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How I Used Technology to Get in the Best Shape of My Life and Save My Son
In 2013, I weighed 210 pounds. In October of 2017, I weighed 136 pounds and donated a kidney to my youngest son, Ax. This is our story.
life  training  exercise  diet  science 
november 2018 by Aetles
To-Do Lists Are Not the Answer to Getting Things Done – Personal Growth – Medium
The real value in life comes from saying no.
To help you say no you need some friction. The solution to the to-do list problem is actually pretty simple. You have to make one change: schedule it.
productivity  life 
november 2016 by Aetles
Death in the celebrity age
Are you worried about the future glut of obituaries in national newspapers? Because I sure am. Think about it: because of our networked world and mass media, there are so many more nationally known people than there were 30, 40, or 50 years ago. Fifty years ago, to be famous you had to be a politician, a movie star, a sports star, a general/admiral, a writer, a musician, a TV star, or rich. These days, we have many more popular sports, more sports teams, more movies are being made, there are 2-3 orders of magnitude more TV channels and programs, more music, more musical genres, more books are being written, and there's more rich people. Plus, these days people routinely become famous for appearing in advertising, designing things, being good cooks, yammering away on the internet, etc. etc. A year's worth of guests on Hollywood Squares...there's 2300 people right there that probably wouldn't have been famous in 1953, and that's just one show.

Frankly, I don't know how we're all going to handle this. Chances are in 15-20 years, someone famous whose work you enjoyed or whom you admired or who had a huge influence on who you are as a person will die each day...and probably even more than one a day. And that's just you...many other famous people will have died that day who mean something to other people. Will we all just be in a constant state of mourning? Will the NY Times national obituary section swell to 30 pages a day? As members of the human species, we're used to dealing with the death of people we "know" in amounts in the low hundreds over the course of a lifetime. With higher life expectancies and the increased number of people known to each of us (particularly in the hypernetworked part of the world), how are we going to handle it when several thousand people we know die over the course of our lifetime?
death  celebrities  life  humans  tragedy 
april 2016 by Aetles
Alan Rickman, 1946–2016 — Medium
Everything Alan Rickman did, everything he was, every part he played and every idea we had of him, was a thing achieved. What a life.
life  actor  dying 
january 2016 by Aetles
Somebody is to Blame for This
The unbearable grief demands that someone must be to blame for this unimaginably terrible thing that is happening to you, this deeply, profoundly unfair tragedy. But there's nobody. Just you and this overwhelming burden you've been given. So you keep going, because that's what you're supposed to do. Maybe you get on stage and talk about it. That's about all you can do.

So that's what I'm going to do.

Five weeks ago, I was selected for jury duty in a medical malpractice trial.

This trial was the story of a perfectly healthy man who, in the summer of 2008, was suddenly killed by a massive blood clot that made its way to his heart, after a surgery to repair a broken leg. Like me, he would have been 41 years old today. Like me, he married his wife in the summer of 1999. Like me, he had three children; two girls and a boy. Like me, he had a promising, lucrative career in IT.
life  lifestory  tragedy  grief  cancer  death 
december 2015 by Aetles
Slipping Away | Maclean's Magazine
That Christmas, Joël Aubin was 36 years old and already battling hard to work around an erosion process that was hard-wired into every cell of his body. He had dominantly inherited Alzheimer’s disease, the result of a genetic mutation that snakes through family trees. The disease itself is rare, and Jo is a nearly unheard-of aberration because of his age. He wouldn’t know he had the disease for another 18 months—but he’d seen it all before: His mother was 47 when she died of the same illness. Jo’s teenage world had been ripped from its frame then, but he had grown up with no idea that he had a 50/50 chance of inheriting the same fate. Alzheimer’s disease would fray his marriage before fundamentally changing it, shrink Jo’s world to the size of his neighbourhood and forge his friends and family into a tight support system. And it would lead Jo to resolve to avoid a long goodbye like his mother’s, and to choose when his story would end.

The dominantly inherited form of the disease is said to account for fewer than one per cent of Alzheimer’s cases—Jo’s specialist pegs it at much rarer than even that—and it’s caused by a mutation in one of three genes. While the more common type of Alzheimer’s carries a genetic risk component that means certain people are more likely to develop the disease, this genetic mutation is different: For an unlucky few like Jo, it’s a terrible guarantee. These people overproduce a protein called beta-amyloid, which accumulates in their brains as “plaques,” while another protein called tau twists itself into “tangles” inside the nerve cells. Together, they strangle neurons and eventually consume memory and ability as the brain withers.

People with these genetic mutations usually show symptoms around the same age as their parents. A 2012 study published in the New England Journal of Medicine traced the insidious groundwork of the disease through “biomarkers” detectable in the body long before symptoms surfaced. Twenty-five years before Jo would have noticed any major cognitive problems, the levels of amyloid in his cerebrospinal fluid would have begun to decline, as the protein began to accumulate in his brain. Jo would have been about 10 years old.
health  death  life 
september 2015 by Aetles
How successful people work less—and get more done - Quartz
The study found that productivity per hour declines sharply when the workweek exceeds 50 hours, and productivity drops off so much after 55 hours that there’s no point in working any more. That’s right, people who work as much as 70 hours (or more) per week actually get the same amount done as people who work 55 hours.
Successful people know the importance of shifting gears on the weekend to relaxing and rejuvenating activities. Like Spencer, they use their weekends to create a better week ahead.
This is easier said than done, so here’s some help. The following list contains 10 things that successful people do to find balance on the weekend and to come into work at 110% on Monday morning.
productivity  work  life  business  family  stress 
april 2015 by Aetles
How Successful People Stay Calm — Medium
Research from the University of California, Berkeley, reveals an upside to experiencing moderate levels of stress. But it also reinforces how important it is to keep stress under control. The study, led by post-doctoral fellow Elizabeth Kirby, found that the onset of stress entices the brain into growing new cells responsible for improved memory. However, this effect is only seen when stress is intermittent. As soon as the stress continues beyond a few moments into a prolonged state, it suppresses the brain’s ability to develop new cells.

“I think intermittent stressful events are probably what keeps the brain more alert, and you perform better when you are alert,” Kirby says. For animals, intermittent stress is the bulk of what they experience, in the form of physical threats in their immediate environment. Long ago, this was also the case for humans. As the human brain evolved and increased in complexity, we’ve developed the ability to worry and perseverate on events, which creates frequent experiences of prolonged stress.

Besides increasing your risk of heart disease, depression, and obesity, stress decreases your cognitive performance. Fortunately, though, unless a lion is chasing you, the bulk of your stress is subjective and under your control. Top performers have well-honed coping strategies that they employ under stressful circumstances. This lowers their stress levels regardless of what’s happening in their environment, ensuring that the stress they experience is intermittent and not prolonged.

While I’ve run across numerous effective strategies that successful people employ when faced with stress, what follows are ten of the best. Some of these strategies may seem obvious, but the real challenge lies in recognizing when you need to use them and having the wherewithal to actually do so in spite of your stress.
stress  health  life  work  family  psychology  depression 
april 2015 by Aetles
The Moral Bucket List -
A few years ago I realized that I wanted to be a bit more like those people. I realized that if I wanted to do that I was going to have to work harder to save my own soul. I was going to have to have the sort of moral adventures that produce that kind of goodness. I was going to have to be better at balancing my life.

It occurred to me that there were two sets of virtues, the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. The résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or faithful. Were you capable of deep love?
life  work  soul 
april 2015 by Aetles
The Middle of Things: Advice for Young Writers - The New Yorker
Rilke goes on, “It is clear that we must trust what is difficult; everything alive trusts in it, everything in Nature grows and defends itself any way it can and is spontaneously itself, tries to be itself at all costs and against all opposition. We know little, but that we must trust in what is difficult is a certainty that will never abandon us; it is good to be solitary, for solitude is difficult; that something is difficult must be one more reason for us to do it.” The Romantic sublime entails the exchange of easier for more difficult pleasures. This is an attractive bargain only when more difficult pleasures are more propitious than less difficult ones. What Rilke is suggesting is not simply that we give up easier pleasures because the best things in life happen to be difficult, but rather that the difficulty itself is what makes those efforts so rewarding—that we need not merely endure difficulty to get to a goal, but must understand difficulty as part of the goal. That sounds masochistic, but it is masochistic only insofar as the act of writing is masochistic: insofar as the burdensome activity of marrying words to experience is a source of pain as well as pleasure.
writing  life  experience  advice 
march 2015 by Aetles
At some start-ups, Friday is so casual that it’s not even a workday - The Washington Post
Carson, who is originally from Colorado, started his first company in 2004 in the U.K., thinking it would give him more freedom with his time. But he soon found himself working that same intense pace until his wife asked him why he was working more and making less. She suggested taking Fridays off.

“At first, I thought, ‘This is insane; We’ve got way too much work to do,’ ” Carson said. “But the more I thought about it, really, running your own company is about creating your own universe. So why not create a universe you’d want to live in? That’s when the idea went from stupid and crazy to, maybe we should actually do that. So we tried it one week, and never looked back.”
life  work  culture  workplace  business  family  health 
february 2015 by Aetles
Hyperbole and a Half: Depression Part Two
The beginning of my depression had been nothing but feelings, so the emotional deadening that followed was a welcome relief.  I had always wanted to not give a fuck about anything. I viewed feelings as a weakness — annoying obstacles on my quest for total power over myself. And I finally didn't have to feel them anymore.

But my experiences slowly flattened and blended together until it became obvious that there's a huge difference between not giving a fuck and not being able to give a fuck. Cognitively, you might know that different things are happening to you, but they don't feel very different.
depression  suicide  life  health  comics 
august 2014 by Aetles
Alex Payne — Letter To A Young Programmer Considering A Startup
I regularly get emails from young people, usually those with an interest in programming, who are trying to make decisions about school and/or their professional futures. This post is for those young people.

If you’re in your late teens or early twenties, you’ve grown up in a world that has come to idealize startups, their founders, and the people who go to work at them.

If you’re in school, maybe you’ve felt pressure or been incentivized to drop out and join or start a company. If you’re already out in the working world, perhaps you feel that your non-startup job is in some way inadequate, or that you’re missing out on valuable experience and potential wealth.

The generation you’ve grown up in has, for the past few years, teetered on the brink of being “lost”. Jobs are scarce, and going to university offers no assurance of landing one. Big, old corporations are no longer guaranteed safe havens in which to build a career. Startups seem, through the lens of the media, like the only sign of life in an otherwise dying landscape. I understand their appeal.
life  startup  business 
june 2013 by Aetles
The story behind 'What Ali Wore' -
Like clockwork, waitress Zoe Spawton would spot Ali walking past her Berlin cafe every morning around 9 while she was setting up sidewalk furniture.
Naturally, the mustachioed 83-year-old stood out in his impeccably tailored suits and bold ensembles usually topped off with an oddball flourish, be it a Nike knit cap, a diamante skull baseball cap or a silver chain around his neck.
"His outfits were so put together and he obviously took great pride in his appearance," said Spawton, a 29-year-old photographer from Australia who has lived in Berlin for almost a year.
life  berlin  clothes 
march 2013 by Aetles
How to work with me on a low budget - BARK & LOG
I got some enquiries recently from people with little or no money to get their work done. So I thought I would jot down a few notes on what I think about that and what I want in those situations.
life  business 
march 2013 by Aetles
The Annotated Wisdom of Louis C.K. | Splitsider
Bättre livsvisdomar än såhär går det inte att få: ”The Annotated Wisdom of Louis C.K.”
humor  louisck  comedy  standup  life  wisdom  from twitter
march 2013 by Aetles
Coding Horror: Todon't
All my to-do lists started out as innocuous tools to assist me in my life, but slowly transformed, each and every time, into thankless, soul-draining exercises in reductionism. My to-do list was killing me. Adam Wozniak nails it:

Lists give the illusion of progress.
Lists give the illusion of accomplishment.
Lists make you feel guilty for not achieving these things.
Lists make you feel guilty for continually delaying certain items.
Lists make you feel guilty for not doing things you don't want to be doing anyway.
Lists make you prioritize the wrong things.
Lists are inefficient. (Think of what you could be doing with all the time you spend maintaining your lists!)
Lists suck the enjoyment out of activities, making most things feel like an obligation.
Lists don't actually make you more organized long term.
Lists can close you off to spontaneity and exploration of things you didn't plan for. (Let's face it, it's impossible to really plan some things in life.)
productivity  work  life 
october 2012 by Aetles
An Unexpected Ass Kicking | Blog Of Impossible Things
I invented the first computer.
Um, Excuse me?
I created the world’s first internally programmable computer. It used to take up a space about as big as this whole room and my wife and I used to walk into it to program it.
What’s your name?”. I asked, thinking that this guy is either another crazy homeless person in Portland or legitimately who he said he was.
“Russell Kirsch”
Sure enough, after .29 seconds, I found out he wasn’t lying to my face. Russel Kirsch indeed invented the world’s first internally programmable computer and as well as a bunch of other things and definitely lives in Portland.
history  life  technology  computers 
august 2012 by Aetles
10 Priceless Gifts Your Children Need from You Today | Meant to be Happy
Gifts come in all forms. shapes and sizes. Some are meaningful and some are devoid of meaning. Some gather dust on shelves and others break and rust and become obsolete. The following list of gifts, however, are guaranteed to never rust or need upgrading, will never spoil or gather dust on shelves. These gifts, in fact, will keep on giving indefinitely.

Following are 10 such gifts your children are waiting to receive from you. They are inexpensive, for the most part. But there is a cost, a cost in the form of changes made to the parent giving them, perhaps in order to give them. Believe me, if given consistently, over time, they promise top dollar on your investment.
life  children  parenting 
june 2012 by Aetles
Top five regrets of the dying | Life and style |
A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?
death  happiness  life  regrets  dying 
may 2012 by Aetles
What Makes Us Happy? - Magazine - The Atlantic
Is there a formula—some mix of love, work, and psychological adaptation—for a good life? For 72 years, researchers at harvard have been examining this question, following 268 men who entered college in the late 1930s through war, career, marriage and divorce, parenthood and grandparenthood, and old age. Here, for the first time, a journalist gains access to the archive of one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Its contents, as much literature as science, offer profound insight into the human condition—and into the brilliant, complex mind of the study’s longtime director, george vaillant.
life  death  happiness  from instapaper
may 2012 by Aetles
All or something - (37signals)
The problem is that most “exciting new company” lore is intermingled with that of Startup Culture™. This means it’s hard to find your identity when it doesn’t match the latest company write-up of How Those Crazy Kids Turned VC Millions Into Billions!!!

Most people will look at that and say that’s not me. I don’t have 110% to give. I have a family, I have a mortgage, I have other interests. Where’s my place in the startup world if all I have to give is 60%? What can putting in part-time give?

The good news is much more than you think. The marginal value of the last hour put into a business idea is usually much less than the first. The world is full of ideas that can be executed with 10 to 20 hours per week, let alone 40. The number of projects that are truly impossible unless you put in 80 or 120 hours per week are vanishingly small by comparison.

This is of course nothing new. We’ve been playing this bongo drum for years. But every time I see people crumble and quit from the crunch-mode pressure cooker, I think what a shame, it didn’t have to be like that. It’s the same when I read yet another story about someone who won the startup lottery, and the stereotypical startup role model is glorified and cemented again.
business  startup  work  life 
february 2012 by Aetles
How To Focus In The Age of Distraction | Edudemic
What do you do when you have to study? Do you find a cozy nook, cuddle up with a book or tablet, and concentrate? What about checking your e-mail? Answering your phone? Talking to friends? It’s not easy to concentrate these days.

With distractions like super awesome blogs (Edudemic FTW) to great educational apps and more, it’s important to figure out how to get your work done. This chart by Learning Fundamentals may look a bit chaotic but is extremely helpful. Click image to enlarge!
life  workday  distractions  work 
january 2012 by Aetles
Watch a VC use my name to sell a con. | jwz
So if your goal is to enrich the Arringtons of the world while maybe, if you win the lottery, scooping some of the groundscore that they overlooked, then by all means, bust your ass while the bankers and speculators cheer you on.

Instead of that, I recommend that you do what you love because you love doing it. If that means long hours, fantastic. If that means leaving the office by 6pm every day for your underwater basket-weaving class, also fantastic.
business  life  startup 
november 2011 by Aetles
Take Control of Your Paperless Office: Read Joe Kissell's advice in this book on using your Mac and scanner to reduce paper.
Take Control of Your Paperless Office

Learn the best ways to cut back on incoming and outgoing paper!

Join Joe Kissell as he helps you clear up the chaos of an office overflowing with paper. With Joe’s guidance you can develop a personal clean-up strategy and choose your Mac-compatible tools—a document scanner and the software you need to perform OCR (optical character recognition), devices and services for storing your digitized documents, and tools to categorize, locate, and view your digital document collections. Once you have your gear in hand, Joe then shows you convert your paper documents to digitized files and gives you ideas for how to organize your office workflow, explaining how to develop the day-to-day techniques that reduce the amount of time you spend pressing buttons, launching software, and otherwise managing your war on clutter.
business  life  mac 
september 2011 by Aetles
TheCodingMonkeys State of the Union
TheCodingMonkeys om hur försäljningen av SubEthaEdit gått och om att leva "the life", dvs leva på att vara en oberoende macutvecklare.
mac  utvecklare  developer  the  life  livet  egen  firma  fristående  Företagande 
july 2006 by Aetles
How to become an independent programmer in just 1068 days
Gus Muller, som gör VoodooPad, om hur han blev en oberoende macutvecklare. Är en del av artiklarna om att leva "the life".
mac  utvecklare  developer  the  life  livet  egen  firma  fristående  Gus  Mueller  Företagande 
july 2006 by Aetles
TextMate Blog » Year in Review
Allan Odgaard ser tillbaka på hur försäljningen av TextMate gått sedan releasen. Är en del av artiklarna om att leva på macprogram, dvs att leva "the life"
mac  utvecklare  developer  the  life  livet  egen  firma  fristående  Företagande 
july 2006 by Aetles
Musings From the Software Underground: Developing Mac Applications for a Living: My Own Take on Getting to Live
Utvecklaren av SQLGrinder och MacGourmet mm om hur det är för honom att leva "the life", dvs leva på att utveckla macprogram.
mac  utvecklare  developer  the  life  livet  egen  firma  fristående  Företagande 
july 2006 by Aetles
MacHappy » Blog Archive » The Life - Day 1
Utvecklaren av WebnoteHappy om hur det är att lite "the Life", dvs att satsa på att leva på att vara en fristående macutvecklare.
mac  utvecklare  developer  the  life  livet  egen  firma  fristående  Företagande 
july 2006 by Aetles

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