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For a Better Marriage, Act Like a Single Person - The New York Times
Some great snippets FTA:
"Contrary to some claims, marrying at an older age generally lowers the risk of divorce. It also gives people time to acquire educational and financial assets, as well as develop a broad range of skills — from cooking to household repairs to financial management — that will stand them in good stead for the rest of their lives, including when a partner is unavailable."

"What’s more, single people generally have wider social networks than married couples, who tend to withdraw into their coupledom. On average, unmarried people interact more frequently with friends, neighbors, co-workers and extended family."

"What’s more, single people generally have wider social networks than married couples, who tend to withdraw into their coupledom. On average, unmarried people interact more frequently with friends, neighbors, co-workers and extended family."

"Socializing with friends and family and participating in clubs, political organizations, teams, unions and churches are essential components of what sociologists call social integration. And health researchers report that maintaining high levels of social integration provides as much protection against early mortality as quitting smoking. In fact, having weak social networks is a greater risk factor for dying early than being obese or sedentary."

"A long-term study of more than 6,500 Britons found that men and women who reported having 10 or more friendships at age 45 had significantly higher levels of psychological well-being at age 50, whatever their partnership status, than people with fewer friends. And two recent studies of nearly 280,000 people in almost 100 countries by William Chopik of Michigan State University found that friendships become increasingly vital to well-being at older ages. Among older adults, relationships with friends are a better predictor of good health and happiness than relations with family."

"It’s true that, on average, married people report higher well-being than singles. But mounting research indicates that most of the disadvantages of singles compared with the currently married are accounted for by distress among the previously married, especially those most recently divorced or widowed.

This suggests an intriguing possibility, says the Ohio State University sociologist Kristi Williams, editor of The Journal of Marriage and Family: Many of the problems experienced by divorced and widowed people may result not so much from the end of their marriage as from having relied too much on their spouse and thus failing to maintain social networks and the skills of self-reliance."

There is a lot more, but I'd basically be pasting the whole article.
health  health-aging  relationships  relationships-marriage  meetup-movnat  health-mental  relationships-friends 
february 2018 by daguti
How To Spot A Spiritual Sexual Predator
This talks about sexual abusers in the spiritual guru / new age communities, but it could apply to any kind of relationship. Read the comments Diana Young posted about this. "power imbalance" --- https://www.facebook.com/diana.young.161446/posts/526192487561773
sex  sex-and-society  warnings  crime-rape  relationships  relationships-marriage  crime-abuse-physical-emotional-or-sexual 
january 2016 by daguti
Our double lives: Dark realities behind ‘perfect’ online profiles | New York Post
"Steers cited the work of social psychologist Leon Festinger, who, in 1954, came up with “social comparison theory,” the idea that we measure ourselves in relation to others’ failures and successes." ......................... marriage, warnings = "Yet Karina Freedman, a skin care specialist with a large clientele in Kiersten’s Manhasset neighborhood, says many of these women are, in fact, leading double lives. “So many of the husbands work late hours and their wives are home alone,” she tells The Post. “So, on weekends, it’s common for them to go out to bars and clubs in the city without their husbands. Many of the women in Manhasset are partiers.”"
psychology  relationships-friends  facebook  social-media  warnings  children  children-teens  relationships  health-mental-depression  relationships-marriage 
december 2015 by daguti
Local sex columnist: 5 reasons marriage just doesn't work anymore
From the title, this sounded hokey, but some of these things are actually globally-important things in a relationship that I've already recognized on my own, so I'll listen to the other ones.
relationships  relationships-marriage  warnings  tips-n-tricks 
april 2015 by daguti
Grace O'Malley "The Pirate Queen" - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Long story short: She was a river pirate with a gang of men. She wanted a stronghold on the river, but knew she couldn't steal what she wanted from a wealthy lord, so she hatched a scheme to marry him with a clause that either party could divorce in a year, but if she decided to divorce, she could have his castle. The lord agrees and they marry, a year later, she divorces him while he's out. When he returns, she has her men in the castle and she yells to the lord that she's invoking the divorce clause. The lord is heartbroken, but he says a deal is a deal. He leaves her the castle. After a while, she realizes she fell in love with him and she asks him back. He agrees and they live happily ever after.
projects-strong-women  women  relationships-marriage  history 
january 2015 by daguti
Harvard Study finds children don't ruin women's careers, husbands do. : TwoXChromosomes
My takeaway: One partner has to prioritize career, the other the home & family. It doesn't matter who is who, but make sure you both know which you are and are on board with it. .................. FROM THE ARTICLE: "Part of the reason these women aren’t advancing at the same rate as their male counterparts is that after they have kids, they get “mommy-tracked.” In many ways, they’re not considered management candidates anymore. “They may have been stigmatized for taking advantage of flex options or reduced schedules, passed over for high-profile assignments, or removed from projects they once led,”"
relationships  career  women  relationships-marriage  relationships-marriage-prenup 
november 2014 by daguti
Marriage duration is inversely associated with spending on the engagement ring and wedding ceremony : science
Be sure to read the first comment: "Very Misleading Title... FTA's Conclusion, "We find that marriage duration is either not associated or inversely associated with spending on the engagement ring and wedding ceremony.""
relationships-marriage  relationships-marriage-wedding  money  counterintuitive 
october 2014 by daguti
1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. 3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. 4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. 5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER 6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. 7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU.
tips-n-tricks  relationships-marriage  relationships  warnings 
september 2013 by daguti
Is Being Beautiful Wrecking Your Love Life?
"In a rowing team study, team mates of a fellow crew member who was perceived to be a ‘slacker’ who did not pull his weight, was uniformly rated as physically ugly and another team member with an excellent work ethic was uniformly rated as physically attractive. The difference in perceived physical attractiveness did not exist for raters who knew nothing about the contributions of the two men to the team."
perception  relationships-marriage  women  relationships  romance  warnings  beauty 
october 2012 by daguti
Wall Photos - Traditional Marriage throughout the ages
1691 - Whites only
1724 - Blacks w/ slave owner's permission
1769 - The wife is property
1899 - Polygamous nixed for monogamous
1900 - The wife can own property
1965 - Contraception legal
1967 - interracial couples
1975 - The wife can have credit in her name
1981 - nixed husband owns all property
1993 - nixed legal marital rape
20xx - same sex marriage
visualization  history  relationships-marriage 
september 2012 by daguti
Daniel + Lauren // Wedding Trailer // A Rookery Manor Wedding
Notice the use of mis-matched video and audio. In other words, spoken words from the wedding ceremony laid over the view of the kid crying at the start, then over the bride getting her makeup done, then over shots of the crowd at the ceremony, then over the bride getting her hair done.
relationships-marriage  filmmaking-technique  video 
august 2012 by daguti
News Blog: Why women are choosing not to marry
This just might lead to be the kick in the pants the world needs: A shift to a female-centric societies.
women  relationships-marriage  culture  society  problems-world 
october 2011 by daguti
David T. Pisarra: Welcome To The Danger Zone
It takes just four words for me to know a man is in the "Danger Zone." He just has to say one, specific phrase and I know that I have to launch into my role as coach, cheerleader, personal therapist, life coach, dating coach, financial advisor and spiritual support system for a brother who has been beaten and battered by the words and games of his soon-to-be-ex.

What are the words? "I just want out."
relationships  relationships-divorce  relationships-marriage  relationships-marriage-prenup  warnings 
april 2011 by daguti
How I fell for a secret millionaire who only revealed his £10m fortune AFTER we became engaged | Mail Online
He wore shabby clothes, drove a wreck and took Lisa on cheap dates. Then they got engaged and Joe revealed the truth: having been stung by other women, he'd concealed his £10million lottery fortune from her. Lisa Johnson treasures a ring given to her by husband Joe even though it is unremarkable, with a tiny stone, and cost less than £200 from High-Street jeweller H. Samuel. It was her Christmas present during their first heady months of dating, and when he presented it to her, she was thrilled. 'I could see Joe didn't have a lot of money,' she recalls. 'So for him to spend what little he had on such a thoughtful gift was lovely. It meant the world to me - it still does.'

Ten months later, when Joe proposed, she tearfully accepted. It was only once they were engaged that he told her he had a secret.

Far from being hard-up, he was a £10 million Lottery winner, with a property portfolio, a fleet of expensive cars and the money to fly around the world in private jets.
money  relationships  relationships-marriage-prenup  romance  relationships-marriage 
february 2009 by daguti
Dating 101: Five Things Super-Happy Couples Do Every Day -- Yahoo! Personals
We asked happy couples across the United States to tell us about relationship-strengthening solutions they've developed. Try your hand at incorporating a few into your daily life and maybe you can be as ridiculously, embarrassingly, rev
relationships  relationships-marriage  romance  relationships-dating  relationships-dating-online 
january 2009 by daguti
Psychology Today: Relationship Rules
Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved. Yet people have much trouble doing so. It's clear from the many letters I get that lots of folks have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. Because I care about these things, and care
relationships  love  relationships-marriage  psychology 
june 2008 by daguti
Surviving Infidelity: What Wives Do When Men Cheat | LiveScience
The Spitzers are far from alone when it comes to fidelity issues. A 1994 study by sociologist Edward Lauman found that 10 percent to 11 percent of spouses had cheated in the prior year. Over a lifetime, that study revealed about 18 percent of women and 24
sex  relationships-marriage  relationships  crime-prostitution 
march 2008 by daguti
VOSHY - Videos - Best First Dance at a Wedding Ever
VOSHY - Videos - Best First Dance at a Wedding Ever - First dance is Sir Mix-A-Lot's "I Like Big Butts"
video  funny  relationships-marriage-wedding  dancing  relationships-marriage 
november 2007 by daguti
photo essay of the life of a diamond from discovery in africa to polishing in india to western showrooms.
diamonds  relationships-marriage  relationships-marriage-wedding  relationships-marriage-wedding-rings  relationships-marriage-engagement  geology  photos 
december 2006 by daguti
Flawless Man-Made Diamonds - Popular Science
More diamond news -- "After decades of experimentation, scientists can finally grow diamonds that outshine even the rarest De Beers rocks."
diamonds  relationships-marriage  relationships-marriage-wedding  relationships-marriage-wedding-rings  relationships-marriage-engagement  alternatives 
june 2006 by daguti

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