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Always In — Real Life
Lordy, we live in the future (not always a good thing).
airpods  culture  tech  how_we_live  apple  audio  technology 
12 days ago by alexpriest
The Danger of Comparing Yourself to Others
“Life becomes about being a better version of yourself. And when that happens, your effort and energy go toward upgrading your personal operating system every day, not worrying about what your coworkers are doing. You become happier, free from the shackles of false comparisons and focused on the present moment.”
self_improvement  self  warren_buffett  how_we_learn  how_we_live  from instapaper
june 2019 by alexpriest
Opinion | The Moral Peril of Meritocracy - The New York Times
Oh. OHHH. This is quite good.

“Some people are broken by this kind of pain and grief. They seem to get smaller and more afraid, and never recover. They get angry, resentful and tribal.

But other people are broken open. The theologian Paul Tillich wrote that suffering upends the normal patterns of life and reminds you that you are not who you thought you were. The basement of your soul is much deeper than you knew. Some people look into the hidden depths of themselves and they realize that success won’t fill those spaces. Only a spiritual life and unconditional love from family and friends will do. They realize how lucky they are. They are down in the valley, but their health is O.K.; they’re not financially destroyed; they’re about to be dragged on an adventure that will leave them transformed.”
culture  how_we_live  life  how_we_work  work  how_we_learn  work_culture  inspiration  life_lessons  sociology 
april 2019 by alexpriest
The Harm in Hustle Culture
“Techies should read Zola. They may actually believe hustle culture is the road to happiness rather than a clever ploy to extract more work. They should recall, however, that the 40-hour week was a hard-won concession, a victory for humanity over the barbaric 19th-century work conditions and relentless hours of early industrial capitalism.

The pursuit of happiness does not equal the embrace of 80-hour weeks. Take some time. Read a newspaper. It’s a revolutionary act.”
politics  hustle  tech  culture  how_we_work  how_we_live  social_media  millennials  work_culture  trump 
february 2019 by alexpriest
How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation
Christ this is SO good.

“In their writing on homelessness, social psychologist Devon Price has said that “laziness,” at least in the way most of us generally conceive of it, simply does not exist. “If a person’s behavior doesn’t make sense to you,” they write, “it is because you are missing a part of their context. It’s that simple.” My behavior didn’t make sense to me because I was missing part of my context: burnout. I was too ashamed to admit I was experiencing it. I fancied myself too strong to succumb to it. I had narrowed my definition of burnout to exclude my own behaviors and symptoms. But I was wrong.”
millennials  how_we_live  productivity  work  career  media  how_we_work  creativity  social_media  sociology  psychology  tech  life  burnout  america  science  culture  health 
january 2019 by alexpriest
Gloom (and doom) | Seth's Blog
Doom is inevitable.

Gloom is optional.

Gloom has no positive effects on ameliorating doom.

Doom happens. Gloom is a choice.
doom  gloom  politics  news  how_we_think  culture  how_we_live 
november 2018 by alexpriest
Light of the American Whale

“Some views are better than others for different purposes – obviously! But here is the question: if we managed to somehow add all the views together – the zoomed-out globe/satellite views, the costume drama views, the recorded views of novelists and diarists, history and science papers that sift through the fossilized traces of an earlier time – if we somehow fused, summed up, superimposed, or otherwise managed to merge all the sources – would we wind up with a true view of the nineteenth century? Of any part of reality?”
philosophy  reality  psychology  meaning  how_we_live  science  history 
october 2018 by alexpriest
Opinion | In Praise of Mediocrity - The New York Times
Good god, yes.

“Yet here in the United States, the wealthiest country in history, we seem to have forgotten the importance of doing things solely because we enjoy them.

Yes, I know: We are all so very busy. Between work and family and social obligations, where are we supposed to find the time?

But there’s a deeper reason, I’ve come to think, that so many people don’t have hobbies: We’re afraid of being bad at them. Or rather, we are intimidated by the expectation — itself a hallmark of our intensely public, performative age — that we must actually be skilled at what we do in our free time. Our “hobbies,” if that’s even the word for them anymore, have become too serious, too demanding, too much an occasion to become anxious about whether you are really the person you claim to be.”
success  how_we_work  perfection  hobbies  how_we_live  history  america  culture 
october 2018 by alexpriest
How the ‘brainy’ book became a publishing phenomenon | Books | The Guardian
Oooh. "These are febrile, unpredictable times, with society facing new challenges and quandaries each day, from the rise of populist politics to the migrant crisis to climate change. Mark Richards, publisher at John Murray Press, sees the return to serious works of nonfiction as a response to the spirit of the age. “We’re living in a world that suddenly seems less certain than it did even two years ago, and the natural reaction is for people to try and find out as much about it as possible,” he says. “People have a hunger both for information and facts, and for nuanced exploration of issues, of a sort that books are in a prime position to provide.”"
books  how_we_live  culture  politics  business  trends  history 
october 2018 by alexpriest
America is terrible at summer vacation
"Americans forfeit vacation time not because they can't bear the thought of being away from the workplace, but because of fear: fear of being fired, fear of falling behind at work, or fear of the financial blow. America's at-will system of employment and the modern economy's often precarious job situation — whether it's workers making their money on contract or via the notoriously unstable gig economy — means workers are scared that if they're away from the job, they'll be seen as replaceable. Often, too, their wages are simply too low or unpredictable for them to comfortably spend dollars on getting out of town.

Employers don't do enough to dissuade workers from having these perceptions, despite the widespread evidence that regular vacations make workers happier and more productive. Vacations also cut down on a host of other costs associated with higher turnover and miserable employees; it's way more expensive to regularly train new employees or try to drag more work out of unhappy ones than it is to keep your existing workforce content. Businesses should be in the business of encouraging time away from the office for entirely selfish reasons alone."
america  culture  how_we_live  how_we_work  vacation  time_off 
october 2018 by alexpriest
America and Its Discontents | Gary Greenberg
! "IT WILL BE LEFT TO FUTURE HISTORIANS, if there are any, to explain to their contemporaries why a profession came into existence in the twentieth century whose well paid practitioners sat in an office while people otherwise unknown to them talked about their unhappiness, one after the other, an hour at a time. I’ve been a therapist for thirty-five years, and I still don’t really understand it. I don’t speak in Delphic tongues or offer holy absolution or perform shamanic hocus pocus; I really don’t do much of anything but sit there, listen, and try to tell the truth. Not that it’s easy; it’s taxing to spend your days immersed in other people’s misery, and whatever is wrong with me that prompted me to do this with my life, and left me able to withstand it, is not improved by the exercise. Still, I’m grateful to the marketplace for providing me with such an improbable way to make a living.""

"Like all nostalgia, the yearning to make America great again is a yearning for the never-was, and it tells us more about what is missing from the present than what was present in the past."
psychology  therapy  how_we_think  how_we_live  unhappiness  happiness 
october 2018 by alexpriest
Good Things Happen in Book Stores – Member Feature Stories – Medium

"There was the time I was in a Barnes and Noble in Portland and a man buying some manga books seemed to be a couple dollars short. I fished some money out of my pocket and paid the difference. He started to cry. “I’ve just recovered from cancer,” he told me. “I was buying these books tonight to restart my normal life. I’m supposed to begin looking for a job tomorrow.” It was an experience far more gratifying to me than the first time I saw my own name up on a bookstore marquee for a signing."
books  life  how_we_live  bookstores  reading  places 
august 2018 by alexpriest
Your Whole Life Is Borrowed Time
“Equally mysterious is that our lives began at all. As my favorite philosopher, Douglas Harding, tried to remind us before he died: It’s the very last thing, isn’t it, that we feel grateful for: having happened. You know, you needn’t have happened. You needn’t have happened. But you did happen. And we needn’t still be happening. But we are. I suppose the trick is to remember that fact even in the throes of our worst moods and toughest dilemmas. Maybe I’ll get a reminder tattooed on my wrist, for whenever my complaints start to seem absolutely important: This is borrowed time, all of it. Would you rather give it back?"
inspiration  advice  time  how_we_live  how_we_work  productivity  thankful  gratitude 
august 2018 by alexpriest
Yuval Noah Harari extract: ‘Humans have always lived in the age of post-truth. We’re a post-truth species’ | Culture | The Guardian
Wowwww. "A cursory look at history reveals that propaganda and disinformation are nothing new, and even the habit of denying entire nations and creating fake countries has a long pedigree. In 1931 the Japanese army staged mock attacks on itself to justify its invasion of China, and then created the fake country of Manchukuo to legitimise its conquests. China itself has long denied that Tibet ever existed as an independent country. British settlement in Australia was justified by the legal doctrine of terra nullius (“nobody’s land”), which effectively erased 50,000 years of Aboriginal history. In the early 20th century, a favourite Zionist slogan spoke of the return of “a people without a land [the Jews] to a land without a people [Palestine]”. The existence of the local Arab population was conveniently ignored."
news  religion  fake_news  sociology  history  how_we_learn  how_we_live  culture  politics  government  propaganda 
august 2018 by alexpriest
How to Be Thankful For Your Life by Changing Just One Word | James Clear
"As adults, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the things that we have to do.

You have to wake up early for work. You have to make another sales call for your business. You have to work out today. You have to write an article. You have to make dinner for your family. You have to go to your son’s game.

Now, imagine changing just one word in the sentences above.

You don’t “have” to. You “get” to."
gratitude  thankful  perspective  inspiration  advice  life  how_we_live 
july 2018 by alexpriest
The World of Rated People: Inside the Dystopian Future of Social Credit Scores | GQ
So, so good. And funny. And real.

“As the world of peer-to-peer rating grows and our reputation increasingly becomes our currency, I worry that we'll enter a new era in which empty niceties and brutal judgments reign—and where any pissed-off person can torpedo your social value. But if the future consists of walking on digital eggshells, maybe the guard against that is to be more vulnerable with the people we do know. The benefits of opening ourselves up to criticism could offset the very ways in which technology is making us more superficial. I'd like to think that if this survey did anything—outside of improving my therapist's job security—it helped me be a better human, even if just marginally so.”
culture  uber  funny  how_we_learn  reputation  gq  rating  how_we_live 
july 2018 by alexpriest
How ‘Fortnite’ Became the Most Popular Video Game on Earth
Fantastic. "If you’re good enough at Instagram, you can find a modeling career. If you’re popular enough on Twitter, you can find a job writing professionally. If you excel at Fortnite, you can find yourself chilling online with A-listers like Drake. All you need is a mouse and keyboard, and enough determination."
video_games  fortnite  games  instagram  social_media  culture  how_we_live 
july 2018 by alexpriest
A 4-Day Workweek? A Test Run Shows a Surprising Result - The New York Times
THIS THIS THIS THIS. "In Perpetual Guardian’s case, workers said the change motivated them to find ways of increasing their productivity while in the office. Meetings were reduced from two hours to 30 minutes, and employees created signals for their colleagues that they needed time to work without distraction."
work  how_we_work  how_we_live  culture  balance  work_week  business 
july 2018 by alexpriest
Ask Yourself This: What Burdens Is That Other Person Carrying? - The New York Times
Wow this is good. “As I turned away and stared at the Pacific Ocean through the little window from my seat on the plane, I was left with a bunch of grief and two big questions.

What burdens are all the people on this plane carrying? And how would I treat them differently if I knew?”
empathy  how_we_live  anxiety  burdens  grief  culture  love_kindness  mental_health 
july 2018 by alexpriest
The Most Direct Solution to Any Problem - Steve Pavlina
Well, hard to argue with this. “When you find yourself having difficulty solving a problem, but you can identify a direct solution with relative ease, perhaps the real problem isn’t what you think it is.”
how_we_live  how_we_work  productivity  inspiration 
july 2018 by alexpriest
A Complete Guide to Getting What You Want
“But once we take that reality on board—that fear and uncertainty always come along for the ride in any worthwhile endeavor—it becomes simple. Not easy, but simple. You decide what you want and just do the next thing. And if you don’t know what the next thing is, the next thing is to figure out the next thing.”
how_we_live  getting_what_you_want  business  anxiety  productivity  how_we_work  life 
july 2018 by alexpriest
You can always count on an airport bar
I fucking love this article. “And so, while the world around us changes rapidly, not always for the better, the airport bar is frozen in time, a place you can count on.”
life  aircraft  airport  travel  airlines  bars  how_we_live 
may 2018 by alexpriest
To Everyone Who Asks For ‘Just A Little’ Of Your Time: Here’s What It Costs To Say Yes –

“I keep a maker’s schedule because I believe that anything else is anathema to deep work or creativity.”


“You can only hand so many hours of your day over to other people before there is none left. Even if there are some left, you may have lost the clarity, the energy and the capacity to do anything with them.

The goal in my impossible, perfectionist calendar-anorexic mind is that one day I’ll have enough control and discipline that there will be no distinction in my schedule between a weekday and a weekend. Every day will be Saturday. Will feel like a Saturday. No interruptions. No feeling like this or that must be because someone else wants it to be. All white space in the calendar. Free. Productive.”
creativity  how_we_work  time  productivity  how_we_live  makers  calendar 
april 2018 by alexpriest
How to Pick a Career (That Actually Fits You) - Wait But Why
So much good here.

“This is probably an unhealthy way to think about careers, but the way many societies are right now, a person’s career quadruples as the person’s primary identity. Which is kind of a big thing.

So yeah—your career path isn’t like my shitty sweatshirt. It’s really really deeply important, putting it squarely in “Definitely absolutely make sure to be a chef about it” territory.”


“If you look at the biographies of your heroes, you’ll see that their paths look a lot more like a long series of connected dots than a straight and predictable tunnel. If you look at yourself and your friends, you’ll probably see the same trend—according to data, the median time a young person stays in a given job is only 3 years (older people spend a longer time on each dot, but not that much longer—10.4 years on average).

So seeing your career as a series of dots isn’t a mental trick to help you make decisions—it’s an accurate depiction of what’s actually happening. And seeing your career as a tunnel isn’t just unproductive—it’s delusional.

Likewise, you’re limited to focusing mainly on the next dot on your path—because it’s the only dot you can figure out. You don’t have to worry about dot #4 because you can’t anyway—you’re literally not qualified to do so.

By the time dot #4 rolls around, you will have learned stuff about yourself you don’t know now. You’ll also have changed from who you are now, and your Yearning Octopus will reflect those changes. You’ll know a lot more than you currently do about the career landscape and the specific game boards you’re interested in, and you’ll have become a much better game player. And of course, that landscape—and those game boards—will have themselves evolved.”
culture  business  how_we_live  lifestyle  career  how_we_work  life 
april 2018 by alexpriest
Bad Bedtime Sleep Habits - Blue Light, Caffeine | Apartment Therapy
My kind of advice.

"Sleeping naked with a partner, especially with skin-to-skin contact, releases the hormone oxytocin—commonly referred to as "the love hormone." Oxytocin reduces the stress hormone cortisol, which is known to trigger our sympathetic nervous system and keep our body in "fight-or-flight" mode. Needless to say, it's tough to sleep when we're stressed. Try sleeping in the nude to cool down your body, enhance the warm and fuzzies, and successfully doze off."
sleep  psychology  health  how_we_live 
march 2018 by alexpriest
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