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Ursula K. Le Guin: A Left-Handed Commencement Address
"So what I hope for you is that you live there not as prisoners, ashamed of being women, consenting captives of a psychopathic social system, but as natives. That you will be at home there, keep house there, be your own mistress, with a room of your own. That you will do your work there, whatever you’re good at, art or science or tech or running a company or sweeping under the beds, and when they tell you that it’s second-class work because a woman is doing it, I hope you tell them to go to hell and while they’re going to give you equal pay for equal time. I hope you live without the need to dominate, and without the need to be dominated. I hope you are never victims, but I hope you have no power over other people. And when you fail, and are defeated, and in pain, and in the dark, then I hope you will remember that darkness is your country, where you live, where no wars are fought and no wars are won, but where the future is. Our roots are in the dark; the earth is our country. Why did we look up for blessing — instead of around, and down? What hope we have lies there. Not in the sky full of orbiting spy-eyes and weaponry, but in the earth we have looked down upon. Not from above, but from below. Not in the light that blinds, but in the dark that nourishes, where human beings grow human souls."
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13 days ago by robertogreco
la scapgliata:
Erasing transwomen as biological males prevents us from truly understanding why some men feel the need to socialise as women as well as why men feel the compulsion to exclude transwomen from the group they genuinely belong to - it's social cleansing.
twitter  trans  patriarchy 
15 days ago by paniedejmirade
The Summer of Rage | The Cut
The reason the anger of a majority gets suppressed is because it has the power to imperil the rule of the minority.
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17 days ago by jennettefulda
Mars Retrograde 2018: Aligning Wisdom, Power & Action Posted on June 26, 2018 in Announcements | By Leslie Benson for ASTROGRAPH Horoscopes
As Mars stations retrograde, and does so just days after an opposition with Venus, in close alignment with the lunar nodes, another theme that may be very prominent throughout this period is the polarization and weaving together of the masculine and feminine principles in relationship, whether hetero or otherwise. This could appear in the external world as an amplification in the conversations between men and women, or the masculine and feminine parts of each of us. This could also be calling each of us to re-consider and re-orient ourselves to our own inner masculine and feminine, and how our relationship to these energies within our own being shapes our thoughts, actions, and human connections. This configuration is also indicative of continued evolution in the movement in western culture around gender norms and gender fluidity.

There will likely be a further unfolding of the feminist / #MeToo movement, and collective understanding of just how much skewed patriarchal power dynamics and “toxic masculinity” have damaged not only women, but men, as well. As women speak out against the injustice of gender inequality, it exposes not only their pain born of millennia of oppression, but also the pain of men re-enacting cultural gender stereotypes. These roles have often been adopted by men not from their actual desires but from the cultural pressure to “be a man,” which essentially says “be anything but feminine, because femininity in a male is bad and wrong.” You may want to watch for all of these things, and see what you notice in yourself as well as others as you observe. Our response to what’s happening “out there” can tell us more than anything about what’s happening inside of us, and where our true opportunities for healing may lie.

Some helpful questions to ask ourselves during this time: How do I align my passion and goals with the wisdom of something greater than ego pursuits? How and where can I take actions that are reflective of my deepest values? What is my relationship to the masculine/feminine principles? How does that show up in my life? Where do I feel sufficiently in charge of my own destiny?
Mars  Astrology  Astrograph  LeslieBenson  MarsRetrograde  Men  Women  Patriarchy 
20 days ago by juandante
Patriarchy is the oppression of men May 31, 2012 By Alison Tieman (Typhonblue)
Patriarchy is Oppression of Men

We cast others into the roles of agent and patient. Agents do things, patients have things done to them. People prefer to deliver pain to agents, even those agents who act in the benefit to others, than patients. Agents, good or bad, are seen as both capable of enduring more pain than patients and elicit less sympathy when they do so.[1]

This dichotomy divides people into those who can expect to draw upon the resources of society to be protected and provided for, and those who can’t.

This dynamic can also be titled ‘hyperagency’[2]. Hyperagency is the perception that a group of people has more agency than they actually do. Being cast in the role of hyperagent has significant drawbacks for groups so cast and throughout history we can see groups of marginalized people cast into this role as scapegoats. They are seen as having disproportionate influence on society, thus responsible for all of its ills, thus punishment or confinement of the hyperagent group is justified.

Hyperagents suffer from hyposympathy relative to hypoagents. Hypoagents are greatly enfranchised over hyperagents in their ability to expect and demand that others protect them when they are victimized and provide for them when they require it. Hypoagents weild power through the creation and exploitation of hypersympathy. Hypersympathy is an artificially inflated sympathy based on reducing other’s perception of one’s agency.

Hyperagents, on the other hand, are considered the appropriate dispensers of violence on the behalf of hypoagents. Hyperagents are also expected to buffer hypoagents from directly experiencing violence or depredation.

Men, in every society on earth, are cast into the role of hyperagent. They are expected to assume positions of overt power in the family and in the political, legal and financial spheres. This is an expectation of their gender role and one they have to fulfill least they be seen as ‘not a man’ and thus worthless to their families and society.

Needing to be emphasized is men’s lack of agency regarding assumption of the position of hyperagent.

Men are forced to assume the role of hyperagent in various ways. Some men have it thrust upon them as a condition of being male; for example in communities that have a cultural practice of appointing men as heads of households (even though there is evidence indicating that men have less actual control over their households relative to the true head of the home, the woman who has taken him as husband.) Men are also expected to acquire hyperagency through participation in systems that expect sacrifice of emotional and physical health as a cost of participation.

Forcing men into hyperagency as a condition of their gender role enables a vast reserve of vulnerable men—made vulnerable by society’s relative indifference to their suffering and deaths–for society to sacrifice when and where it requires such sacrifice.

Without the perception of male hyperagency, cultivated through cultural rules about ‘heads of households’ and the ‘stronger sex’, there would not be this battery of human bodies to throw into the woodchipper.

This creates a self-reinforcing cycle. Generals exist because there are tens of thousands of privates willing to give up their lives on his order; tens of thousands of privates exist because men have been thrust into the role of hyperagent thus society will turn a blind eye to their deaths; men have been universally stereotyped as hyperagents because Generals are male. But Generals are male because only men are so motivated by the expectation to assume hyperagency that they will endure the emotional strain of sending thousands of people to their death. (Regardless if that emotional strain is lessened by the fact those people are mostly men.)

Men die in war precisely because our leaders are men.

(In fact arguing that excluding women from positions of power is oppression of women when those positions of power only exist because other men are willing to sacrifice their lives to create them seems to be moral slight of hand of the worst sort.)

Far from being empowering, a man’s role as hyperagent is disempowering.

Every cultural institution that casts men into the role of overt hyperagent disenfranchises men as a group emotionally. They become victims of hyposympathy and are incapable of rousing concern from others for their vulnerabilities. (Instead their vulnerabilities arouse contempt and ostracisim.) Simply, the more cultural institutions that presumptively exclude women from the role of hyperagent, the more women are perceived as hypoagents relative to men, the more hypersympathy women receive and the more men suffer from hyposympathy.

In a system, where overt hypoagency benefits women by enfranchising them with hypersympathy, women policing the behavior of other women—including resisting overt political enfranchisement of women as the female founded and lead Antisufferage movement demonstrates– to make sure all women play the role of hypoagent is makes complete sense.

Rather than dupes of the patriarchy, these women are protecting the dynamic that produces the hypersympathy that they then exploit to benefit themselves.

Conversely forcing men into the role of hyperagent represents a real and often deadly loss of empathetic potency. It puts men into an inferior position relative to women when negotiating for sympathy from society at large.

And no one in history ever asked men’s permission before forcing their participation in all of this.



[1] “Moral Typecasting: Divergent Perceptions of Moral Agents and Moral Patients” http://www.wjh.harvard.edu/~wegner/pdfs/Gray%20&%20Wegner%20(2009)%20Moral%20Typecasting.pdf

[2] Credit to GirlWritesWhat for coining the term ‘hyperagency.’
Patriarchy  Men  Women  AVoiceForMen 
21 days ago by juandante
A Woman’s Work: Home Economics* (*I Took Woodworking Instead)
"It started with me doing all the work to find the apartment and negotiate the lease, laying out the full deposit myself, doing the repairs myself before we moved in, and then, once we had moved in, paying for household items he didn’t prioritize, like a sturdy, airtight trash bin that wouldn’t attract roaches or fall apart after six months."
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25 days ago by cluebucket
"Planning my wedding as a non-binary bride" |
Merchfach Wed 06-Jun-18 09:43:17

The woman in the article has a very narrow frame of reference. She's not non-binary, she's a feminist — she just doesn't see it. And this is the triumph of the trans movement: replacing feminism with gender identity. Identity politics say that it's not the (patriarchal) system that's the problem, it's you as a person not identifying right. That explains the inward-looking, self-obsessed nature of so many non-binaries and the like. Instead of which, if you say 'I'm okay, t's the f**king patriarchal system that's making me feel so uncomfortable' you instantly feel better about yourself. Angry, of course, but better too.


changeypants Wed 06-Jun-18 09:47:11

what strikes me about the identities this really compartively traditional woman is assuming, and identities like "demi sexual" as mentioned by PP and the one where you only want to have sex some of the time, what strikes me is that they all seem to be about taking a personal responsibility for things that are not in fact ones fault.

of course not all people want to perform the gender stereotypes of femininity and masculinity. they are imposed upon us

of course some people only want to have sex with their partner. i only feel attracted to men who know what a clitoris is and how it works. that's quite a few men i don't fancy there.

i think it is interesting to consider who gains from a culture of taking personal responsibility for these environmental failings? if we all change our identities and even our bodies to deal with the discomfort felt with the environmental situation, then what are we not doing? we are not challenging the way men have sex; we are not challenging the way society imposes stereotypes; we are not challenging the institution of marriage etc etc.
patriarchy  gender  non-binary 
5 weeks ago by paniedejmirade
On Motherhood – Harvey Jeni – Medium
I gave birth to my second son under a tree. It was under an Ash tree, and it was bloody. Days after, a chuckling visitor told me I could be heard the other side of the hill; that everyone within a mile radius knew he was coming. I’d delivered that son standing, my two feet rooted into the ground, my face up to the sky. Roaring.
motherhood  patriarchy 
6 weeks ago by paniedejmirade
So apparently Jordan Peterson has a section in his book about lobster social behavior
So apparently Jordan Peterson has a section in his book about lobster
social behavior. I’ve never written a long twitter thread before but
YOU COME INTO ~*MY*~ HOUSE? Let’s talk marine invertebrate social
behavior:
biology  patriarchy  sociology 
7 weeks ago by campylobacter
Psychologist Jordan Peterson says lobsters help to explain why human hierarchies exist – do they?
So not only does it seem unlikely that low levels of serotonin would make humans settle in at the bottom of a hierarchy, it goes to show that lobsters and humans are just not a great comparison.

Peterson, however, claims that the nervous systems of humans and lobsters are in fact so similar that antidepressants work on lobsters. One such drug, Prozac, has been shown to block serotonin uptake into serotonergic nerve terminals in lobsters. So yes, because the molecule is the same and the nerve terminals are very similar, the drug does what it was designed to do. But it did not make lobsters happier.
neuroscience  biology  patriarchy 
7 weeks ago by campylobacter
Peterson thinks he's proving "hierarchies are over 300 million years old!"
THREAD

Yes. Dr Peterson thinks he's proving "hierarchies are over 300 million
years old!" & thus some kind of universal law. If he or his audience
knew biology, they'd know that chordata (our phylum) and arthropoda
(lobsters' phylum) diverged over a billion years ago.

Jordan Peterson
biology  patriarchy  toxicMasculinity 
7 weeks ago by campylobacter

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