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The Bond - by Ladyhawk_lhflu (The Bond #1)
After Spock's pon farr ended...well that's where the gossippers have it all wrong. There were no clandestine meetings in storage closets, no strip chess in our cabins. In fact, nothing changed.

Nothing changed.

Spock went back to being my oh-so-competent first officer. I went back to being the golden child of the Fleet.

At first, yes, I did wonder at the return to our independent lives. Weren't we supposed to function as a couple, at least during downtime?

Not knowing how to ask him, I tried to catch his eye on the bridge. I tried to gauge his emotions when we played chess. But he turned away from me, hiding whatever he was feeling.

Yes, Spock has emotions. All Vulcans do. Because of the fierceness of their feelings, those dignified people don't trust that they can express themselves without destroying everyone. But the emotions are still there. If you watch a Vulcan's face carefully, you can see them just below the surface, trying to get out.

Usually, Spock was more expressive than most Vulcans. He went against what he was taught in deference to his very human captain and mostly human crew, I believe. But that didn't help me as I tried to understand what I had gotten myself into. When I tried to bring up his pon farr, when I tried to ask if our sexual relationship would continue, even when I tried to ask if T'Pring would suffer any consequences from what she did, the bastard stonewalled me.

His face turned into a sheet of ice with pointed ears. He clammed up and wouldn't say a word until I changed the subject.
st:tos  kirk/spock  ep-related  fuckordie  bonded  asexual  rejection  h/c  infidelity 
yesterday by runpunkrun
The History Boys (2006)
Jed's thoughts: A sharp, witty film packed with literary references, based on a play, about teenagers trying to get into Oxford and Cambridge. The sexual abuse is adult educators groping 17-year-olds; infidelity is vaguely referenced but not focused on. I love rewatching this movie because there's so much going on with all the different characters that I always pick up on a different thread each time.
drama  comedy  tragedy  r  1980s  m/m  white  uk  english  gay main character  queer angst  queer character death  sexual abuse  infidelity  navel-gazey  ensemble  jed's favorites 
3 days ago by franklymyqueeridontgiveadamn
The Secret Diaries of Miss Anne Lister (2010)
Jed's thoughts: A biopic about a badass 19th century lady from Yorkshire who refused to let anybody shame her out of living, dressing, and fucking as she damn well pleased. The infidelity is a woman cheating on her husband to be with another woman. Warning to romance fans, the happy ending is not a genre-typical HEA (it sets up like a romance but it's really more of a character-oriented story). She gets picked on a bit for wearing men's clothes and there's some general tutting but overall there's less queerphobia than I'd expect from the historical period.
drama  tv-14  19th century  f/f  white  uk  english  lesbian main character  infidelity  happy ending  based on a true story  substance abuse  jed's favorites 
3 days ago by franklymyqueeridontgiveadamn
Contracorriente / Undertow (2009)
Jed's thoughts: A heartbreaking, beautiful movie about a fisherman and a ghost. I don't have words for how intensely this made me feel.
drama  tragedy  romance  unrated  m/m  latinx  peru  spanish  queer angst  infidelity  supernatural elements  childbirth  beach setting  queer character death  jed's favorites 
3 days ago by franklymyqueeridontgiveadamn
Obsession (1949 film) - Wikipedia
A slow drip suspense thriller, a shrink who's a chemist bent on revenge, outed by a dog and cat
film  uk  england  london  psychiatrist  infidelity  murder  dog 
22 days ago by csrollyson
When Will These Scars Begin to Fade?
"Through everything he had never seen himself as a victim, he was just himself and his partner was just his partner and their life together was just what happened." (7213 words)
merlin  arthur  will(merlin)  merlin/arthur  merlin/will(merlin)  hurt!merlin  abused!merlin  raped!merlin  scarred!merlin  protective!arthur  understanding!arthur  pining!arthur  asshole!will(merlin)  abusive!will(merlin)  hurt/comfort  abuse:domestic  noncon/dubcon  self_loathing  escape/rescue  recovery  infidelity  first_time  fandom:merlin  author:caledonia 
7 weeks ago by elwarre
Bro-ing Down & Falling Up by LazyBaker [Archive of Our Own]
Steve and Nancy haven’t kissed in, like, three months. Billy has been all over Steve for, like, a year and a half and three days.
-1k  a.lazybaker  infidelity  billy/steve  strangerthings  1901  au 
8 weeks ago by pastself
seamonster009 - Home
Yamazaki Sousuke wishes nithing mre than to be a home for Matsuoka Rin, because Rin has always been Sousuke's dream, life, and love. His one and only.

Unfortunately, Rin is a man of adventures and Sosuke might not be the only one he turns to.
fandom:Free!  year:2019  Rating:Mature  pairing:Rin/Sousuke  pairing:Rin/Haruka  infidelity  angst  hurt/comfort  coming-of-age  WIP  words:10.000-15.000 
9 weeks ago by hear-the-rain
Count to Ten by Ironlawyer
Tony gets what he wants, but not what he wants
m-ults  r:m  m/m  steve/tony  infidelity  ***  narration 
11 weeks ago by vk2ria
But We'll Always Have Paris - okydoky - Harry Potter - J. K. Rowling [Archive of Our Own]
Twenty years ago, Harry and Draco had a secret that they never planned to reveal. But a trip to Paris makes Harry reminisce about the old days and what could have been…
fic  ao3  potter  draco/harry  E  okydoky  post-war  C  single  CD  infidelity 
12 weeks ago by wellfourthings
Micro-cheating: What It Is and Why It’s an Unhelpful Concept
The truth is that many of the behaviors deemed “micro-cheating” — like checking someone else out — are far from reliable signs of relationship problems. But the fact that they’re categorized as “cheating” reveals an implied demand that our partners never pay attention to anyone but us. Ever. That kind of possessiveness represents an unhealthy and unrealistic approach to love. The hard truth is that it’s very, very difficult for a single person to meet all of your sexual and emotional needs forever.

Humans are not “wired” to find one — and only one — person attractive for their entire lives. This is because we — like many animal species — are subject to something known as the Coolidge Effect. This refers to the well-documented finding that sexual interest in one partner tends to wane over time, but comes roaring back in response to new partners. (In case you’re wondering, this effect is named after a story about former president Calvin Coolidge who, on a visit to a chicken farm, noted the seemingly endless prowess of a rooster that had access to multiple hens.)

Studies have found that both men and women show some degree of habituation — a lessening of sexual interest — when they watch the same porn clip over and over. Likewise, other research has found that when heterosexual men watch porn featuring the same woman every day for a week, they subsequently ejaculate faster when they’re shown erotic images of a new woman.

*am reminded that men suffering from infertility problems are recommended to watch two men on one woman porn, as that results in higher sperm count of ejaculate. Hardly bad if this is the natural response*

https://www.nature.com/news/2005/050606/full/news050606-5.html

https://scienceblogs.com/pharyngula/2006/04/18/the-effect-of-porn-on-male-fer

https://aux.avclub.com/july-7-2010-1798220760

What these data tell us is that it’s simply part of our nature to be turned on by novelty, which is why most of us fantasize about people other than our partners and find ourselves gazing at attractive strangers from time to time. These things don’t necessarily mean that we no longer love our partners or that our relationships are on the verge of crumbling — more often than not, they’re just part of being human. To deny this and instead chalk these things up to “micro-cheating” is a recipe for relationship disaster. If you insist that your partner should never find anyone but you attractive — a pretty unrealistic expectation, according to science (not to mention common sense) — you’re probably going to have a rough go of it, because every lingering glance they give and emoji they send will become a cause for contention.

To be clear, the fact that the Coolidge Effect exists does not mean that long-term passion is impossible in a monogamous relationship or that an open relationship is the only option. Lifelong monogamy and sexual passion are not mutually exclusive; however, if you want both, you have to work at it by regularly finding ways of introducing novelty into your sex life. For example, research finds that the more acts of novelty and variety couples engage in (like watching porn together, or giving each other massages), the better able they are to keep the flames of passion burning.

It’s natural to find people other than your partner attractive. And this, in and of itself, is not cheating. It’s just how our brains work. And while it may be tempting to see this as an inherent threat to our relationships, there’s a more productive way you can use this insight: working to ensure that novelty remains a big part of your own sex life. This will likely enhance your relationship in the long run.
cheating  sexual-desire  infidelity  pornography 
december 2018 by thegrandnarrative

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