with others. I notice other things. When they’ve spent too much time on the phone, they are more bad tempered with each other and irascible with me. They show less interest in non-screen based toys and games. And when I try to take the screen away from them, they behave – there’s no other way to put this – like addicts, screaming, grabbing for it and dissolving into meltdown.
parenting  screentime  kids  earlychildhood  development 
3 days ago
Should I call out my friends for using their phones while driving? | Technology | The Guardian | https://www.theguardian.com/
This reluctance is partly to do with sketchy enforcement. But it might also have to do with the relative newness of the technology and the delusion many of us have that when we’re on our phones, we control them rather than the other way round. It is universally understood that when you drink, you lose control, often while comically insisting you’re still capable; when you text or talk on the phone, by contrast, it is possible to persuade yourself that (a) you can break off at any minute, and that (b) you are not performance-impaired.

Experience tells us that neither of these things is true and yet we persist with the rationalizations: it’s just a two-minute call; I’m accustomed to multi-tasking; I’m really, really concentrating on the road. All of which is fine until another driver, also on his cellphone, behaves erratically in front of you and your delayed response time catastrophically alters the outcome.
distracteddriving  cellphones 
3 days ago
Online dating is so awful that people are paying virtual dating assistants to impersonate them — Quartz | https://qz.com/
But legality aside, these cut-and-paste flirtations perpetuate negative gender stereotypes, and they reinforce an oversimplified (and destructive) view of romantic expectations.
Men and women on online-dating platforms therefore learn to emulate personalities that yield quantifiable results.

As dating platforms become flooded with calculated, flirtatious spam, men and women on these sites learn to emulate personalities that yield quantifiable results. This means playing down unique traits and unorthodox views to the point where a total stranger—like me—could literally do it in their place. By trying to appeal to dozens, if not hundreds, of strangers at the same time, we forfeit our ability to take risks and experiment with social norms; only placing safe bets robs us of new and genuine experiences.

But the steepest price of this online anonymity appears to be human decency, which—as I’m often reminded at ViDA—doesn’t lead to dates.

For example, one match told me that she’d just put down her family dog. Still in training, I wasn’t sure what to do. I wrote out an apology for her loss and sent it to my instructor for approval. He crossed out my response and wrote underneath: “Alpha Males don’t apologize.” What we sent back instead was an upbeat story about our client’s two dogs, which was a shamefully inconsiderate reply in my view. I expected to never hear back from her, but three exchanges later, she was sending me her phone number.

It was my first commission: $1.75.

Had she blamed my client’s callous response on internet miscommunication? Or was she learning—just as I was—that reaching out for a unique connection online would lead only to awkwardness and rejection? Every time she has an interaction in which her feelings are ignored—whether it’s online or in-person—I worry that she’ll learn not to talk about her emotional needs, or any needs of any kind.

As we grow accustomed to foisting more and more complicated emotional tasks onto digital butlers, we lose our ability to tolerate inelegance or find value in social failure. Moments of awkwardness and heartbreak are an inevitable part of the dating experience, and they are essential in our evolution into mature adults. By outsourcing our courtship to robots (and robot-like humans) we might save ourselves some pain in the short term, but it degrades us, simplifies us, and fails to provide for our ultimate goal of finding someone accepting of our flaws. In this age of automation, romance isn’t just one click away—it’s guaranteed.
onlinedating  relationships  theinternet  automation  asaservice  outsourcing 
4 days ago
What are your thoughts on sigils? : perl | https://www.reddit.com/
Larry Wall notes in an interview that «On a syntactic level, in the particular case of Perl, I placed variable names in a separate namespace from reserved words. That's one of the reasons there are funny characters on the front of variable names -- dollar signs and so forth. That allowed me to add new reserved words without breaking old programs.». Furthermore, first order lists allow for cleaner code sometimes. So I think sigils are great, but naturally inexperienced people often complain that they add clutter or make the code "unreadable" or "messy".

And I find that sigils give my code more visual rhythm and makes it easier to read

This, right here.

I don't need a fancy IDE or somehow encoding the type of the thing into the name of the thing to know what it is. Or, at least, the type of thing that the author wanted the interpreter to treat it as.

Having spent the last couple years in node/javascript land, too often it's a "oh, shit, it's a function?" is too common.
perl  language  design  perl5  syntax  thisvsthat  forthecomments  sigils 
5 days ago
bash - How to obtain the number of CPUs/cores in Linux from the command line? - Stack Overflow | https://stackoverflow.com/

Processing the contents of /proc/cpuinfo is needlessly baroque. Use nproc which is part of coreutils, so it should be available on most Linux installs.

Command nproc prints the number of processing units available to the current process, which may be less than the number of online processors.

To find the number of all installed cores/processors use nproc --all

On my 8-core machine:
<code class="language-bash">$ nproc --all
bash  shellscripting  hardware  systemreporting  solution 
6 days ago
The Real Heroes Are Dead | The New Yorker
Dan Hill says that Susan will understand someday, as he does. “What she doesn’t understand is that she knew him for four or five years. She knew a sixty-two-year-old man with cancer. I knew him as a hundred-and-eighty-pound, six-foot-one piece of human machinery that would not quit, that did not know defeat, that would not back off one inch. In the middle of the greatest battle of Vietnam, he was singing to the troops, saying we’re going to rip them a new asshole, when everyone else was worrying about dying. If he had come out of that building and someone died who he hadn’t tried to save, he would have had to commit suicide.

“I’ve tried to tell Susan this, in a way, but she’s not ready yet for the truth. In the next weeks or months, I’ll get her down here, and we’ll take a walk along the ocean, and I’ll explain these things. You see, for Rick Rescorla, this was a natural death. People like Rick, they don’t die old men. They aren’t destined for that and it isn’t right for them to do so. It just isn’t right, by God, for them to become feeble, old, and helpless sons of bitches. There are certain men born in this world, and they’re supposed to die setting an example for the rest of the weak bastards we’re surrounded with.”♦
love  death  perpsective  nineeleven 
11 days ago
Should I share my horrible software? - Academia Stack Exchange | https://academia.stackexchange.com/

Yes, you should.

First, most scientific software is terrible. I'd be very surprised if yours is worse than average: the mere fact you know design patterns and the difference between recursion and loops suggests it's better.

Second, it's unlikely you'll have the incentive or motivation to make it better unless, or until, it's needed by someone else (or you in 6 months). Making it open gives you that incentive.

Potential upsides: possible new collaborators, bugfixes, extensions, publications.

Potential downsides: timesink (maintaining code or fixing problems for other people), getting scooped. I'll be clear: I don't take either of these downsides very seriously.
software  devel  crapsoftware  academia  research  publishing 
13 days ago
Heilung | LIFA - Krigsgaldr LIVE - YouTube
Only A.D. 490's kids will remember this.

The concept for this group absolutely fascinates me. I love primitive music, ethnic music, and I have long been a fan of modern takes on those such as Dead Can Dance and Deep Forest. As a Native American, I really like meeting Europeans and Euro-Americans that have an interest in their primitive history. As a person well adept in bushcrafting skills, I can't tell you how many white people interested in paleo skills that I've taught things to - more than even Indians. When I give demonstrations I tell people that these items and skill are not Native American heritage, but are pan-human heritage. We just held onto them longer and preserved them for everyone else.

For those who are confused on the time frame of what this is representing, it's not necessarily "Vikings," and more or less not Neolithic.

It's Proto-Germanic she's singing here, and in most of their music. It's Pre-Migration Period, 600 years before the Vikings, ~1st Century CE til ~550 when Elder Futhark broke into Younger Futhark. It's based on historical linguistic reconstruction and snippets of text found archeologically and through Tacitus & Saxo Grammaticus, some of which were carved in runes on bone fragments, or described pejoratively by Latin writers, who described the throat singing as like "howling dogs," when it would sound provisionally like in this video, inferred by the Sammi, Mongol, Indigenous Greenland, and Faroese traditions which survived the ages relatively unchanged.

Then they kinda do this English language "rap," which is based on descriptions of Galdralag and Seiðalag -- no surviving examples of which exist outside of very, very scant snippets in the Poetic and Prose Edda, and in descriptions by Saxo Grammaticus and possibly by Tacitus. The low growling and hissing, the forked fingers, is based on descriptions of Seiðr magic. That kind of image survived in the inspiration of "witches" which Christians were afraid of deeply, who were real people practicing a similar indigenous artform, and came to become an abstracted meme of its own that evolved & mutated into the 21st century in a vague smear of pop culture idioms.
16 days ago
Massive Attack - The Spoils ft. Hope Sandoval - YouTube
She starts as a complete memory in his mind. it fades slowly and slowly as it is recalled seldom. he remembers her in different colored lights like different situations that change his memory of her. Her memory gets warped to the extent that it slowly loses its features and and disintegrates completely. She is lost in a dark corner of his mind, all withered. She is forgotten.From a face to a feeling to a form to a color. And then lost.
forthecomments  video 
16 days ago
Fever Ray 'Keep The Streets Empty For Me' - YouTube
This is like Kate Bush, Bjork, & Massive Attack all gone Neo Acid Pagan Primal
forthecomments  video  dark 
16 days ago
'The OA' Creators on Netflix Series, Season 2 | Hollywood Reporter | https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/
That was always there from the early days, as was the idea of a maximalist, surrealist story being braided with a minimalist story that was very much of the world we all know — the Costco and the Panera and the public high school. We spent time in the Midwest hanging out in classrooms, meeting kids and talking to teachers and hanging out at sports practices and at the gym. I think we became interested in the idea of what it means to come of age right now in this country. In what ways are the narratives that young people are consuming supporting them, and in what way are the narratives failing to help prepare them to come of age and meet the world we're living in now? All this stuff swirls around, and somewhere in the eye of that storm and pressure a story begins to form. Your job is trying to figure out how to put it on the page and then on the screen.

I think from the very beginning when we were on our own daydreaming a story, we definitely thought how can we construct something that, many seasons out, has a satisfying end? So there is an end and there is an answer to every riddle and nothing is done to just be sound and fury going nowhere. It all goes somewhere. And as to whether or not we get to tell that, I certainly hope that we do. There is a place that season two already begins in our minds and a place in which it ends.
theoa  tv  storytelling 
19 days ago
linux - How to show line number when executing bash script - Stack Overflow | https://stackoverflow.com/
<code class="language-bash">export PS4='+(${BASH_SOURCE}:${LINENO}): ${FUNCNAME[0]:+${FUNCNAME[0]}(): }'</code>
bash  shellscripting  devel  debugging  configfile  movein  tipsandtricks  solution 
24 days ago
sql - Can I concatenate multiple MySQL rows into one field? - Stack Overflow | https://stackoverflow.com/
You can use GROUP_CONCAT:
<code class="language-sql">SELECT person_id, GROUP_CONCAT(hobbies SEPARATOR ', ')
FROM peoples_hobbies GROUP BY person_id</code>
dba  sql  query  mysql  solution  fuckina 
25 days ago
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