How houseplants saved my life - Dumbo Feather
The other reason was that they are famously hard to kill, and I really, really needed a win.
jini  depression 
6 weeks ago
manticore magic | adventures in modern pagan animism
What I do have is my magical practice and a certain narrative malleability with regard to my own life. I am part of a house and legion; the boundaries of my body and self defy scientific materialism. I’m a jumble of metaphors that defy easy classification as figurative or literal. I thrive on ambiguity.
magic  melbourne  paganism  animism 
7 weeks ago
How to Have a Mindful Conversation - Mindful
1. Before, during, or right after a difficult interaction with someone, pause for a moment.
mindfulness  monkeytraining  communication  via:mournjargon 
7 weeks ago
Marriage Equality: the victory and the aftermath | Overland literary journal
It would be easy to dismiss someone like my cousin. He spent 25 minutes lecturing me on why voting yes was the right thing to do – I mean, does the guy want a medal for just doing the right thing? However, it’s important to recognise shifts in people’s consciousness when they happen: considering that many religious organisations were part of a well-resourced ‘no’ campaign that targeted their congregation (and considering my cousin lives in one of the Victorian electorates that returned a majority ‘no’ vote), this was not an act of a straight person hetero-splaining oppression to me. Rather, it was a person attempting to navigate his faith through the stormy waters of propaganda from politicians and church leaders, using his basic empathy as a guide.
9 weeks ago
Of Whom Am I Afraid?
it amazes me constantly how many mental defenses a person can set up against the possibility of change, how everything really does tend toward enertia.
monkeytraining  via:mournjargon 
11 weeks ago
New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy - Barking Up The Wrong Tree
I know, sometimes life lands a really mean punch in the gut and it feels like there’s nothing to be grateful for. Guess what?
Doesn’t matter. You don’t have to find anything. It’s the searching that counts.
emotions  toread 
october 2017
I Vow Not to Burn Out - Lion's Roar
When I get desperate, which is pretty often, I ask myself how to not be overwhelmed by despair or cynicism.
buddhism  activism  selfcare  via:mournjargon 
september 2017
what resembles the grave – Anne Boyer
Always falling into a hole, then saying “ok, this is not your grave, get out of this hole,” getting out of the hole which is not the grave, falling into a hole again, saying “ok, this is also not your grave, get out of this hole,” getting out of that hole, falling into another one;
AnneBoyer  poems  via:mournjargon 
september 2017
Magpies swooping? You should try making friends with them, expert says - ABC News (Australian Broadcasting Corporation)
"When my dog died the maggies watched me bury him, then within half an hour the whole family came down and sat with me."
animals  birds  magpies 
august 2017
After 2,500 Studies, It's Time to Declare Animal Sentience Proven (Op-Ed)
"Convergent evidence indicates that non-human animals have the neuroanatomical, neurochemical, and neurophysiological substrates of conscious states along with the capacity to exhibit intentional behaviors. Consequently, the weight of evidence indicates that humans are not unique in possessing the neurological substrates that generate consciousness. Non-human animals, including all mammals and birds, and many other creatures, including octopuses, also possess these neurological substrates."

They could also have included fish, for whom the evidence supporting sentience and consciousness is also compelling (see also). And, I'm sure as time goes on, researchers will add many other animals to the consciousness club.
ethics  animalrights  vegan 
july 2017
Neoliberalism has conned us into fighting climate change as individuals | Martin Lukacs | Environment | The Guardian
Eco-consumerism may expiate your guilt. But it’s only mass movements that have the power to alter the trajectory of the climate crisis. This requires of us first a resolute mental break from the spell cast by neoliberalism: to stop thinking like individuals.
neoliberalism  climatechange 
july 2017
how to do nothing – Jenny Odell – Medium
The life force is concerned with cyclicality, care, and regeneration; the death force sounds a whole lot like “disrupt.” Of course some amount of both are necessary, but one is routinely valorized, not to mention masculinized, while the other goes unrecognized because it has no part in “progress.”
july 2017
Resilient to a fault | Overland literary journal
Counter to this common-sense approach is a vast body of research that suggests that membership of a marginalised or oppressed group is one of the key predictors for mental illness. Whether it is women, people of colour, people with a disability or same-sex attracted or gender-questioning people, the research tells us time and again that oppression leads to disproportionate experiences of mental ill health.

To all observers, my gently-gently approach appeared to be working. I was approachable – jovial even. I was not a threat to anyone’s transphobia. I educated. I accepted small indignities. I expressed gratitude for things that were basic rights. I embodied the core principles of resilience. I was told explicitly that my good humour made my continued presence in the school possible.

Of course, this approach has had very real costs. I have a Herculean capacity for suppression, but time undoes most things. I grew increasingly frustrated with transphobia that those around me could not, or would not, see. I no longer wanted to answer inappropriate questions, or provide advice. I wanted permission to be hurt and angry in the face of ignorance. I wanted someone else to do the work. I shifted schools eighteen months ago, partially to distance myself from the role of friendly and approachable trans teacher.
transphobia  acceptance  resilience 
july 2017
As we move towards constitutional recognition, what can we learn from Indigenous understandings of health (heaps, suggests one GP) | Croakey
When I started work in an Aboriginal Medical Service, the Aboriginal definition of health struck me as being much closer to my own perception of what health actually is.

“Health is… not just the physical well-being of an individual but refers to the social, emotional and cultural well-being of the whole Community in which each individual is able to achieve their full potential as a human being thereby bringing about the total well-being of their Community. It is a whole of life view and includes the cyclical concept of life-death-life.”
july 2017
Legacy Train Control System Stabilisation
If the 'proof of the pudding is in the eating' then we are now feasting on the fruits of our labour.
trains  melbourne 
july 2017
When Will Climate Change Make the Earth Too Hot For Humans?
You can find it already watching footage of an iceberg collapsing into the sea — a feeling of history happening all at once.
climatechange  future  we'refucked 
july 2017
The Great Tsunami by Michele Wolf | Poetry Magazine
She recognizes its crest in the way he looks at her. 
The wave is as vast as the roiling mass in the Japanese
Print they had paused in front of at the museum,
Capped with ringlets of foam, all surging sinew.
That little village along the shore would be
Totally lost. There is no escaping this.
The wave is flooding his heart,
And he is sending the flood
Her way. It rushes
Over her.

Can you look at one face
For the whole of a life?

Does the moon peer down
At the tides and hunger for home?
july 2017
French Touch: I love you or I like you ?
During the time my husband and I were dating, when he says "je t'aime", I reply with "je t'aime beaucoup". One day, he finally said I think "I love you more than you love me" and I was like "why would you say that". He then said that it is because I always say "je t'aime beaucoup" which is not a feeling as strong as simply saying "je t'aime". He said "One does not say this to someone in a romantic sense".  

In France, "on aime bien" son laptop, blackberry, chien, etc. but definately not one's husband/wife.
july 2017
Global Employee Equity at a glance: Australia | White & Case LLP International Law Firm, Global Law Practice
Assuming there is a real risk of forfeiture, and a compliant tax matrix is included in the Plan documents, an employee is generally subject to income tax at the "deferred taxing point." The deferred taxing point is broadly the earlier of: (i) when the Options are exercised; (ii) when there is no longer a restriction on disposal of the underlying Stock (provided the restriction existed at grant of the Options); (iii) cessation of employment; and (iv) the fifteenth anniversary of grant. In all other cases, an employee is generally subject to income tax payable on the market value of the Option at the time of grant. If tax is paid on grant, but the Options subsequently lapse, the tax is generally recoverable.
june 2017
The Corporate Contradictions of Neoliberalism - American Affairs Journal
The corporation is institutionalized irresponsibility. In the neoliberal economy, individual responsibility is imposed on the weak (with a downsized social safety net, tightened personal bankruptcy laws, etc.); freedom from responsibility is enjoyed by the strong—those who invest, and those who control.
june 2017
Comorbidities in Borderline Personality Disorder | Psychiatric Times
96% of patients with BPD have a mood disorder during their life, and lifetime depression is reported at 71% to 83%. Anxiety disorders are also extremely common: 88% of patients have an anxiety disorder, 34% to 48% have panic disorder, and 47% to 56% have PTSD. Alcohol and substance abuse or dependence are reported by 50% to 65%; eating disorders affect 7% to 26% over a lifetime.
may 2017
Meditation For People Who Hate Meditating | Thing of Things
I hate mindfulness. Hate it, hate it, hate it. The ten minutes I spend meditating is easily the least pleasant ten minutes of my day.
meditation  bpd  via:mournjargon 
february 2017
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