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Ask Polly: ‘I Hate Men.’
But even as the sky falls, know that you are the decider. Feel that in your heart. Yes, you’re broken and the world is exploding. But you’re still alive. You’ve been staring into a tiny diorama instead of seeing the gorgeous, windy, overheated horizon right in front of your eyes. Step onto this broad landscape, feel the hot wind in your hair, and know that you are powerful beyond measure.
feminism  relationships  power  men  women  family  advice 
16 days ago by allaboutgeorge
Net Shop Boys — Real Life
Grailed is an aperture, albeit a narrow one, into how men negotiate their masculinity, how they resolve their bodies with the world. The quirks in their performance, where I can find them, act as ruptures in a gender that’s mythologized as self-evident, never practiced, never learned. These holes are doors. They are a way in.
clothing  fashion  men  power  shopping  business  internet  gender 
16 days ago by allaboutgeorge
Tender Photos of Black Men That Redefine Masculinity - VICE
There is a refusal embedded in my pictures, but also my use of shadow and light, and decisions about display, points to me as a black male taking ownership of signifying the beauty and possibility of these bodies.
art  photography  african  BlackLivesMatter  beauty  men 
7 weeks ago by allaboutgeorge
The Suit | Vestoj
A suit isn’t merely a uniform, traditionally made of one fabric. It is, if one is a believer in the power of style, a sly opportunity to play with notions of passing while also signaling dissent.
fashion  men  work  power  sex  gender  career 
july 2017 by allaboutgeorge
It All Started Here: The Gay Legacy of GQ | GQ
“That’s how I became aware of Bruce, through GQ,” says Klein. “I loved what he was doing. I thought he had a wide appeal, beyond straight or gay. With him we were able to show women and men in a sexy way.”
fashion  men  gay  lgbt  magazines  photography  style 
june 2017 by allaboutgeorge
We can teach women to code, but that just creates another problem
"Introducing women into a discipline can be seen as empowerment for women," Ensmenger says. "But it is often seen by men as a reduction of their status. Because, historically speaking, the more women in a profession, the lower paid it is."
computing  gender  labor  code  women  men 
june 2017 by allaboutgeorge
Dan Savage on the Virtues of Infidelity - NYTimes.com
“One size never fits all, and it isn’t just dividing between men and women and gay and straight. Monoga­my is not natural, nonmonogamy is not natural. Variation is what’s natural.”
marriage  sex  polyamory  love  disclosure  family  relationships  reputation  men  women  gay 
july 2011 by allaboutgeorge
Once Rare in Rural America, Divorce Is Changing the Face of Its Families - NYTimes.com
Maria Kefalas, a sociology professor at St. Joseph’s University in Philadelphia and co-author of “Hollowing Out the Middle,” a 2009 book about the migration of the educated class from rural Iowa, said that changes in families have been profound. She noted that the alarm sounded by Daniel Patrick Moynihan in 1965 about the rise of out-of-wedlock births among African-Americans applies to the country as a whole today: One in three babies is born to unmarried parents.

“It has hit the whitest, most married, most idyllic heart of America — Iowa,” Professor Kefalas said. “The cultural narrative about marriage — you get a job, you marry your sweetheart, you buy a house, you educate your kids — has been torn to shreds. Without that economic foundation, the story cannot support itself.”
marriage  men  women  feminism  race  children  iowa 
march 2011 by allaboutgeorge
Study: Regrets? Women have a few, particularly in romance - Chicago Sun-Times
“Regret is something that can push people into better success in the future. It’s a motivator. ... It’s a benefit if you take a lesson and move on quickly. It’s a problem if you keep [re-living] that same regret over and over again.”
behavior  men  women  research  relationships  love  marriage  health 
march 2011 by allaboutgeorge
When a love for art turns into lust - Sex News, Sex Talk - Salon.com
Romanticizing the act of writing or any other art is not very helpful to the artist or the art. It's much better if one simply does. It worked better for me when I was just a writer, a working person. I've never felt that I needed a special desk with a special light coming in from the window at a special angle. It's work, not so different from that way you fix dinner or you pick up a child at school.
writing  sex  men  women  art  creativity  books  memoir  story  business 
march 2011 by allaboutgeorge
Happy 50th, Henry Rollins < PopMatters
“There’s nothing bad about it. And with the rest you just have to have some humor. Your hair is grey and there are lines on your face. You look at women and say, ‘Wow.’ But wait, they’re half my age. There are all these things that you have to say to yourself, ‘that’s not an option anymore.’ And you have to laugh at it and say, ‘rumble young man, rumble,’” quoting Muhammad Ali.

He continues, “And so if anything turning 50 has been good in that it gets me up and gets me down the road with way more urgency than I had when I was 20. When I was 20 you couldn’t tell me anything. I said, ‘I’m 20 and I need nothing. I can live on nothing and the world is my oyster.’ Now I’m older and I have more of a grip. There is something at stake and I have a few more laps around the track and then I’m out. So, I might as well make as much trouble as I can before I go. And for me that’s all the motivation I need.”
aging  rock  men  music  radio  kcrw 
february 2011 by allaboutgeorge
How Did Humphrey Bogart Become Immortal? - Alyssa Rosenberg - Culture - The Atlantic
In a world where we have more options in entertainment in general and the movies in particular, why do we continue to need Humphrey Bogart? Rick never figured out why Ilsa ended up in his bar in Casablanca. But why isn't really the important part: All that matters is that she's there.
movies  identity  men  acting  cinema  film  hollywood 
february 2011 by allaboutgeorge
The economics of love - Coupling: Dating, marriage and other relationships - Salon.com
"Economics is the study of how people and societies allocate scarce resources. Relationships involve two people who are sharing scarce resources -- whether that's time, energy, libidos, money, ambition, patience, whatever -- and that's of course going to involve trade-offs."
economics  relationships  love  technology  data  information  men  women  sex  marriage  beauty  attention  money  dating 
january 2011 by allaboutgeorge
‘The Walking Dead’ Unleashes Zombies on AMC - Review - NYTimes.com
The one good thing about the walking dead is that they don’t drive.

All it really takes to outrun a zombie is a car. Also, a bullet to the head will stop one cold. And that may explain why so many men prefer zombies to vampires: zombie stories pivot on men’s two favorite things: fast cars and guns. Better yet, zombies almost never talk. Vampires, especially of late, are mostly a female obsession. Works like “Twilight” and “True Blood” suggest that the best way to defeat a vampire is to make him fall so in love that he resists the urge to bite. And that’s a powerful, if naïve, female fantasy: a mate so besotted he gives up his most primal cravings for the woman he loves.

Vampires are imbued with romance. Zombies are not. (Zombies are from Mars, vampires are from Venus.)
zombies  television  amctv  fiction  story  gender  men  women  literature 
october 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Hugh Hefner has been good for us - Roger Ebert's Journal
You may believe Playboy was the enemy of women. It objectified their bodies. It schooled men to regard them as sex objects. It stood for all that feminists fought to correct. There is some truth to that, but it doesn't impact upon my experience, and the best I can do here is be truthful.

Nobody taught me to regard women as sex objects. I always did. Most men do. And truth to tell, most women regard men as sex objects. We regard many other aspects of another person, but sex is the elephant in the room. Evolution has hard-wired us that way. When we meet a new person, in some small recess of our minds we evaluate that person as a sex partner. We don't act on it, we don't dwell on it, but we do it. You know we do. And this process continues bravely until we are old and feeble.
sex  men  women  magazines  love  relationships  identity  attention  presence  writing  journalism 
october 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Smartphones bring mixed blessings for newspapers | Media | guardian.co.uk
The report found that men were almost 50% more likely to access the mobile internet using some form of app than women. About 46% of men who access mobile media use an app to do so, whereas just 35% of women do. Overall about 70% of UK users of mobile internet devices did so using a traditional browser, similar to the percentage for PCs – with 55% also opting to use an app.

Steve Ricketts, the Orange head of mobile commerce and marketing, said that one reason for the preference for mobile browsers over apps was because in the UK brands and retailers had made significant investment into developing websites that were easy to use via a mobile phone.
mobile  newspapers  research  men  women  technology  media  journalism  marketing  business  shopping 
october 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Poor 'Scott Pilgrim': Michael Cera Scares The Olds and Irritates The Youngs - The Awl
So on the one hand, Cera is the target of older critics that don't get his brand of "humor," and on the other Cera plays the same character in every single movie and we really don't have a good young 21st-century leading man, yet. Joseph Gordon-Levitt is too peripheral; Robert Pattinson and Nicholas Hoult and Daniel Radcliffe and William Moseley too English and too tied to their main roles. Who else? Josh Hutcherson is too young-Michael J. Fox. Max Records isn't getting any work. But the demand for a real, non-vampire, truly millennial male star is there, and it's only a matter of time before we get someone better.
hollywood  film  cinema  movies  men 
august 2010 by allaboutgeorge
When 'Twilight' fandom becomes addiction - latimes.com
"If you take away 'Twilight' and put in a football team, this doesn't look so much different from what guys have been doing for decades," says Baym. "They stay up late at night looking at statistics and playing fantasy football. You could just as easily say they've lost touch with reality or that they're addicted. 'Twilight' is just a story women are engaging with passionately, so people say it's dysfunctional. On the other hand, maybe men's relationship with football is dysfunctional as well."
culture  marriage  movies  fandom  story  identity  relationships  online  internet  men  women  sports 
june 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Music - James Taylor and Carole King’s ‘Troubadour Reunion’ Tour - NYTimes.com
As reunions go, this one is less dramatic than some others from the period. While Ms. King and Mr. Taylor performed and recorded together quite a bit in the early 1970s, they were never formally a duo. They never fell out and never broke up. Most significantly — and highly uncharacteristically for those freewheeling times — they were never lovers, so there was no complicated personal history to resolve. If the tour can be said to have a message, it’s that not everything has to end — or end badly.

“It’s nice to see a man and a woman who have continually respected what they meant to each other professionally,” said Sheila Weller, the author of “Girls Like Us,” a book about Ms. King, Joni Mitchell and Carly Simon. “It’s like the people in ‘The Big Chill’: ‘I will never let you down. No matter where you are, call me and I’ll come.’ ”
friendship  music  livemusic  songwriting  1960s  1970s  women  men 
june 2010 by allaboutgeorge
This Life - Google Restricts Ads for ‘Cougar’ Sites - NYTimes.com
Google continues to allow similar advertising for the many sites that match older men and younger women, like DateAMillionaire.com, which assures its clients they can meet “sugar babies.”

So cougars and cubs are out, but sugar daddies and sugar babies are in.
dating  relationships  love  technology  google  men  women  power  internet  marketing  sex 
may 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Sex Offender Week: Rivers Cuomo Messes You Up Forever - The Awl
I am not the world's leading expert on emotional maturity. I find that PJ Harvey song about mutilating dudes to be emotionally useful, on a more or less continual basis. But I will tell you this: The moment you, the female listener, break up with your internal Rivers Cuomo, the moment you renounce this particular mode of male expression and declare it no longer desirable or cute, the moment you no longer confuse the feeling of wanting to take a boy home and make him soup and somehow fix all his problems via blow job with love, is the moment that you're free. Because, at that point, you no longer care so much about his feelings. You still care, of course, about those. But never more than you care about your own.
feminism  music  humor  writing  nonfiction  1990s  relationships  love  men  women  rock 
april 2010 by allaboutgeorge
How to Build Your Wardrobe for Men | The Art of Manliness
There are many things that we can’t control; the weather, the economy, the fact that college football needs a playoff system. How we present ourselves to strangers and new acquaintances, however, is not one of them. When you shake hands with a potential partner, they form an instant impression of you which is not easily dislodged. First impressions are powerful because until we begin to speak, they are the only bits of information we have to make a snap decision as to whether we like or trust someone. Countless communication studies have shown a man’s visual appearance is initially more powerful than what he says; ignore your wardrobe at your own risk.
fashion  men  style  advice  howto  business  beauty  identity  attention 
april 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Final feature: Tweeting feminists exploring feminism and social media - Tweeting Feminists
“When I was younger it was very difficult to find people who were like minded unless they were in your immediate circle. So there was a sense of being limited by the impact you can make,” says Klein. “But now we have a forum where we can publish our own voices, we can organize, we can protest, we can within minutes circulate flyers and newsletters and letter writing campaigns and that’s incredible. I think it’s really opened up the world of activism and community.”
feminism  women  media  twitter  social  socialnetworking  online  men  identity  protest  activism 
april 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Women Who Drink Gain Less Weight - Well Blog - NYTimes.com
Dieters are often advised to stop drinking alcohol to avoid the extra calories lurking in a glass of wine or a favorite cocktail. But new research suggests that women who regularly consume moderate amounts of alcohol are less likely to gain weight than nondrinkers and are at lower risk for obesity.
alcohol  women  drinking  health  men  nytimes 
march 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Gene Weingarten - XXX for the XX Set: Women's erotica isn't just dirty. It's nice and dirty. - washingtonpost.com
Me: If men read these books, they'd be terrified.

Kate: Why?

Me: Because what it makes clear is that, in comparative literary terms, female sexuality is James Joyce's "Ulysses" and male sexuality is "The Hardy Boys."

Kate: I won't argue with that.

Me: How can we ever hope to compete with your expectations?

Kate: Interesting. That's what we say about the material you guys use for arousal.

Me: Maybe the answer is for men and women to abandon all these immature fantasies and work tirelessly to find joy and fulfillment in the simple reality of each other's love and understanding.

Kate: You're not very bright, are you? I like that in a man.
sex  writing  fiction  relationships  men  women  reading  creativity  identity  beauty  love  gender  story  art 
february 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Sinatra Song Often Strikes Deadly Chord - NYTimes.com
“ ‘I did it my way’ — it’s so arrogant,” Mr. Albarracin said. “The lyrics evoke feelings of pride and arrogance in the singer, as if you’re somebody when you’re really nobody. It covers up your failures. That’s why it leads to fights.”
music  karaoke  philippines  livemusic  art  crime  death  murder  aesthetics  songwriting  men  behavior  reputation 
february 2010 by allaboutgeorge
More Men Marrying Wealthier Wives - NYTimes.com
Syreeta McFadden, a 35-year-old Columbia and Sarah Lawrence graduate who is between jobs after working in real estate development, said: “With men of any ethnic group, it’s a little intimidating for them to encounter smart women. Money is tricky.

“But, I think for me, it comes down to compatibility,” Ms. McFadden said. “Can you grow with me? Or as my genius friend the textile designer says, she asks on first dates or meeting men in bars, ‘Do you have a passport and a library card?'"
women  men  relationships  love  marriage 
january 2010 by allaboutgeorge
Vital Signs - Study Finds Women Wear Shoes That Cause Pain - NYTimes.com
“I think women need to really pay attention to how a shoe fits and realize that what you’re buying could have potential effects on your feet for the rest of your life,” said the paper’s lead author, Alyssa B. Dufour, a doctoral student in biostatistics at Boston University. “It’s important to pay attention to size and width, and not just buy it because it’s cute.”
fashion  marketing  women  men  health  science  research  massachusetts  beauty  gender 
december 2009 by allaboutgeorge
It’s Not You, it’s Me: Detecting Flirting and its Misperception in Speed-Dates
"Our flirtation-detection system uses prosodic, dialogue, and lexical features to detect a speaker’s intent to flirt with up to 71.5% accuracy, significantly outperforming the baseline, but also outperforming the human interlocuters. [...] Our analysis shows that humans are very poor perceivers of intended flirtatiousness, instead often projecting their own intended behavior onto their interlocutors."
love  language  relationships  men  women  sex  pdf  attention  dating  science  thinking  data  information  filetype:pdf  media:document 
october 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Why women have sex | Life and style | The Guardian
I thought that my lover adored me. No – it is because I have a symmetrical face. "I love you so much," he would say, if he could read his evolutionary impulses, "because you have a symmetrical face!" "Oh, how I love the smell of your compatible genes!" I would say back. "Symmetrical face!" "Compatible genes!" "Symmetrical face!" "Compatible genes!" And so we would osculate (kiss). I am really just a monkey trying to survive. I close the book.

I think I knew that.
sex  women  men  gender  power  relationships  love  beauty  communication  behavior  ethics  science  psychology 
october 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Generation B - 50-Something, Divorced and Looking for Love - NYTimes.com
“Among the divorced, the least marriageables in our society are older women, highly educated who make a good salary.”

“Studies show men tend to marry down — someone slightly younger, less educated, making less money,” Dr. Adler-Baeder said. “Women in their 50s literally don’t have a visible pool of eligible men around them.”

“And if she’s tall on top of that,” Dr. Adler-Baeder said, “the pool’s even smaller.”
marriage  relationships  love  men  women  aging  beauty  families  children  dating  divorce 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
About Last Night . . .The Boyfriend, by Carrie Hill Wilner - Nerve.com
Once, I heard that having a boyfriend isn't about auditioning guys for the role; it's about finding someone you care enough about to write the role for. Here, I've found a specific person, but what's getting in the way isn't my idea of what he should be. It's my idea of who I am: unfettered, of loose morals, wild, restless. I’m learning, though, that these qualities don't preclude me from loving someone, no matter how hard I'd throw a bottle at someone who suggested otherwise.
writing  relationships  identity  women  men  dating  love  nyc  behavior  sex  creativity  work 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Meet the Superior Wife - The Globe and Mail
"The culture still attaches negative associations to men speaking about their personal lives. They are supposed to know this stuff. They are not supposed to ask for help. It's seen as a weakness. ...

"In the same way that at one point in the work world, men might have had to say to women, 'Here's what you have to do in business to be successful,' men get it that they have to receive wisdom in the domestic realm. And just as women have found that their way of doing things in the work world brings added value, men see that there's a male way of doing things in the home.

"Both men and women have their emerging competencies."
men  women  marriage  relationships  gender  power  parenting  children  communication 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Rating Attractiveness: Consensus Among Men, Not Women, Study Finds
"As far as we know, this is the first study to investigate whether there are differences in the level of consensus male and female raters have in their attractiveness judgments," Wood says. "These differences have implications for the different experiences and strategies that could be expected for men and women in the dating marketplace."
women  men  relationships  sex  gender  culture  psychology  science  beauty  marketing 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Female Supervisors More Susceptible To Workplace Sexual Harassment
"This study provides the strongest evidence to date supporting the theory that sexual harassment is less about sexual desire than about control and domination," said Heather McLaughlin, a sociologist at the University of Minnesota and the study's primary investigator. "Male co-workers, clients and supervisors seem to be using harassment as an equalizer against women in power."
discrimination  society  work  jobs  sex  bias  power  men  women  gender  science  research 
september 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Salon.com Life | It's hot! It's sexy! It's ... marriage!
We talk about our marriages so seriously and with such reverence; we talk about our sex or lack thereof in the same way. Maybe we shouldn't. Maybe we shouldn't treat the institution and its dirty little companion as some sort of precious Fabergé egg that is either shattered and worthless or pristine, untouchable and priceless. Maybe it's more like Silly Putty and the plastic egg it comes in. Sometimes the egg is open, allowing for hours of stretchy, flexible fun; sometimes the egg is closed and kind of boring, but as long as the Silly Putty remains inside the egg it's still full of as much potential as your imagination allows, and the value of the egg is not diminished no matter how often or vigorously the egg or its contents are fingered or played with. (And yes, I was staring at a Silly Putty egg on my dining room table when I came up with that extended metaphor.)
marriage  relationships  beauty  love  sex  writing  men  women  humor  comedy 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Dangerous Resentment - Judith Warner Blog - NYTimes.com
The idea that women with “major educations” are somehow suspect, the desire to smack them down and tell them “to be quiet” is hardly new. At the end of the 19th century, as increasing numbers of women began for the first time to pursue higher education, a campaign began, waged by prominent doctors, among others, against these new unnatural monsters, whose vital energies were being diverted from their wombs to their brains. In the last quarter of the 20th century, feminists were routinely delegitimized as brainy elitists ignorant of and unconcerned with the plight of ordinary women.
identity  social  women  gender  culture  education  feminism  society  discrimination  men 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
John Dillinger, Existentialist by Thomas S. Hibbs on National Review Online
But the pace, in the end, is precisely the point. Dillinger is nothing more than what he does. He robs banks, and in this he achieves a kind of freedom, liberation from petty concerns over a job and a family, over what others think of him, over the desire for money and advancement, even over the fear of death, as the scene in the Biograph indicates.

That accounts for both the attraction of Dillinger and his essential emptiness, a combination that Mann’s own film mimics: artistic flair wedded to nihilism.
movies  cinema  film  aesthetics  beauty  philosophy  crime  men  gender  power  identity 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
MediaPost Publications Most Americans Still Befuddled By Smartphones 07/02/2009
Women are far more eager to rate texting as very important (71% compared to 46% of men), cameras (55% of women versus 30% of men), listening to music on their mobile devices (44% of women versus 25% of men) and game functions (14% versus 9% of men.) Women were also more likely to rank GPS and book reading features as very important.

Men, on the other hand, are far more likely to rank calendar functions that link to their computers as very important (46% versus 39%).
gender  men  women  mobile  research  business  technology  location  games  photography  music  social 
july 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Flutes Offer Clues to Stone-Age Music - NYTimes.com
It so happens, as Dr. Conard and his co-authors, Susanne C. Münzel of Tubingen and Maria Malina of the Heidelberg Academy of Sciences, noted, the Hohle Fels flute was uncovered in sediments a few feet away from the carved figurine of a busty, nude woman, also around 35,000 years old. The discovery was announced in May by Dr. Conard.

Was this evidence of happy hours after the hunt? Fertility rites or social bonding? The German archaeologists suggested that music in the Stone Age “could have contributed to the maintenance of larger social networks, and thereby perhaps have helped facilitate the demographic and territorial expansion of modern humans.”
music  ritual  history  europe  social  men  women  demography  leisure  archeology 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
CNN Political Ticker: All politics, all the time Blog Archive - Nixon to Bush 41: Find ‘attractive’ women « - Blogs from CNN.com
"I noticed a couple of very attractive women, both of them Republicans, in the legislature," Nixon told Bush. "I want you to be sure to emphasize to our people, God, let's look for some… Understand, I don't do it because I'm for women, but I'm doing it because I think maybe a woman might win someplace where a man might not… So have you got that in mind?"

Bush replies, "I'll certainly keep it in mind."
bush  president  nixon  women  politics  power  men  republicans  southcarolina  beauty 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
New Twitter Research: Men Follow Men and Nobody Tweets - Conversation Starter - HarvardBusiness.org
At the same time there is a small contingent of users who are very active. Specifically, the top 10% of prolific Twitter users accounted for over 90% of tweets. On a typical online social network, the top 10% of users account for 30% of all production. To put Twitter in perspective, consider an unlikely analogue - Wikipedia. There, the top 15% of the most prolific editors account for 90% of Wikipedia's edits ii. In other words, the pattern of contributions on Twitter is more concentrated among the few top users than is the case on Wikipedia, even though Wikipedia is clearly not a communications tool. This implies that Twitter's resembles more of a one-way, one-to-many publishing service more than a two-way, peer-to-peer communication network.
twitter  men  women  yasns  online  wikipedia  communication  data  information 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
The Associated Press: Nev. brothel hopes male prostitutes boost business
The owner of a Nevada brothel suffering from the recession thinks she has been ignoring about half the market — the half that prefers men. [...] Meanwhile, Davis is drawing up her help wanted ad. She said she'll be looking for one or two men "in good shape, in their mid-30s to 50s." Asked about the age range, she notes that's another way women differ from men.

"Look at George Clooney, he's 50 and he's still considered a very sexy man. Women don't consider a man washed up by the time he's 50," she said.
sex  men  business  nevada  gender  women  employment  aging 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
My Brief Life as a Woman - Well Blog - NYTimes.com
I was in the middle of treatment for an aggressive case of prostate cancer last winter, and it included a six-month course of hormone therapy. My Lupron shots suppressed testosterone, which is the fuel for prostate cancer.

When your testosterone is being throttled, there are bound to be side effects. So, with the help of Lupron, I spent a few months aboard the Good Ship Menopause with all the physical baggage that entails. It’s a trip that most men don’t expect to take.
women  men  health  humor  nytimes  cancer  identity  food 
june 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Steven Soderbergh and Sasha Grey deliver "The Girlfriend Experience" - Beyond the Multiplex - Salon.com
You can see relationships that seem to be really unbalanced, where one person in them holds all the cards and the other person has no cards. And when I've made the mistake of trying to help, I come to find out that this is not what it appears to be at all. That there are absolutely buttons being pressed in both directions here and I'm dealing with two people who want those buttons pressed, and I was told by them basically to leave them alone. And I learned a lesson there. I only ask why when it comes to things that I do. I've stopped asking why when it comes to things that other people do, because I've realized I just don't know.
men  women  gender  work  sex  relationships  power 
may 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Ann Powers: Kris Allen beats Adam Lambert. A shock? Nah. | Idol Tracker | Los Angeles Times
In terms of the music industry, he cuts a more contemporary figure than Lambert: Many stars now (specifically rock-oriented, male ones) tend to do better when they draw themselves to scale, offering songs that make fans feel warm and connected, not blown away.

Think Jack Johnson. Dave Matthews. Jason Mraz, who performed on the “Idol” finale. And on the country side, Keith Urban, with whom Allen did a spirited duet early in the show.

This approachable kind of pop figure is one that often naturally emerges from the “Idol” competition. David Cook, last year’s winner, is cut from this natural-fiber cloth. Performing “Permanent,” the song he has dedicated to the brother he recently lost to cancer, Cook epitomized what Allen will likely soon become — a crowd favorite, empathetic and touchable.
music  rock  criticism  writing  losangeles  public  men  songwriting 
may 2009 by allaboutgeorge
‘American Idol’ - The Triumph of Soft Rock - NYTimes.com
That he shined on softer material — "Mad World," "Feeling Good," "One" — demonstrates the little-acknowledged truth about Mr. Lambert. Histrionics aside, he’s truly just an old-fashioned song-and-dance man, without the dancing; a lifetime in and around musical theater will do that to you. "Idol" wanted him to be something more, and he may well have wanted that for himself. If Mr. Lambert was hiding something, it wasn’t his sexual preference — it was his conservatism. If only he’d have let America see the real him.
rock  music  criticism  writing  nytimes  public  dance  songwriting  men 
may 2009 by allaboutgeorge
A boom in online dating | Connecting up | The Economist
EHarmony.com "also noticed that the number of visits to its website was higher than average on days when the Dow Jones Industrial Average fell by more than 100 points."
dating  relationshps  men  women  sex  love  online  social  socialnetworking  business 
march 2009 by allaboutgeorge
GQ Blog on men.style.com
Arena rock is the closest thing to a show tune in popular music—and I mean that lovingly. It’s epic, it’s sweeping, its themes are big. It gives itself to something theatrical.
music  rock  aesthetics  theater  men 
march 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Future of White Boys’ Clubs Redux #fowaspeak | FactoryCity
The future of web apps — and the conferences that tell their stories — should not be gender-neutral or gender-blind — but gender-balanced. Today, as it was two years ago, we suffer from a severe imbalance. It is my hope that, in raising the specter of consequences of the lack of women in technology, we begin to make as much progress in stitching diversity into the fabric of our society as we are making in producing source code.
women  gender  technology  race  men  conference  social  innovation  web  feminism 
february 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Beauty Affects Men's and Women's Brains Differently | Wired Science from Wired.com
"In current hunter-gatherer groups, men are in charge of hunting; meanwhile women collect," said Cela-Conde. "If this is a scheme that can be extended to ancestors’ behavior, then we can think about a selective pressure to increase the capacity of spatial orientation in men, and the capacity to identify edible plants and tubers in women."
psychology  brain  science  research  beauty  men  women  sex  gender 
february 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Popping Up Your Collar - WSJ.com
[...] So guys, there's nothing foppish about turning up the collar on leather jackets, coats and some shirts. Check yourself out in the mirror from all angles to experiment with ways to pop up that collar ever so slightly, so that it looks stylish and not too studied. [...]
men  fashion  style  hiphop 
january 2009 by allaboutgeorge
Salary, Gender and the Social Cost of Haggling - washingtonpost.com
"It is not that women always act one way and men act another way; it tends to be moderated by situational factors. The point of this paper is: Yes, there is an economic rationale to negotiate, but you have to weigh that against social risks of negotiating. What we show is those risks are higher for women than for men."
men  women  work  jobs  money  social  psychology  economics  gender  power  identity  reputation  business  marketing 
november 2008 by allaboutgeorge
France. Sex. Problem? - NYTimes.com
“Prostitution is the last sexual territory owned by men. Men are in control of pleasure and have the right to buy it. Women do not. A lot of my friends are alone, lonely, divorced. They can’t always reinvent themselves with another man and a new family. So I decided to show a female client of a male escort. She’s not a victim. She is a woman who is in control of her life, her feelings, her sexual pleasure.”
gender  sex  culture  europe  film  society  movies  france  women  men  economics  marketing  books  happiness  feminism 
november 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Matchmakers, Matchmakers, Making a Mint - washingtonpost.com
"By your late 20s, many people are not willing to stand around in a bar all night . . . and they've met everybody they would've met through their office mates. So they're turning to new ways to do this same old thing, which is: find love."
love  relationships  marriage  men  women  technology  work  jobs  sex  money  social  yasns 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Love and infidelity: How our brains keep us from straying - Los Angeles Times
[...] "A new line of research is exploring how automatic psychological mechanisms kick into action when the eye starts to wander, helping resist temptation and strengthening the relationship -- even without us being aware of it. Here's a sample from some recently published experiments (all on heterosexual men and women in committed monogamous relationships) that show how our brain keeps us connected to -- and, yes, even happy with -- the old ball and chain. (Spoiler: When it comes to relationships, men and women are a bit different.) [...]"
love  men  women  marriage  relationships  beauty  sex  psychology  biology  science  research 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
David Foster Wallace's "Roger Federer as Religious Experience" - Tennis - New York Times
"[...] Of course, in men’s sports no one ever talks about beauty or grace or the body. Men may profess their “love” of sports, but that love must always be cast and enacted in the symbology of war: elimination vs. advance, hierarchy of rank and standing, obsessive statistics, technical analysis, tribal and/or nationalist fervor, uniforms, mass noise, banners, chest-thumping, face-painting, etc. For reasons that are not well understood, war’s codes are safer for most of us than love’s. [...]"
sports  writing  essay  nonfiction  beauty  men  war  love  toread 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Findings - As External Barriers Disappear, Internal Gender Gaps Widen - NYTimes.com
“Humanity’s jaunt into monotheism, agriculturally based economies and the monopolization of power and resources by a few men was ‘unnatural’ in many way. In some ways modern progressive cultures are returning us psychologically to our hunter-gatherer roots. That means high sociopolitical gender equality over all, but with men and women expressing predisposed interests in different domains. Removing the stresses of traditional agricultural societies could allow men’s, and to a lesser extent women’s, more ‘natural’ personality traits to emerge.”
men  women  gender  psychology  health  evolution  research  science  sex  culture  nytimes  nature  poverty 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
BBC NEWS | Health | Declaring love boosts sex appeal
"Combining information about others' physical beauty with information about how attracted they appear to be to you allows you to allocate your social effort efficiently."
love  relationships  beauty  men  women  sex  communication  thinking  information  social  dating  behavior  health  science  research  psychology 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Science Daily: White Men Attach Greater Stigma To Mental Health Care
"The findings suggest that non-Latino white males, compared to all women and men of other ethnicities, were most likely to mistrust the mental health care system and were also likely to perceive mental illness as a stigma and therefore avoid formal mental health care."
health  white  race  education  money  men  ethnicity  psychology 
september 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Vasectomies: Word of caution on birth-control procedure -- chicagotribune.com
"Every once in a while you get this weird thought of, 'I'm never going to be a father.' It's equal parts terrifying because you're not like everyone else, and also because you made this extreme decision at 27."
sex  men  health  choice  identity  dating  relationships  marriage  parenting  women  aging 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The new Joy of Sex: why you still need help in bed - Times Online
“I think what a lot of the other material out there misses is how powerful sex is; people die for it, literally. One of the ways we've gone wrong in the past is that we haven't recognised this emotional power. Sex isn't a game - it's not pink and black and fluffy. So I think there still is a need for a book that takes sex seriously.”
sex  books  aesthetics  biology  science  reading  1970s  uk  gender  men  women  health 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Nerve: Ken Mondschein's "History of Single Life"
"So while conservatives might point to the fact that the per-capita divorce rate has dropped 5% since 1980, the fact is, the marriage rate has also dropped 50% since 1970. Divorce rates have fallen simply because less of us are getting married."
divorce  men  marriage  women  relationships  culture  ritual  law 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The Happiness Gap: USC College : News : 2008 : July : Anke Plagnol & Richard Easterlin
"In their analysis, the researchers control for birth cohort and demographic characteristics such as race and education. They find that women are, on average, happier than men in early adulthood — but the glow wears off with time. Specifically, after the age of 48, men’s overall happiness exceeds women’s happiness."
happiness  research  academia  men  women  race  education  science 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
FT.com / Columnists / Lunch with the FT - Lunch with the FT: Gloria Steinem
"[W]hat we have done so far is only count the kind of experience that men also have. What we need to be able to do is count all human experience. So I would like to count the secretarial positions as good training places to take over the jobs of the bosses."
feminism  work  jobs  politics  democrats  clinton  sex  women  men  lunch 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Just what is it about older men? - Telegraph
"Although there's a certain amount of salacious nudging going on around the water cooler, the fact is that almost no one much under the age of 80, male or female, thinks of themselves as old any more. Why should we? Helen Mirren shows that you can cavort on the beach in a red bikini in your sixties; Harley Street provides the pucker, for those who need it; and pensioners Neil Diamond and Leonard Cohen still play to thousands of adoring fans."
aging  men  women  beauty  marketing  uk 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Groovy old men: The rise of the silver swingers - Features, Fashion - The Independent
"Philosophically speaking, there's a long tradition of thinking that life isn't a matter of time, calibrated in seconds, minutes, hours and years, but measured in experience. You can have many lifetimes if you do lots of things, and feel lots, and respond lots; if you're open to endeavour and relationships, you can pack in many lifetimes."
aging  men  uk  beauty  fashion  marketing  happiness 
august 2008 by allaboutgeorge
'I'm mistaken for a man every day' | Folk and acoustic | guardian.co.uk Music
"I remember one time I wore a really tight T-shirt that showed cleavage and some guy looked at my boobs and I was like, 'what?!' It was, to me, really crazy. It felt so alien."
gender  identity  music  buddhism  men  women  beauty  feminism  songwriting 
july 2008 by allaboutgeorge
globeandmail.com: Overdressers: Beware of suspicious minds
"If you dress at a higher level than you normally do, people will say, 'What's he doing? He's dressing like this for a reason; what is it?' [...]"
fashion  men  women  work  jobs  aesthetics 
july 2008 by allaboutgeorge
Dave Hill: Gender stereotypes hurt men too | Comment is free | guardian.co.uk
"All else being equal, to be born male is to inherit legacies of entitlement that continue to outweigh those bestowed on those born female. Yet the state of maleness carries its own burden of expectations and constraints."
activism  culture  feminism  gender  men  women  identity  society  ritual 
july 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The Age of the Silver Fox | Advocate.com
"While men used to cover their gray with Grecian Formula, now an increasing number of them are proudly accepting their changing hair color -- regardless of their age."
aging  men  sex  beauty  fashion  identity  gay  reputation 
july 2008 by allaboutgeorge
village voice > nyclife > The Queer Issue: Buck Angel, A Man With a Pussy: LGB Without the T by Michael Lavers
"We're more sensitive to it, because the amount of gender policing we do among each other—casually and socially—is striking: Are you man enough, women enough, the right kind of woman?"
gay  identity  nyc  black  aesthetics  beauty  men  women  gender 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
8Asians.com » Gay interracial relationships: On being “sticky rice” and loving other Asian men: An Asian American/Asian Canadian Blog
"Hopefully, this post — however long-winded as it is — will put an end to my own personal frustration of seeing all the straight Asian people bitch and moan. You all got it lucky. Look at my frickin’ dating pool."
men  asian  dating  relationships  gay  aesthetics  identity  love  gender  race  racism  writing 
june 2008 by allaboutgeorge
TheStar.com | Movies | They say there are no small parts . . .
"It really makes me laugh in this day and age with how psychotic our world is, that anyone is troubled by seeing any part of the human body; that is amusing to me."
men  cinema  movies  beauty 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
The Dandy Man Can
"So you and Rachel have an open relationship?" "Our relationship isn't open. It's more ajar."
polyamory  sex  love  relationships  fashion  aesthetics  men  women 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
New York Magazine: The Affairs of Men
“I haven’t ever seen anyone who doesn’t deliver on every single demand their sexuality makes on them. [...] There is no more unnatural principle of social organization than sexual exclusivity."
sex  men  marriage  relationships  polyamory  love  nyc  social 
may 2008 by allaboutgeorge
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