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Bullish: How To Make A Career Out Of The 10,000 Things You Want To Do
Instead of a giant mess of random stuff, imagine spokes on a wheel. The thing that pays you the money is the hub of the wheel. Don’t necessarily choose the thing you love the most. The thing you love the most is probably something other people love also, so there are too many people wanting to do it and therefore the laws of supply and demand work against you. Pick something you don’t hate but that other people find difficult, scary, boring, etc. Get so deep into that thing that you learn to love it more.

From that thing proceed all the spokes of the other things you want to do. More exciting, more gratifying, less lucrative things, perhaps. Start with the ones you can try to sell to the same people “in the hub,” people who already know you as an expert in your main field.
2 days ago by celine
Bullish: How to Make Money as an Artsy-Artist Commie Pinko Weirdo, Part II - TheGloss
I feel like another neglected group that has really helped me are people who are slightly above your level in different fields. Too many creative people only cultivate relationships with their direct peers — say musicians with musicians, while it’s often more intellectually interesting and profitable for a musician to cultivate artists, journalists, costume designers, dancers, computer programmers.

I think it’s really the difference between being an obsessive scenester who puts all your self worth in the opinions of your peers (bad), and cultivating a tight circle of talented peers who you trust and who have similar goals as you and who you have genuine affection for (good).
2 days ago by celine
How To Increase Your Willpower? Just 10 Simple But Powerful Tricks
7. Take on a willpower workout.

If you want to strengthen a muscle in your body, you use it. It’s the same for the metaphorical muscle of willpower: people who exercise their willpower frequently often have better self-control.

In Willpower, Tierney cites one study in which students were asked to watch their posture for a week. At the end of the week, those students performed better on self-control tasks — tasks that had nothing to do with sitting up straight — than students who had not been exercising control all week.

Other ideas for working out your willpower muscle include not using contractions when you speak, only speaking in complete sentences, saying no instead of nah or yes instead of yeah, or avoiding the use of profanities. “All these things require mental effort,” says Tierney, “And the more you do that, the more it builds up that muscle.”

Sleep, Meditate, Exercise
procrastination  life  guide  productivity 
2 days ago by sandykoe
David George Haskell on Twitter: "Time is context dependent. For the Rocky Mountain bristlecone pine, a needle is fifteen summers, a sapling a century. For every species, a tempo, a velocity. Wood from over 50 human generations ago, on a Precambrian mount
"Time is context dependent. For the Rocky Mountain bristlecone pine, a needle is fifteen summers, a sapling a century. For every species, a tempo, a velocity.
Wood from over 50 human generations ago, on a Precambrian mountain."


""“time is a tree (this life one leaf)
but love is the sky and i am for you
just so long and long enough”
- e.e. cummings "
time  context  nature  life  velocity  trees  eecummings  poems  poetry  multispecies  morethanhuman 
3 days ago by robertogreco
Bullish: Maybe Work-Life Balance Means You Should Work MORE - TheGloss
cut out all the fucking around, and you can easily step up your career and life.

Here’s what I mean by “fucking around”: I mean anything that is not extremely productive or extremely pleasurable. For me, that happens when I feel like I’ve been online long enough to read everything interesting … and yet I am still on the internet. Or when I am on the train and have read all the guilty-pleasure articles and find myself perusing announcements about the weddings of actors on shows I have never watched. If it isn’t extremely productive or extremely pleasurable, just stop. Either eat something healthy that takes five minutes, or have a huge decadent meal with friends for two hours. Either go to the gym and work every fucking muscle in your body like an Olympian, or stay home and find someone to make out with. If your job requires you to attend pointless meetings, either find a way out (“Dear boss, would you like me to attend this meeting or finish this project before the close of business?”), or use the pointless meeting to your own ends, setting your own private goals: make an ally, impress someone it would be worth impressing, be so prepared that everyone can easily see you in a more responsible position. Treat the pointless meeting like a job interview for the next-best job. Make your commute less of a slog by finding a way to make it productive or pleasurable — either way. Make a list of all your forms of recreation, and kill off the least pleasurable ones. Is looking at Modcloth dresses you can’t afford as fun as eating chocolate in the bathtub? Why play Farmville when you could be trying new sexual positions and photographing the results for nostalgic reminiscence when you are elderly?

There are seasons for all things, Mike, and this blog is intended for the young, or those who feel young. Indeed, it is those with a hot-blooded ambition in their veins who spend decades building something — a company, a family, a philanthropic boon, a life truly greater than that their own parents could have imagined for them — and thus have something actually relax from in later seasons. Ever have a truly great night of sleep after a day chopping wood, or hiking the Appalachian Trail? Life is like that. There will be a winter in your life and a winter in mine — perhaps sooner than we think — and we will have no choice but to slow down. I want us all to experience our later years with a gratified sense of contentment and security. You have to earn those things. Now.
3 days ago by celine
Bullish: How To Reduce Productivity Guilt
Practically every woman I know lives in a state of near-constant guilt for not getting enough done.

Of course, I have ambitious friends.

When you look for advice on a problem like this, your ambitious friends typically say, “Me, too!” and sometimes try to compete with you about who is the most behind on their goals.

Your unambitious, casually-relaxed friends are often equally unhelpful. Sure, sometimes they force you to get out of the city and go camping, which, surprisingly, works wonders: either the rhythms of nature quiet your internal stress meter and you wake up at dawn, happy to be alive, or else you become so infuriated at nature (IT MOVES SO SLOWLY) that you are delighted to return to your regularly-scheduled programming.

But mostly, your unambitious friends say things like, “You shouldn’t try to do so many things. Why are you doing ALL THE THINGS?” These friends then helpfully point out that all they do is go to work and pursue some kind of hobby like “restaurants” or “Pilates.” And you want to say, “But I don’t want your life,” but that would be rude, so you smile, tensely.

nstead, I suggested: “Why don’t you declare a theme for each month? And then keep doing all the things, but when you can only do one thing for a day, you’ll know which one to do and you won’t feel bad about all the others.”

For instance, the theme for the month could be: Finish that book! You are an author! You have good abs, but they are primarily the abs of an author! The abs are subservient to the book! When in doubt about what one thing can be accomplished before having to go to someone’s bridal shower on a Saturday at 2pm, there’s no thought required: BOOK. Next month, maybe the answer is: SCHMOOZE WITH RICH PEOPLE, or SIT DOWN AND CHANT.
3 days ago by celine
Bullish: Maybe You're Not Actually a Lazy Procrastinator - TheGloss
Elena gave me a list: family (with several subcategories of children, extended family, out-of-towners, etc.), dancing (generally at big gatherings of extended family), Italian food, wine, etc. Having a bikini body just didn’t figure in, and the amount of time, effort, and food deprivation that it would take an already thin and relatively fit person to achieve and maintain a Hollywood-style body was simply incompatible with her values. Her whole life was built around big Italian meals and wine and family. She wasn’t overweight or an alcoholic or anything of the sort, and she did exercise; no harm was being done by loving the things she loved. For some reason, though, she had gotten it in her head that something that probably ranked #8 or so in her list of values ought to overtake everything else while she dieted her way down to a six-pack.

I told her some version of this: “It’s actually quite a lot of work to maintain the very low body fat percentage we’re talking about, and it sounds like doing that would actually compromise a lot of things that are much more enjoyable and meaningful for you. So you’d be making a logical decision to forget about it and enjoy the things you actually enjoy. No reason to feel guilty about not pursuing something you don’t value that highly.”

So, if you clicked on this article wanting a pep talk, here it is. You may be procrastinating. But don’t think of yourself as a procrastinator. Think of yourself as someone in a situation where your responsibilities — or perceived responsibilities — don’t match up with your values.
3 days ago by celine
Bullish Life: Some Dreams Are Stupid - TheGloss
Your childhood dreams did not take into account that you would grow up to like sex and alcohol, and get satisfaction out of, say, good project management. And that you might like painting, for instance, but not enough to want to be poor. And that you would make decisions based on a need for companionship and possibly your biological clock. And that retiring well might be more important than exactly what kind of job you do during your forties and fifties.

When a three-year old says she wants to grow up to be a bird, we all laugh, but when a twelve-year-old says she wants to be a singer, OHMYGOD HOW DARE YOU MALIGN HER DREAMS!

That’s what we’re defending?

Kids cannot articulate — or conceive of — life goals like “living both ethically and with verve.”

Sure, a few fully self-actualized adults have concise goals that also sound like dreams: Free Tibet! Stop violence against women! Fix as many cleft palates as possible!

Cool. But unless you are utterly single-minded, you are probably going to need a paragraph to lay out your values, the things you need in order to be happy, the things that would be super fucking awesome on top of that, and how you plan to get there.

Futhermore, not only are most dreams chosen sort of capriciously, most dreams are jobs. In real life, most jobs are means to an end. Your vision really should extend beyond a job.

So, probably more than a paragraph.
3 days ago by celine

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