Obviously there are some people who would want very different things - understanding your specific partner is vital. This may be a useful starting point for discussion though.

High anxiety, low avoidance apparently. According to http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl (option B)

I get this - if I have absolutely no idea what to do then I hate just leaping in. I'm getting better at this though.

A common blood-pressure drug can selectively dampen fearful memories, according to research published in Nature Neuroscience.

The majority of almost 2,000 men aged 16 to 65 questioned by OnePoll, an independent market research company, admitted struggling to feel confident about their place in society. About half confessed to feeling most insecure when at work, while another 40 per cent also felt inadequate during nights out with friends.

All those questioned by the survey, commissioned by Braun, admitted to feeling increasingly emasculated by women and said their feelings of inadequacy soar when women are present.

Most intimately, one in four men revealed they are racked by feelings of inadequacy during sex, saying that film and television programmes like Sex and the City had made them anxious about not having enough stamina and imagination in the bedroom.

In partnership with yesterday's "Coping with Panic Attacks" - a piece on how to be there for someone who has them