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Update to "Early Trick to Teaching Your Kid to Save" : financialindependence
"Since the original post was so well received I thought I'd share an update. We recently started giving our older two an allowance of $1/ week. The first week went as you might expect: we went to the grocery store, they found some candy that cost exactly $1, they spent all their money. They did bring it home and split it with the littler two because they "didn't want them to feel left out", but that's just a side bonus.

The real win came a few weeks later. We'd been giving them their allowance but hadn't had an opportunity to take them to the grocery store in a few weeks (we normally shop at restaurant supply shops for cheap bulk foods, not many lower priced things there). When the time did come for the grocery store, I warned each of the bigger girls to make sure they brought their purses. After a few minutes I checked on them and in a moment of absent-minded parenting noticed that they had left most of their money on their shelves.

Me: "Girls, don't forget this money here, you'll want it at the store."

One of my girls: "No, we talked about it and we decided to leave most of it here so we wouldn't be tempted to spend it. We're only each taking one dollar so we don't feel like the other has more."

I'm not paraphrasing. I was floored, and immediately quoted them in an email to their Dad so he could also jump up and down like I was doing mentally. They are miles ahead of where I was in any of my first two decades; it really is possible to teach prudence guys!"


"I think that the best trick to get children to save, and understand the concept of saving, is what my grandfather did for me. For every dollar that I saved, he would double it.

Of course, in actuality, that only came to about ten dollars or so, but it planted the idea in me that saving was seriously important. If he was willing to spend that much (potentially), then it really had to be a good idea to save in the future (as an adult).

And indeed, I became better at it.

But much of this really depends on the child, as it didn't work for my sister, and I believe every child might have a different way of interpreting any kind of saving plan."
money  money-retirement  children  childrearing 
7 weeks ago by daguti
When Your Child Is a Psychopath - The Atlantic
When I went looking for this article, I thought it was another one (this one: http://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/comments/22uw9c/til_when_janni_schofield_was_not_even_a_month_old/), which is actually about a schizophrenic little girl, not a psychopathic little girl.
health-mental  children  psychology-sociopath-psychopath 
june 2018 by daguti
Social anxiety is related to a preoccupation with making mistakes, finds a new study that monitored children’s brain activity. : science
from the comments:
"Behavioral inhibition (BI) is a temperament identified in early childhood that is a risk factor for later social anxiety. However, mechanisms underlying the development of social anxiety remain unclear. To better understand the emergence of social anxiety, longitudinal studies investigating changes at behavioral neural levels are needed. Method

BI was assessed in the laboratory at 2 and 3 years of age (N = 268). Children returned at 12 years, and an electroencephalogram was recorded while children performed a flanker task under 2 conditions: once while believing they were being observed by peers and once while not being observed. This methodology isolated changes in error monitoring (error-related negativity) and behavior (post-error reaction time slowing) as a function of social context. At 12 years, current social anxiety symptoms and lifetime diagnoses of social anxiety were obtained."
children  childrearing  health-mental  social-skills 
march 2018 by daguti
Sled Dogs Snowskates Offical Website
I remember seeing a Sled Dogs commercial on late night TV in the late 90s. I always thought they were a cool idea, but never saw them take off. The other day, I saw a Mashable post on Instagram about a product called SnowFeet (https://www.snowfeetstore.com/about) which seemed a lot like Sled Dogs.
Seems the difference is SnowFeet are clip ons that go over your shoes, while Sled Dogs are whole separate "ski boots" that include the mini ski.
winter  shoes  sports  children 
february 2018 by daguti
Jordan Peterson Why Nice Guys Finish Last - YouTube
personal-development, me-stuff = Being agreeable sounds like a good thing (it's been my inadvertent/ingrained guiding principle in life), but it doesn't do you any good when you're trying to build a career. @1:46 "One of the things you have to be careful of if you're agreeable is not to be exploited - because you'll line up to be exploited. And I think the reason for that is you're wired to be exploited by infants."

@2:02 "One of the things that happens in psychotherapy, when people come because they're too agreeable. They come for assertiveness training - and though it's not exactly assertiveness that's being trained. What it is is the ability to learn to negotiate on their own behalf. And one of the things I tell agreeable people, especially if they're e conscientious is 'Say what you think. Tell the truth about what you think. There's going to be things you think that you think are nasty and harsh - and they probably are nasty and harsh, but they're also probably true. And you need to bring those up to the forefront and deliver the message and it's not straightforward at all, because agreeable people do not like conflict. Not at all. They smooth the water. You know - and you can see why that is in accordance with the hypothesis that I've been putting forward: You don't want conflict around infants. It's too damn dangerous. You don't want fights to break out. You don't want anything to disturb the relative peace. If you're also more prone to being hurt physically, and perhaps emotionally, you're also maybe loathe to engage in the high intensity conflict that will solve problems in the short-term. Because it takes a lot of conflict to solve problems in the short-term."

children, childrearing = "The advantage to having a well-socialized disagreeable person is that they don't let much get in their way. So if you can get a kid who's disagreeable socialized, that person can be quite the preacher, because they're very forward moving in their nature and very difficult to stop. But if you don't get them successfully domesticated - tamed, roughly speaking by the time they're 4, their peers reject them. And that's a big problem because your job as a parent is to make your child socially desirable by the age of 4. You want to burn that into your brain, because people don't know that. That's your job. Here's why: It's easy if you think about it carefully. So you imagine you've got a 3 year old child, so sort of halfway through that initial period of socialization and you take that child out in public. What do you want for the child? You want the child to both be able to interact with children and adults so that the children are welcoming and smile and want to play with him or her and so that the adults are happy to see the child and treat him or her properly. And if your child is a horrible little monster because you're afraid to discipline them or oyou don't know how to do that properly, then what they're going to do is experience nothing but rejection from other children and false smiles from other parents and adults. So then you're throwing the child out there into the world so that every single face that they see is either hostile or lying. And that's not something that's going to be very conducive to the mental-health or well-being of your child. Your child can learn a couple simple rules of behavior like 'Don't interrupt adults when they're talking' and 'Pay attention and try not to hit the other kids over the head with a truck' and 'Share and play properly', then when they meet the other kids, the kids are going to try a few play routines and it's going to go well and they'll go off and socialize each other for the rest of their lives. Because that's what happens is that from 4 years old onwards, the primary socialization of children takes place among other children and so if the kids don't get in on that early, they don't move into that developmental spiral upwards and they're left behind. And you can imagine how terrible that is, because a 4 year old will not play with another 4 year old who's 2. But a 5 year old will not play with another 5 year old who's 2, because the gap is just starting to get unbelievably large and so the kids start out behind and then the peers leave them behind and then those kids are alienated and outside the peer group for the rest of their lives. And those are the ones that grow up to be long-term anti-social. They're already aggressive. It doesn't dip down. And what happens to normal boys, roughly speaking, imagine the aggressive 2-year-old types, they get socialized, so their level of aggression goes down, and then they hit puberty and testosterone kicks in and BAM, levels of aggression go up. And that's why males are criminals between the ages of 16 and 25."

statistics = Said in a podcast either with Joe Rogan or Jocko Willink: "60% of men are disagreeable and 40% of women are disagreeable. Not much difference - it's not 90/10. But the edges are what matter. Said in this video @ 0:38. "Even though men and women on average aren't very different in terms of their level of agreeableness by the group, if you go out and look at their extremes, they're very different. So all of the most agreeable people are women and all of the most disagreeable people are men. And the thing is: The extremes are often what matter, rather than what is in the middle. And so one of the ways that's reflected in society is there's way more men in prison."
people-jordan-peterson  personal-development  me-stuff  statistics  childrearing  children 
february 2018 by daguti
Create an LLC for your kids when they're in high school...
Text from the image:
"Create an LLC for your kids when they're in high school. File taxes on it for 4 years.(start business history) pay them on the business payroll checks. (set their salary) Get a business credit card. Make them an authorized signer (establish business credit) GRADUATION GIFT! Let's break the cycle."
childrearing  children  babies  money  wealth 
november 2017 by daguti
What fact did you learn at an embarrassingly late age? : AskReddit
The two things I always think of (below) were mentioned by others in this thread.

- Ponies are not baby horses
- "Twinkle Twinkle, Little Star" is the same melody as The Alphabet Song

Someone else mentioned this, which I also thought as a kid:
When I was a kid I thought that all cats were girls and all dogs were boys. I though they had sex and produced either a cat or dog. I was corrected on embarrassingly around 10 or 11

Except that I also thought goats were male and sheep were female.
funny  children  companies-reddit 
october 2017 by daguti
How to Write Quick Research Papers and Essays - Album on Imgur
RNJ-marketing-material = we should get a lot of content like this that is useful for college students and start posting it on our site. Write it in a way that references Kean, but it's blatantly pandering. Perhaps mention a specific professor that is known as being a tough grader. ----- Be sure to read the comment thread by shadowex: https://imgur.com/gallery/yEQSv/comment/1125100087 talking about how this is formulaic writing and it would result in a mediocre grade
writing  tips-n-tricks  childrearing  children  children-teens  projects-w-ted-rocknjoe-marketing-material  college  frameworks 
september 2017 by daguti
We need more mentors like this in the world : videos
I love this man. We need more people like this in the world.

Video on YouTube "Working Through Emotional Barriers" by Cave313 - their website is SavingBoys.org ---> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooAOc9Fwg0U
video  childrearing  children  children-teens  projects-w-matt-able-man  men-boys 
august 2016 by daguti
Parenting hacks and ideas* - Album on Imgur
The best (and hardest one, since you have to start young and do it every year) Buy a large Tshirt with "class of 20xx" on it, Start when they enter Kindergarten, take a photo each year when they complete a grade.

keywords: parenting hacks , parenting ideas , ideas for kids
childrearing  children 
june 2016 by daguti
Essay: Why research for the pure sake of knowing is enough
"The nature of discovery is that it's impossible to anticipate what you'll find. That is discovery. Discovery-based research is most fruitful when new knowledge is sought for its own sake."
learning  learning-self-taught  education  childrearing  children 
may 2016 by daguti
Why Kids Should Keep Using Their Fingers to do Math | MindShift | KQED News
education-humanities-or-liberal-arts = "The need for and importance of finger perception could even be the reason that pianists, and other musicians, often display higher mathematical understanding than people who don’t learn a musical instrument."
teaching  education  childrearing  children  education-humanities-or-liberal-arts 
april 2016 by daguti
Research-based Strategies to Help Children Develop Self-Control | MindShift | KQED News
trust = "‘To even want to delay gratification requires a trust expectation that’s often not there for kids for whom self-control and delayed gratification is most difficult.’"
psychology-self-control  children  childrearing  trust  discipline-or-willpower 
february 2016 by daguti
(2) Diana Young - EPIGENETICS: TRAUMA SHAPES US "The terrible effects...
I've said for the longest time that if we want to fix crime, we have to do the hard work of helping families stick together. The Aryan Nation, inner-city gangs, Mexican drug cartels and ISIS all recruit from the same pool of children raised by poorly equipped (or totally absent) parents.
genetics  genetics-epigenetics-(or-how-grandmas-traumas-affect-me)  crime-child-abuse  children  crime-violence  me-stuff 
december 2015 by daguti
Lifehack - The Moment When You Realize Violence Is Not The Answer
Little boy is given a bat to hit his SpiderMan pinata with, but when takes a few light taps at it, his mother takes the bat from him and gives it to his father. The little boy instantly walks over to SpiderMan and hugs him, hanging his head down, presumably from the shame of having taken those few light taps.
life-affirming  video  children  crime-violence 
december 2015 by daguti
Our double lives: Dark realities behind ‘perfect’ online profiles | New York Post
"Steers cited the work of social psychologist Leon Festinger, who, in 1954, came up with “social comparison theory,” the idea that we measure ourselves in relation to others’ failures and successes." ......................... marriage, warnings = "Yet Karina Freedman, a skin care specialist with a large clientele in Kiersten’s Manhasset neighborhood, says many of these women are, in fact, leading double lives. “So many of the husbands work late hours and their wives are home alone,” she tells The Post. “So, on weekends, it’s common for them to go out to bars and clubs in the city without their husbands. Many of the women in Manhasset are partiers.”"
psychology  relationships-friends  facebook  social-media  warnings  children  children-teens  relationships  health-mental-depression  relationships-marriage 
december 2015 by daguti
The Surprising Secret to Raising a Well-Behaved Kid
man-babies = ""Children who understand that there are well-defined boundaries learn how to self-regulate and to respect limits,"" ....... discipline-willpower = ""When you make your expectations clear from the time your children are toddlers, they internalize those expectations and begin to expect the same thing from themselves," " and ""Children who understand that there are well-defined boundaries learn how to self-regulate and to respect limits,""
childrearing  psychology-self-control  children  man-babies  communication  relationships  management  leadership  discipline-or-willpower 
november 2015 by daguti
Another beachgoer died while digging a hole in the sand. Why does this keep happening? - The Washington Post
WARNING: Don't dig deep holes in the sand. They are unstable and many people die when they collapse on them. Even if your head is clear, your lungs can be collapsed under the weight of so much sand.
children  childrearing  warnings  ocean  meetup-movnat  swimming 
may 2015 by daguti
Kids with ADHD need to move in order to learn, research reveals - ScienceAlert
"The results have been published in the Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, and are further evidence that not all children can learn in the same way, or should be forced to do so."
children  disease-add-adhd  childrearing  meetup-movnat  teaching  learning  education 
april 2015 by daguti
The most adorable child you will ever see… - Best Video You Will Ever See
Wow, interesting. It will not convert me, but it's interesting that he has such strong beliefs, evidently from his own thinking, because his mother is not a vegetarian.
video  children  animals  philosophy  diet-vegetarian-vegan 
april 2015 by daguti
The Value Of Wild, Risky Play: Fire, Mud, Hammers And Nails : NPR Ed : NPR
The documentary: http://playfreemovie.com/ --- As of 2015-04-05, the site doesn't have much info except 2 clips. Doesn't even say when the movie will be released or where to see it.
meetup-movnat  children  childrearing  play-as-a-concept  safety  meetup-dokumenta-documentaries-short 
april 2015 by daguti
OK but I want orc teeth - Album on Imgur
Plastimake is a non-toxic plastic delivered in little beads. You put some beads into hot water and it becomes moldable so you can make anything you want.
diy  maker-stuff-home  plastics  children  gifts  gifts-unique 
march 2015 by daguti
Why Kids Need to Move, Touch and Experience to Learn | MindShift
"Increasingly scientists are proving Montessori right. Researchers are studying the body movements of children as young as four-to-six months old and have found earlier and more frequent movement correlates with academic learning down the road. Kids who could sit up, sustain “tummy time” longer and walk were all correlated with future academic success, even when researchers controlled for socioeconomics, family education and type of future education, among other mitigating factors."
medicine-science-catches-up-to-folk-wisdom  learning  children  education  meetup-movnat  people-maria-montessori 
march 2015 by daguti
When Kids Think Parents Play Favorites, It Can Spell Trouble : Shots - Health News : NPR
It's not whether there IS a favorite. It's whether or not the kids THINK there is. "In his study, he found that in families that were close-knit, with good relationships and not a lot of fighting, there was less effect from perceived inequality. "In families like that there's really no link between kids' perception and their behavior," Jensen says. So as long as you love and respect all your kids, Jensen says, the fact that you like one a wee bit more won't matter."
children  childrearing  perception  psychology 
february 2015 by daguti
Parents Who Shun Vaccines Tend To Cluster, Boosting Children's Risk : Shots - Health News : NPR
"If these parents were distributed randomly, their decisions would be less likely to harm others, especially babies too young for vaccination. But parents who use personal belief exemptions to avoid school vaccination requirements often live in the same communities, studies have found."
medicine-vaccines  children 
january 2015 by daguti
The case for having just one kid | PBS NewsHour
I understand wanting to buck a trend, having grown up an only child, I would never want to subject children to that. From learning life lessons and group dynamics growing up to having support and "blood" friends when they're older, having more kids just makes sense to me. 3-4 is ideal.
children  family 
january 2015 by daguti
Zumba Hakim - DANCE #babylove
I always had the idea for the toddler workout, but it was about using the moves that they do. I never realized we could use an actual toddler to lead the workout!
video  exercise-movnat  children  babies 
january 2015 by daguti
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