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I’m a sexual consent educator. Here’s what’s missing in the Aziz Ansari conversation.
It’s impossible to know for sure what Ansari was thinking on the night in question, but this is a seasoned performer who knows how to read a crowd, and a “relationship expert” to boot. It strains credulity to imagine he truly thought she was excited about what was happening between them. What’s much more likely is that he didn’t care how she felt one way or the other and treated her boundaries as a challenge. Either way, his alleged behavior was dehumanizing.

Affirmative consent, when taught well, also removes heteronormative assumptions from sex ed. If we’re each equally responsible to make sure our partner is enthusiastic about what’s happening, gender stereotypes — such as that women are passive and men are aggressive — about sexuality begin to break down.

Consent education does something else transformative: It tells girls that sex is supposed to be for them.
vox  aziz-ansari  sexual-assault  sexual-consent  consent  jaclyn-friedman  sex-education 
january 2018 by yolandaenoch

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