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Who Gets to Call Themselves Nonbinary?
“One useful way to consider identity policing is to think about whether the policing is flowing upstream or downstream,” Professor Grzanka tells me. “Downstream — if we take that to mean interrogating people who have less power than you — tends to feel gross to me.”
gender  beauty  lgbt  relationships  men  women  power  identity  sex 
12 days ago by allaboutgeorge
The Feminist Pursuit of Good Sex - The New York Times
On it, she’d written this plain but transformative note: “Feminism is a vision of active freedom, of fulfilled desires, or it is nothing.”
feminism  sex  sexualharassment  sexassault  power  women  relationships 
february 2018 by allaboutgeorge
The Suit | Vestoj
A suit isn’t merely a uniform, traditionally made of one fabric. It is, if one is a believer in the power of style, a sly opportunity to play with notions of passing while also signaling dissent.
fashion  men  work  power  sex  gender  career 
july 2017 by allaboutgeorge
Can These Pornographers End 'MILFs,' 'Teens,' and 'Thugs'?
"A similar reading could well apply to the categorized world of mainstream porn. To consume online porn often entails playing a rough and reductive language game."
language  sex  power  film  movies 
june 2017 by allaboutgeorge
Black Freaks, Black Fags, Black Dykes: Re-imagining Rebecca Walker’s “Black Cool” | The Feminist Wire
Given this, it seems to me that any notion of black cool that is only imagined as being exercised or embodied by black masculine men and/or some masculine women is, well, played out. Black cool is multi-textured, unrestrictive, and forever changing. We, black folk are diverse in our embodiments, sexual identities, and gender expressions; therefore, our imaginations of black cool, if they are to be unrestrictive, should be vast enough to consider feminine women, feminine men, gender variant/trans men and women, and differently-abled individuals.
queer  gay  black  race  power  gender  sex  creativity  beauty  identity  presence 
february 2013 by allaboutgeorge
Dating Games – The New Inquiry
It’s easier to talk to someone at a series of shows and parties and only gradually start to spend time with them on purpose, and then still not admit attraction until 6 am and sunrise finds both of you still sitting on their couch, talking in hushed tones across a six-inch distance. If it never happens, it’s easier to pretend there was never anything at stake. Ambiguous and indeterminate contexts leave room to negotiate and to save face.
dating  relationships  love  sex  technology  marriage  friendship 
february 2013 by allaboutgeorge
Aziz Ansari gets candid about love: “elusive and sadly ephemeral” | Comedy | Interview | The A.V. Club
I weirdly do consider myself an optimist about love. In my Buried Alive show, I tell a story about a guy who meets his future wife when he goes to Bed Bath & Beyond to get Drano. They fall in love. And in the joke, I just talk about how amazing it is that all these random factors came together to make it possible for these people to run into each other at this particular moment in time, in a parking lot at Bed Bath & Beyond, and then fall in love. I’m an optimist—I feel like an amazing part of life is that at any moment, any of us could have that Bed Bath & Beyond moment.
love  relationships  longreads  humor  comedy  research  marriage  sex  technology  dating 
february 2013 by allaboutgeorge
Dan Savage on the Virtues of Infidelity - NYTimes.com
“One size never fits all, and it isn’t just dividing between men and women and gay and straight. Monoga­my is not natural, nonmonogamy is not natural. Variation is what’s natural.”
marriage  sex  polyamory  love  disclosure  family  relationships  reputation  men  women  gay 
july 2011 by allaboutgeorge
The ghettoisation of pink: how it has cornered the little-girl market | Society | The Observer
I wish I could tell you that I had reached my own goals: getting my daughter outside more, taking walks in the woods together, playing sports, making art. Occasionally I have – and I advocate all of that – but mostly I have just got a lot more canny about how we participate in the consumer culture. At bedtime we continue to read legends, mythology, and fairytales – all of which teem with complex female characters that fire a child's imagination. The path to womanhood is strewn with enchantment, but it is also rife with thickets and thorns and a Big Bad Culture that threatens to consume them even as they consume it. The good news is, the choices we make for our toddlers can influence how they navigate life as teens. I'm not saying we can, or will, do everything "right," only that there is power – magic – in awareness.
women  parenting  gender  sex  marketing  feminism  children 
june 2011 by allaboutgeorge
How a sex rebel was born - Sex News, Sex Talk - Salon.com
It would have been impossible in the crowd I was running in to be put down for being sexually interested in more than one person. I know that some of my comrades found it trickier to navigate because they felt deeply in love with one person and they wanted to nest with them and it made them a lot more nervous and hurt. It was tough sometimes.

Most people who ask me about this are coming from a place of serial monogamy, or where they've had secrets or cheating, and I'm kind of like: Well, how's it been for you? Monogamy isn't a religion. It's not like you believe in it and all of a sudden all your problems are solved. Meanwhile, your life goes on and you deal with real people and their real animal instincts and impulses and idiosyncrasies.
sex  love  relationships  power  religion  feminism 
march 2011 by allaboutgeorge
When a love for art turns into lust - Sex News, Sex Talk - Salon.com
Romanticizing the act of writing or any other art is not very helpful to the artist or the art. It's much better if one simply does. It worked better for me when I was just a writer, a working person. I've never felt that I needed a special desk with a special light coming in from the window at a special angle. It's work, not so different from that way you fix dinner or you pick up a child at school.
writing  sex  men  women  art  creativity  books  memoir  story  business 
march 2011 by allaboutgeorge
The economics of love - Coupling: Dating, marriage and other relationships - Salon.com
"Economics is the study of how people and societies allocate scarce resources. Relationships involve two people who are sharing scarce resources -- whether that's time, energy, libidos, money, ambition, patience, whatever -- and that's of course going to involve trade-offs."
economics  relationships  love  technology  data  information  men  women  sex  marriage  beauty  attention  money  dating 
january 2011 by allaboutgeorge
Paris Review – The Tao of Prince, Dan Piepenbring
Take “Raspberry Beret" [...] Peopled by such rural mainstays as Mr. McGee (the hardnosed boss of a five-and-dime) and Old Man Johnson (a farmer, of course), the song testifies to the bucolic joys of “doing something close to nothing,” shirking workaday life, and having a literal romp in the hay. All’s well and good until this arcadia is interrupted by another form of pastoral, the elegy. It creeps in with the beautiful, obscure line “Overcast days never turned me on, but something ’bout the clouds and her mixed.” Then comes a quiet reference to lost youth: He “wouldn’t change a stroke … with a girl as fine as she was then.” The last line brings a full-on lament, as Prince sings, “Tell me, where have all the raspberry women gone?” We could argue all day about what a raspberry woman is—for my money, it’s got nothing to do with fruit—and this is Prince’s inscrutable charm. Having lured us in with a frothy romance, he ends by mourning something we can’t even fully understand.
songwriting  prince  1980s  music  rock  writing  death  love  sex 
november 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Lady Robots: The Shape of Things to Come On | The Awl
We didn't make girls perfect; we made them to be what we wanted. If they want to be masters, to live in a world where only one set of desires is valid, they take after us that way. They're still showing us what we want. The key is to want something better. The key is to want something more.
feminism  technology  power  gender  sex  art  beauty  culture 
november 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Hugh Hefner has been good for us - Roger Ebert's Journal
You may believe Playboy was the enemy of women. It objectified their bodies. It schooled men to regard them as sex objects. It stood for all that feminists fought to correct. There is some truth to that, but it doesn't impact upon my experience, and the best I can do here is be truthful.

Nobody taught me to regard women as sex objects. I always did. Most men do. And truth to tell, most women regard men as sex objects. We regard many other aspects of another person, but sex is the elephant in the room. Evolution has hard-wired us that way. When we meet a new person, in some small recess of our minds we evaluate that person as a sex partner. We don't act on it, we don't dwell on it, but we do it. You know we do. And this process continues bravely until we are old and feeble.
sex  men  women  magazines  love  relationships  identity  attention  presence  writing  journalism 
october 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Flexuality: Take the Test
Ever wonder if you are straight, gay, bi, or something else? Quit worrying about out-dated labels and find out how flexible you are!

The Flexuality Test assesses your attitudes, feelings, experiences, and desires. Your answers will be analyzed to generate a flexuality profile, with reference to one or more sexual types. The entire process is anonymous; you will not be asked for your e-mail address or any other personal identifying information.
sex  relationships  research 
october 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Further Improbables - NYTimes.com
What if, during the act that gave the world me — and you — the phone had rung in the middle of everything? Resumption on the parents’ part later would have resulted in — not me, or you, but “not-me” and “not-you.”

(I was 13 and in the bathtub again — where thoughts seem to hit — when this one did; I recall that, for whatever reason, it made my legs involuntarily jump, causing a terrific splash. Can someone explain?)

Resumption on the parents’ part would have meant an entirely different configuration of those eager little wigglers assaulting mom’s egg. Who, I wondered, would be in this tub now? Followed by the unsettling thought, “It might even be a girl.”
science  fertility  research  identity  biology  time  sex 
september 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Many gay couples negotiate open relationships
"When we started this study, we felt we didn't know many people with open relationships, but now our friend set is much more diverse. People we didn't think were open turned out to be. It's just not talked about that much."
gay  polyamory  relationships  marriage  sex  health  behavior  love  hiv  aids  sanfrancisco 
july 2010 by allaboutgeorge
This Life - Google Restricts Ads for ‘Cougar’ Sites - NYTimes.com
Google continues to allow similar advertising for the many sites that match older men and younger women, like DateAMillionaire.com, which assures its clients they can meet “sugar babies.”

So cougars and cubs are out, but sugar daddies and sugar babies are in.
dating  relationships  love  technology  google  men  women  power  internet  marketing  sex 
may 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Bringing vampires back home? | Reuters
"The new breed of vampires are far from monstrous, they are glamorous and sexy and have an emotional side," she said. "Their (teenagers') attraction to vampire figures provides a safe way for them to acknowledge these desires."
movies  books  fiction  creativity  sex  power  conferences 
april 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Gene Weingarten - XXX for the XX Set: Women's erotica isn't just dirty. It's nice and dirty. - washingtonpost.com
Me: If men read these books, they'd be terrified.

Kate: Why?

Me: Because what it makes clear is that, in comparative literary terms, female sexuality is James Joyce's "Ulysses" and male sexuality is "The Hardy Boys."

Kate: I won't argue with that.

Me: How can we ever hope to compete with your expectations?

Kate: Interesting. That's what we say about the material you guys use for arousal.

Me: Maybe the answer is for men and women to abandon all these immature fantasies and work tirelessly to find joy and fulfillment in the simple reality of each other's love and understanding.

Kate: You're not very bright, are you? I like that in a man.
sex  writing  fiction  relationships  men  women  reading  creativity  identity  beauty  love  gender  story  art 
february 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Feature Fetishes: Sherlock Holmes vs. Avatar / Violet Blue: Gossip blogs chirp about Holmes' no-bro-mance while Avatar promises us a "sex tape"
[...] You can keep your pretend sex between two straight, nonhuman cartoon characters. That's a fetish in need of a little love, and certainly more widespread acceptance. The rest of us will keep a little something in our front pockets for the next time we're at Baker Street Station, thanks.
movies  cinema  film  fiction  sex  gay  queer 
january 2010 by allaboutgeorge
TechCrunch: Skout Studies What Happens When Dating Goes Mobile
The company surveyed 1000 of its users 20-30 years old, with an even gender split. While everyone surveyed was a Skout user, the questions pertained to any mobile dating service. Now, obviously these stats don’t readily apply to the general public — everyone surveyed is already a Skout user, so they’re more likely than average to be inclined to use a mobile dating site. Here are some of the conclusions Skout came up with
dating  relationships  mobile  local  love  sex  polyamory  technology 
december 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Becoming a piece of meat - Sex - Salon.com
[...] Monogamy can work beautifully but it's a constant moving and growing and changing thing. A marriage doesn't get fixed, it moves. I don't know if I'd call it an indictment of marriage, I'd call it an indictment of the assumption that monogamy is the one necessary thing. I had to change how I was married and become a person who can stand on her own two feet. To find out that I could be a singular human being and also be in a marriage was the only reason that our marriage was able to survive. [...]
meat  cooking  sex  relationships  gender  marriage  power  food 
december 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Hollywood Reporter: 2012 -- Film Review
Every disaster movie derives its suspense from trying to guess which of the characters will survive and which will expire. One of the disappointments of "2012" is how predictable the crash-and-burn list turns out to be. As in many of these epics, the characters who have committed some kind of extramarital transgression are the ones marked for death. Cecil B. DeMille would have been pleased.
sex  movies  cinema  film  disaster  marriage  relationships 
november 2009 by allaboutgeorge
It’s Not You, it’s Me: Detecting Flirting and its Misperception in Speed-Dates
"Our flirtation-detection system uses prosodic, dialogue, and lexical features to detect a speaker’s intent to flirt with up to 71.5% accuracy, significantly outperforming the baseline, but also outperforming the human interlocuters. [...] Our analysis shows that humans are very poor perceivers of intended flirtatiousness, instead often projecting their own intended behavior onto their interlocutors."
love  language  relationships  men  women  sex  pdf  attention  dating  science  thinking  data  information  filetype:pdf  media:document 
october 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Why women have sex | Life and style | The Guardian
I thought that my lover adored me. No – it is because I have a symmetrical face. "I love you so much," he would say, if he could read his evolutionary impulses, "because you have a symmetrical face!" "Oh, how I love the smell of your compatible genes!" I would say back. "Symmetrical face!" "Compatible genes!" "Symmetrical face!" "Compatible genes!" And so we would osculate (kiss). I am really just a monkey trying to survive. I close the book.

I think I knew that.
sex  women  men  gender  power  relationships  love  beauty  communication  behavior  ethics  science  psychology 
october 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Why is sex so hard to put into words? - Telegraph
By now, though, I was beginning to learn a few lessons, the first of which is that being convincingly erotic is hideously difficult. It seems the writer can be erotic or convincing, but rarely both at the same time. For this, blame sex itself. The awkward truth is that real sex is often anything but erotic. It is awkward, kinky, funny, tender and messy.
writing  books  fiction  sex  creativity  story  novels  art 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Miss Information, with Erin Bradley | Advice
Physical beauty is subjective. Not only that, but attraction has hundreds of components. They’re all woven together, like some big crazy quilt made of neurons, childhood memories, and hormones. No one can ever fully understand or unravel another person’s quilt.
beauty  sex  love  relationships  gender  childhood  psychology  identity  attention 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
About Last Night . . .The Boyfriend, by Carrie Hill Wilner - Nerve.com
Once, I heard that having a boyfriend isn't about auditioning guys for the role; it's about finding someone you care enough about to write the role for. Here, I've found a specific person, but what's getting in the way isn't my idea of what he should be. It's my idea of who I am: unfettered, of loose morals, wild, restless. I’m learning, though, that these qualities don't preclude me from loving someone, no matter how hard I'd throw a bottle at someone who suggested otherwise.
writing  relationships  identity  women  men  dating  love  nyc  behavior  sex  creativity  work 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Rating Attractiveness: Consensus Among Men, Not Women, Study Finds
"As far as we know, this is the first study to investigate whether there are differences in the level of consensus male and female raters have in their attractiveness judgments," Wood says. "These differences have implications for the different experiences and strategies that could be expected for men and women in the dating marketplace."
women  men  relationships  sex  gender  culture  psychology  science  beauty  marketing 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Female Supervisors More Susceptible To Workplace Sexual Harassment
"This study provides the strongest evidence to date supporting the theory that sexual harassment is less about sexual desire than about control and domination," said Heather McLaughlin, a sociologist at the University of Minnesota and the study's primary investigator. "Male co-workers, clients and supervisors seem to be using harassment as an equalizer against women in power."
discrimination  society  work  jobs  sex  bias  power  men  women  gender  science  research 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Pray First, Then Sex, Catholic Church Says | Carnal San Francisco
"Father, send your Holy Spirit into our hearts. Place within us love that truly gives, tenderness that truly unites, self-offering that tells the truth and does not deceive, forgiveness that truly receives, loving physical union that welcomes. Open our hearts to you, to each other and to the goodness of your will.

Cover our poverty in the richness of your mercy and forgiveness. Clothe us in our true dignity and take to yourself our shared aspirations, for your glory, for ever and ever. Mary, our Mother, intercede for us. Amen."
religion  sex  christianity  spirituality  love  marriage  polyamory 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Straight, Single, and Sixty: The Truth About Dating After 55 | RHRealityCheck.org
Dating over fifty-five is alive and well in spite of the challenges, the heartbreak, and the silly happenings that come with age. The need for intimacy never ends.
sex  relationships  aging  love  friendship  health  1960s  dating 
august 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com Life | It's hot! It's sexy! It's ... marriage!
We talk about our marriages so seriously and with such reverence; we talk about our sex or lack thereof in the same way. Maybe we shouldn't. Maybe we shouldn't treat the institution and its dirty little companion as some sort of precious Fabergé egg that is either shattered and worthless or pristine, untouchable and priceless. Maybe it's more like Silly Putty and the plastic egg it comes in. Sometimes the egg is open, allowing for hours of stretchy, flexible fun; sometimes the egg is closed and kind of boring, but as long as the Silly Putty remains inside the egg it's still full of as much potential as your imagination allows, and the value of the egg is not diminished no matter how often or vigorously the egg or its contents are fingered or played with. (And yes, I was staring at a Silly Putty egg on my dining room table when I came up with that extended metaphor.)
marriage  relationships  beauty  love  sex  writing  men  women  humor  comedy 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Indian Court Overturns Gay Sex Ban - NYTimes.com
“The inclusiveness that Indian society traditionally displayed, literally in every aspect of life, is manifest in recognizing a role in society for everyone,” judges of the Delhi High Court wrote in a 105-page decision, India’s first to directly address rights for gay men and lesbians. “Those perceived by the majority as ‘deviants’ or ‘different’ are not on that score excluded or ostracized” [...]
india  gay  gender  sex  law  justice 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Scattershot, Desperate, and Sleazy | n+1
On Craigslist, people say what they want; on Nerve or OK Cupid, they say who they are, and you infer the rest. Craigslist is scattershot, confessional, desperate, and sleazy. It's like a wholesale thrift store where nothing is hung up, no two items are alike, and the savviest shoppers wear rubber gloves. The other dating sites are for discerning petit-bouregois who like to read Consumer Reports and make informed decisions. Craigslist's the insane, open-all-night corner store where you go at 3 a.m. for unhealthy snacks, where a bony cat roams the aisles and there's a permanent card game going on in back. You go there for what you want right now and will most likely consume in private. Or you go there because you just can't sleep, and you need somebody else to know it.
relationships  craigslist  dating  psychology  sex  love  internet  marketing  identity 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Hormonal health linked to open blinds and sex | Straight.com
Turner advises everything from opening your blinds immediately upon waking in the morning (which she says will boost serotonin and reduce melatonin) to deep breathing on the way to work (which will decrease cortisol and increase serotonin) to strength training (which will lower cortisol and insulin and increase DHEA, testosterone, dopamine, and serotonin).
health  stress  biology  sex  beauty 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Incidental submission. at The Perverted Negress
I hear so many people talking, myself included, about “managing their lives.”

Increasingly this sounds like so much bullshit.

You can’t manage it. You can only ride it. Submit to it.

And in doing so, with the fight between me and destiny and pain slowly grinding to a standstill, the quiet is filled with some really strange and beautiful music.
time  work  career  sex  identity  attention  power  relationships  jobs  psychology  spirituality 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
True Stories: Brazilian Girls - Nerve.com
More than once, I had to fight the urge to step back, raise my hands defensively over my head, and say, "Despite the fact that I am foreign, and am somewhat interested in getting into your pants, I am not objectifying you. I respect you as a human being, who happens to be female and Brazilian."
sex  brazil  writing  nonfiction  travel  language  identity 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
The Associated Press: Nev. brothel hopes male prostitutes boost business
The owner of a Nevada brothel suffering from the recession thinks she has been ignoring about half the market — the half that prefers men. [...] Meanwhile, Davis is drawing up her help wanted ad. She said she'll be looking for one or two men "in good shape, in their mid-30s to 50s." Asked about the age range, she notes that's another way women differ from men.

"Look at George Clooney, he's 50 and he's still considered a very sexy man. Women don't consider a man washed up by the time he's 50," she said.
sex  men  business  nevada  gender  women  employment  aging 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Steven Soderbergh and Sasha Grey deliver "The Girlfriend Experience" - Beyond the Multiplex - Salon.com
You can see relationships that seem to be really unbalanced, where one person in them holds all the cards and the other person has no cards. And when I've made the mistake of trying to help, I come to find out that this is not what it appears to be at all. That there are absolutely buttons being pressed in both directions here and I'm dealing with two people who want those buttons pressed, and I was told by them basically to leave them alone. And I learned a lesson there. I only ask why when it comes to things that I do. I've stopped asking why when it comes to things that other people do, because I've realized I just don't know.
men  women  gender  work  sex  relationships  power 
may 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Nerve.com Hires New CEO, And New Plans To Downplay Nudity - BusinessWeek
Nerve is an unusual Web content business in that it has four revenue streams. They are: personal ads, premium subscriptions, licensing (mostly books) and advertising. The personals, which Griscom says remains a growing business even after new ways to connect online with MySpace and Facebook arose, literally saved the business during the online ad drought earlier this decade.

The new Nerve will have no subscriber- and member-only areas—though the untitled new site for nerve’s photo archives will charge a subscription fee--which means it will tack somewhat against some current sentiment. Many newspapers, facing severe revenue droughts, are openly discussing a willingness to try new subscription models for online content.
business  sex  online  web  media  video  writing  essay  marketing  myspace  facebook  social  photography 
april 2009 by allaboutgeorge
A boom in online dating | Connecting up | The Economist
EHarmony.com "also noticed that the number of visits to its website was higher than average on days when the Dow Jones Industrial Average fell by more than 100 points."
dating  relationshps  men  women  sex  love  online  social  socialnetworking  business 
march 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Beauty Affects Men's and Women's Brains Differently | Wired Science from Wired.com
"In current hunter-gatherer groups, men are in charge of hunting; meanwhile women collect," said Cela-Conde. "If this is a scheme that can be extended to ancestors’ behavior, then we can think about a selective pressure to increase the capacity of spatial orientation in men, and the capacity to identify edible plants and tubers in women."
psychology  brain  science  research  beauty  men  women  sex  gender 
february 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Why I've had enough literary sex - Telegraph
"It is even harder than writing comedy – it's all about pace and timing. And just as not everyone has the same sense of humour, not everyone has the same erotic triggers. But sex sells so sometimes the critical faculties disappear.

"It's the same with art. You can be the most amazing collector but when it comes to erotic pieces, the quality control goes out the window and you end up with something that looks as if it has come from Forum magazine circa 1970."
sex  writing  fiction  uk  humor  shortstory 
january 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Science News / It’s Written All Over Your Face
"The average person you pass on the street is probably not ‘hot or not.' But if they are hot or not, they should activate some kind of socially behavioral response [the reward circuitry] that says go after that person at all costs or avoid them at all costs because mating could be really horrific for your [offspring’s] genes."
science  health  psychology  beauty  sex  relationships 
january 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Doing It: Books: The New Yorker
If “The Joy of Sex” was like “Joy of Cooking”—though in some ways it was closer to Julia Child’s “Mastering the Art of French Cooking,” what with its strong authorial voice and affection for elaborate undertakings, to which Comfort assigned French names like pattes d’araignée, cuissade, and feuille de rose—“Our Bodies, Ourselves” was like the “Moosewood Cookbook.” Everything in it was healthful, enlightened, nourishing.
books  sex  writing  1970s  newyorker 
december 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Q&A, Rufus Griscom, CEO of Nerve: "Nerve: The First Ten Years" | Salon Life
"I think NSFW warnings are fantastic. There are probably very few combinations of four letters that generate clicks more consistently than NSFW."
nsfw  sex  writing  publishing  books  media  magazines  interviews 
december 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Amazon.com: George Kelly's review of Rachel Kramer Bussel's "Bedding Down: A Collection of Winter Erotica"
The blank page can look a lot like a snow-covered field. You enter with a sense of expansion and freedom, watch the trail you leave behind. [...]
sex  fiction  shortstory  reviews  writing  winter 
december 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Lust cools but the knickers keep flying for Tom Jones - Times Online
“It started in 1969 at the Copacabana in New York. This woman stood up and took off her knickers and handed them to me. And I said, ‘Whoa! Hope you don’t catch cold’.”
music  interviews  public  uk  sex 
december 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Confessions of an Aca/Fan: Race in Digital Space (Revisited): An Interview with Sarah N. Gatson (Part One)
While one might assume that a fandom identity takes the ultimately salient position in a fandom space, what exactly might that fandom identity entail, and who is to say what is the "appropriate" salience a fan's other identities should take in that fan-expressive space? Not talking about race, gender, class, sexuality - or being pressured not to do so - in a fandom space ends up offering a "generic" or "normalized" fan. If that fan is generic, what has typically been the go-to generic fan identity? The fanboy, who also has a presumed race, class, and sexuality, right? We're being disingenuous if we pretend that this isn't so.
attention  identity  presence  reputation  games  race  gender  class  sex  creativity  online  sports 
december 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Modern Love - Could Getting a Buyout Package Lead to Buyout Sex? - NYTimes.com
[...] It doesn’t take abs of steel or a perfect jaw line to be the sexiest man in the newsroom. Those are dowdy places, often a refuge for the smart kids who first fell from social grace in junior high. Occasionally a glamorous person does wander through, but only on his way to a career in television. [...]
sex  relationships  writing  media  journalism  newspapers  news  television  beauty  movies  cinema  film 
november 2008 by allaboutgeorge
France. Sex. Problem? - NYTimes.com
“Prostitution is the last sexual territory owned by men. Men are in control of pleasure and have the right to buy it. Women do not. A lot of my friends are alone, lonely, divorced. They can’t always reinvent themselves with another man and a new family. So I decided to show a female client of a male escort. She’s not a victim. She is a woman who is in control of her life, her feelings, her sexual pleasure.”
gender  sex  culture  europe  film  society  movies  france  women  men  economics  marketing  books  happiness  feminism 
november 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Well - More People Appear to Be Cheating on Their Spouses, Studies Find - NYTimes.com
“I see a changing landscape in which the emphasis is less on the sex than it is on the openness and intimacy and the revelation of secrets. Everybody talks by cellphone and the relationship evolves because you become increasingly distant from whomever you lie to, and you become increasingly close to whomever you tell the truth to.”
marriage  love  sex  relationships  friendship  technology  identity  ethics  communication  research  polyamory  cellphones  mobile 
october 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Matchmakers, Matchmakers, Making a Mint - washingtonpost.com
"By your late 20s, many people are not willing to stand around in a bar all night . . . and they've met everybody they would've met through their office mates. So they're turning to new ways to do this same old thing, which is: find love."
love  relationships  marriage  men  women  technology  work  jobs  sex  money  social  yasns 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Love and infidelity: How our brains keep us from straying - Los Angeles Times
[...] "A new line of research is exploring how automatic psychological mechanisms kick into action when the eye starts to wander, helping resist temptation and strengthening the relationship -- even without us being aware of it. Here's a sample from some recently published experiments (all on heterosexual men and women in committed monogamous relationships) that show how our brain keeps us connected to -- and, yes, even happy with -- the old ball and chain. (Spoiler: When it comes to relationships, men and women are a bit different.) [...]"
love  men  women  marriage  relationships  beauty  sex  psychology  biology  science  research 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Bryan Adams: Hit Was About Sex, Not 1969, Tells Maggie Rodriguez "Summer Of '69" Wasn't, As Many Assume, About Nostalgia - CBS News
"A lot of people think it's about the year, but actually, it's more about making love in the summertime. It's using '69 as a sexual reference."
wtf  songwriting  music  1980s  sex 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Findings - As External Barriers Disappear, Internal Gender Gaps Widen - NYTimes.com
“Humanity’s jaunt into monotheism, agriculturally based economies and the monopolization of power and resources by a few men was ‘unnatural’ in many way. In some ways modern progressive cultures are returning us psychologically to our hunter-gatherer roots. That means high sociopolitical gender equality over all, but with men and women expressing predisposed interests in different domains. Removing the stresses of traditional agricultural societies could allow men’s, and to a lesser extent women’s, more ‘natural’ personality traits to emerge.”
men  women  gender  psychology  health  evolution  research  science  sex  culture  nytimes  nature  poverty 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
BBC NEWS | Health | Declaring love boosts sex appeal
"Combining information about others' physical beauty with information about how attracted they appear to be to you allows you to allocate your social effort efficiently."
love  relationships  beauty  men  women  sex  communication  thinking  information  social  dating  behavior  health  science  research  psychology 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Salon TV Week: Alan Ball on his new HBO show, "True Blood" | Salon Arts & Entertainment
"I don't want to just sit there and let something that is predigested wash over me and not really think about all of the weird, ambiguous and scary parts of life. I think trying to avoid those is ultimately self-destructive and also destructive in a global sense, because as a race we face a lot of really, really terrifying problems, and we live in a violent, irrational world."
television  cable  writing  creativity  thinking  world  entertainment  sex  death 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Vasectomies: Word of caution on birth-control procedure -- chicagotribune.com
"Every once in a while you get this weird thought of, 'I'm never going to be a father.' It's equal parts terrifying because you're not like everyone else, and also because you made this extreme decision at 27."
sex  men  health  choice  identity  dating  relationships  marriage  parenting  women  aging 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The new Joy of Sex: why you still need help in bed - Times Online
“I think what a lot of the other material out there misses is how powerful sex is; people die for it, literally. One of the ways we've gone wrong in the past is that we haven't recognised this emotional power. Sex isn't a game - it's not pink and black and fluffy. So I think there still is a need for a book that takes sex seriously.”
sex  books  aesthetics  biology  science  reading  1970s  uk  gender  men  women  health 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Sex and the semicolon - The Boston Globe
"Sexist language aside, though, the semicolon debate is a model of the way we should approach most disagreements about usage issues: as matters of taste, not law. The interesting questions, after all, aren't about using its and it's; they're the ones that have, yes, nuance and complexity."
grammar  language  english  beauty  sex  aesthetics  copyediting  editing  speech  writing 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
My failed attempt at groupie sex. By Mike Young - Nerve.com
"[...] Really, the trick isn't making them turn around. It's doing what you promise without feeling cheesy. Accepting what you've already done: beckoned a stranger out of the intimacy of a dark audience into an even more confident darkness. The songs — they do the work. Your job is just to live up to them. Your job is to prove they're true."
music  songwriting  sex  power  writing  creativity  rock  beauty 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
FT.com / Columnists / Lunch with the FT - Lunch with the FT: Gloria Steinem
"[W]hat we have done so far is only count the kind of experience that men also have. What we need to be able to do is count all human experience. So I would like to count the secretarial positions as good training places to take over the jobs of the bosses."
feminism  work  jobs  politics  democrats  clinton  sex  women  men  lunch 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The Age of the Silver Fox | Advocate.com
"While men used to cover their gray with Grecian Formula, now an increasing number of them are proudly accepting their changing hair color -- regardless of their age."
aging  men  sex  beauty  fashion  identity  gay  reputation 
july 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Charles Arthur: God help us if machines ever think like people | Technology | guardian.co.uk
"The deliberative system requires something closer to language; it's younger, and it and the ancestral system frequently disagree and fight like two cats in a bag. The older one, being better wired into our subconscious, often gets the upper hand."
history  ritual  sex  marketing  animals  theory  robots  creativity  evolution 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com Books | Kiss my ass
"One can only wonder: Who will be the Sodomites of tomorrow?" Oh, that's easy.
sex  marriage  polyamory  books  love  beauty  relationships  law  justice 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
A raunchy best seller gets Germans talking - International Herald Tribune
"It's not feminist in a political sense, but instead feminism of the body, that has to do with anxiety and repression and the fear that you stink, and this for me is clearly feminist, that one builds confidence with your own body."
books  criticism  germany  sex  women  aesthetics  feminism  writing  novels  hiphop  marketing 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com Life | Those dirty girls
"Sexual ecstasy is not something you buy. It cannot be bought. But we have come a long way. No question. Definitely. But it's not because of 'Sex and the City.' It's because of what real women have done in real lives, not on TV sets."
sex  women  television  power  beauty  writing  diy  cable  friendship  cities  urban  feminism 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The Dandy Man Can
"So you and Rachel have an open relationship?" "Our relationship isn't open. It's more ajar."
polyamory  sex  love  relationships  fashion  aesthetics  men  women 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
New York Magazine: The Affairs of Men
“I haven’t ever seen anyone who doesn’t deliver on every single demand their sexuality makes on them. [...] There is no more unnatural principle of social organization than sexual exclusivity."
sex  men  marriage  relationships  polyamory  love  nyc  social 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Nerve: Triangulation, by Caitlin MacRae
"Half of me wants to grow out of this, find a single, solitary person and hunker down for the long haul. The other half can't let go of that ideal, the nostalgia for the time when being the third meant being a significant other."
sex  relationships  identity  love  friendship  polyamory 
april 2008 by allaboutgeorge
On being unmarried for forty years, by Lisa Gabriele - Nerve.com
"That's why most relationships crack under pressure, I think — they're not built to fix us. We're supposed to fix them."
relationships  marriage  love  identity  friendship  alcohol  drinking  sex  religion  essay 
april 2008 by allaboutgeorge
BBC NEWS | Europe | Putin dismisses divorce rumours
"I have always reacted negatively to those who with their snotty noses and erotic fantasies prowl into others' lives."
russia  sex  politics  relationships  media  journalism 
april 2008 by allaboutgeorge
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