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On insecurity as a friend - LessWrong 2.0
There’s a common narrative about confidence that says that confidence is good, insecurity is bad. It’s better to develop your confidence than to be insecure. There’s an obvious truth to this.
Insecurity  lifehacks  wellbeing  Self  articles 
6 days ago by mwishek
Britain’s insecure towns aren’t ‘left behind’. They hold the key to our future | John Harris
Britain’s insecure towns aren’t ‘left behind’. They hold the key to our future | John Harris

“In fact, as with so many other towns, what Walsall represents is the social and economic cutting edge, albeit in a very different way from more affluent parts of the country. The future it is entering is not manifested in the gleam of luxury flats, or the promise of lives rendered blissfully easy by technology: the town is troubled, and clearly in need of help, but that does not make it any less modern.”

“Two weeks ago I spent the afternoon at the gates of the vast Amazon distribution centre in the former coal town of Rugeley in Staffordshire, where people from Walsall are brought to work in buses, the blacked-out windows of which give off a strange sense of secrecy and paranoia. The centre sits in the shadow of a disused power station and next to a new Premier Inn and a branch of McDonald’s. It is one of the most surreal corners of England I’ve set foot in: a parade of auguries of the future in which we may all soon find ourselves.”

“These are modern demands voiced in truly modern places – what stands in their way is an enduring disconnect between progressive politicians and the social grassroots. This problem is encapsulated by the fact that the only political offer to have truly cut through in recent years was the chimera of Brexit. Moreover, many people in Walsall are unimpressed by Labour’s transformation, and still see it as a collection of metropolitan people indifferent both to their communitarian values and the nitty-gritty of their lives.”
brexit  insecurity  cities  poverty  corbyn  labour-party 
21 days ago by craigryan
Americans Want to Believe Jobs Are the Solution to Poverty. They’re Not. - The New York Times
But rather than hold itself accountable, America reverses roles by blaming the poor for their own miseries.

Here is the blueprint. First, valorize work as the ticket out of poverty, and debase caregiving as not work. Look at a single mother without a formal job, and say she is not working; spot one working part time and demand she work more. Transform love into laziness. Next, force the poor to log more hours in a labor market that treats them as expendables. Rest assured that you can pay them little and deny them sick time and health insurance because the American taxpayer will step in, subsidizing programs like the earned-income tax credit and food stamps on which your work force will rely. Watch welfare spending increase while the poverty rate stagnates because, well, you are hoarding profits. When that happens, skirt responsibility by blaming the safety net itself. From there, politicians will invent new ways of denying families relief, like slapping unrealistic work requirements on aid for the poor.

As I watched this young man identify with Smith’s character, it dawned on me that what his parents, preachers, teachers, coaches and guidance counselors had told him for motivation — “Study hard, stick to it, dream big and you will be successful” — had been internalized as a theory of life.


We need a new language for talking about poverty. “Nobody who works should be poor,” we say. That’s not good enough. Nobody in America should be poor, period. No single mother struggling to raise children on her own; no formerly incarcerated man who has served his time; no young heroin user struggling with addiction and pain; no retired bus driver whose pension was squandered; nobody. And if we respect hard work, then we should reward it, instead of deploying this value to shame the poor and justify our unconscionable and growing inequality. “I’ve worked hard to get where I am,” you might say. Well, sure. But Vanessa has worked hard to get where she is, too.
USA  economy  poverty  jobs  pay  wages  employment  outsourcing  zeroHours  insecurity  precarity  socialMobility  workEthic  welfare  workfare  TrumpDonald  blame 
4 weeks ago by petej
1994 - spqr - Marvel Cinematic Universe [Archive of Our Own]
Tony goes blonde for a few months.

She isn’t nuts about it, but Steve and Bucky really seem to hate it, which is a good selling point. The press are convinced it's the beginning of a mental break.

They might not be totally wrong.
marvel  mcu  au  girl!tony  bucky_steve_tony  bucky_steve  angst  insecurity 
9 weeks ago by bekap
limpet - spqr - Marvel Cinematic Universe [Archive of Our Own]
Last summer, Tony stole one of Bucky’s sweaters.

It’s green, dark green, with thin navy stripes. It was too big on Bucky, so on Tony it’s almost comical. Except it’s not funny at all, the way Bucky’s stomach swoops when he sees him in it.
marvel  mcu  bucky_tony  protective!bucky  steve  natasha  angst  insecurity  au  modernau 
9 weeks ago by bekap
honest means of travel - spqr - Kingsman (Movies) [Archive of Our Own]
Roxy’s hand moves gently down the side of his face. He lets his eyes slip closed. “You told me you loved them,” she murmurs.

Eggsy huffs, and sinks deeper into the pillows. “Yeah,” he says. “It don’t matter, though. I’m used to carin’ more about people than they do about me.”
kingsman  eggsy_harry_merlin  roxy  angst  insecurity  hurt!eggsy 
9 weeks ago by bekap
Guard Your Eggshell Heart - letsgostealafandom - Leverage [Archive of Our Own]
Parker had a theory, and her theory was this: it made Eliot really happy when they noticed the things he did for them. It made Eliot happy when they made sure he knew they noticed the things he did for them. And when Eliot thought they didn't notice, it made him- not unhappy, but something worse, something like he knew that was all he could expect from anyone and he'd resigned himself to it a while back. Once she'd noticed it, she couldn't stop, and the realization of how often they took Eliot for granted made her stomach twist uncomfortably.
leverage  parker_eliot_hardison  parker_hardison  angst  insecurity  praisekink  postseries  misunderstanding 
9 weeks ago by bekap
Your Heart on Your Skin - zade - Les Misérables - All Media Types [Archive of Our Own]
Takes the trope of soulmate tattoos, twines in flower language, and adds the caveat that you bloom not just for your soulmate, but for every important moment of your life.

This fic successfully takes a fairly simple trope and worldbuilds it into something layered and deep with sense and delicious detail, with friendship as a focus and heartbreaking emotions. AKA: what more could I ask for?
au  wonderful.characterisation  au:otherjobs:tattoo.artist  au:school/college  banter/snark  beautiful  drunk!character  FAVORITE  fic  first.time/get.together  flangst  friendship  high!character/drug.use  insecurity  intense  interesting  p:3:jbm  les.mis:grantaires.shitty.self-esteem  les.mis:modern!au  les.miserables  les.mis:bff!eponine  long  marius/cosette  minor.background.pairings  muchlove  one-shot  p:combeferre/eponine  p:enjolras/grantaire  pg-13  pining  romance/love  sick/injured  slash  sweet  tearjerker  mental.illness:depression  world.building  trope:soulmate.tattoos  warning:substance.abuse 
10 weeks ago by fromwhereoncewas
torakowalski: Won't You Please (Leave Your Mark On Me)
Clint really likes handcuffs; he’s just not sure how to tell Phil that. Which is a problem since they’ve been sleeping together for a few months now.
fic  avengers  marvel  slash  clint/coulson  smut  bdsm  bondage  insecurity  <20K  +2012-07 
11 weeks ago by spatz

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