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Asking my spouse these two questions every week keeps our bond strong
So we've started the practice of meeting once a week for tea (wine works just as well, if that's your fancy). And rather than let the day's headlines or our endless checklist guide our conversation (i.e. Did you call the roofer? Should I book the flight before it gets too expensive? Are you going to call the bank about those extra fees?), we anchor our interlude in two questions that have completely changed how we spend those 30 minutes together: "What would you like to be acknowledged for?" and "What would you like me to know about your life?"

Notice that these are different from "How are you?" or "What's going on?," which usually elicit fairly standard and bland responses such as "fine" or "not much." These questions require the responder to actually reflect, step inside themselves, and call something deeper to the surface. And when my husband asks me these two questions, the floodgates of my inner world literally break open.

What would you like to be acknowledged for?

What would you like me to know about your life?
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3 days ago by 44sunsets

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