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Daddy Issues | Katherine Angel | Granta
In the awful, wearying months in which Harvey Weinstein’s ritualistic mistreatment of women was being recounted daily in the media, I found myself, like so many others, wondering and talking about the men in my life: ex-boyfriends, ex-stalkers, ex-harassers, ex-gropers.
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15 days ago by therourke
Jirka Väätäinen renders Disney cartoon Dads as realistic portraits
From villains to princesses, Finnish artist Jirka Väätäinen has been bringing beloved Disney characters to life, and they all look like someone you’d want to meet. Recently, Jirka has started focusing on the guys a lot of us might have forgotten – fathers. There’s Tarzan’s dad, John, Pocahontas’s dad, Chief Powhatan, and a few others who now look like they’re not only capable of bringing up a child, but taking over Hollywood as well.
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24 days ago by dbourn
How Men’s Bodies Change When they Become Fathers
As an anthropologist who studies human fatherhood at the University of Oxford, I’ve run up against a widespread and deeply ingrained belief among fathers: that because their bodies haven’t undergone the myriad biological changes associated with pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding, they’re not as biologically and psychologically “primed” for caretaking as women are.

As a result, they feel less confident and question their abilities to parent: Will they be “good” parents? Will they bond with their babies? How will they know what to do?

As my own personal and professional experiences dictate, the idea that fathers are biologically “less prepared” for parenthood is unlikely to be true. Much of the role of parenting is not instinctual for anyone. (I remember the steep learning curve of those first days of motherhood — learning what each of my baby’s cries meant, mastering the quick diaper change and juggling the enormous amount of equipment necessary just to make it out the door.)

And while the biological changes fathers undergo are not as well understood (nor as outwardly dramatic) as those of mothers, scientists are just beginning to find that both men and women undergo hormonal and brain changes that herald this key transition in a parent’s life.

In essence, being a dad is as biological a phenomenon as being a mom.
fathers  fatherhood  parenting  gender-roles 
4 weeks ago by thegrandnarrative
What it Means to Be Alive | Harper's Magazine
My father decided that he would end his life by throwing himself from the top of the parking garage at the Nashville airport, which he later told me had seemed like the best combination of convenience—that is, he could get there easily and unnoticed—and sufficiency—that is, he was pretty sure it was tall enough to do the job. I never asked him which other venues he considered and rejected before settling on this plan. He probably did not actually use the word “best.” It was Mother’s Day, 2013.
suicide  family  fatherhood  from instapaper
8 weeks ago by max_read
The Relentlessness of Modern Parenting - The New York Times
""On the one hand, I love my work,” she said. “But the way it’s structured in this country, where there’s not really child care and there’s this sense that something is wrong with you if you aren’t with your children every second when you’re not at work? It isn’t what I think feminists thought they were signing up for.”
parenting  motherhood  parenthood  father  mother  trends  developmentalpsychology  devpsych  development  childdevelopment  fatherhood  socialisation  childhood  childwelfare  adulthood  psychology  class  children  society  American  poverty  america  mothers  analysis  times  news  culture  socialization  fathers 
10 weeks ago by iaskedalice09
The Celtics, My Father, and Me - The Ringer
This NBA postseason has been overshadowed by real life, but even in the worst of times, basketball can be a comfort
family  fatherhood  basketball 
10 weeks ago by raygrasso
Quillette -- From Hegemonic to Responsive Masculinity: The Transformative Power of the Provider Role
'...although men and women appear to experience emotions similarly there are gender differences in how emotions are expressed. Women are more emotionally expressive with the presence of familiar others acting as an eliciting stimulus.11 What these emotions appear to be doing is enabling the rapid translation of cognitive information into a form of behavior which will spur others (often men) into action. Often these actions are altruistic in that they do not appear to have any immediate benefit for the actor but will facilitate the perpetuation of his or her genes. -- This may be encouraged by the higher levels of empathic responsiveness which men have towards women than they do towards other men. In fact, just as male empathic responsiveness towards females is increasing, their empathy for other males goes down. This fits in evolutionary predictions. The process begins in puberty when one can see how an increasing responsiveness to females is likely to further a male’s reproductive fitness as he will be motivated to meet female needs. At the same time a decreasing empathy for other males facilitates their ability to compete with other men for these females.12 -- One of the clearest products of male responsiveness is provisioning behavior. Ultimately this has been encouraged by females: males are responding to female demand. Evidence from some of the most extensive social and psychological surveys suggest that women attach much more importance to their mate’s capacity to earn than men do.13 And when men are good financial prospects these relationships are more likely to transition to marriage and these marriages to last.14 -- ... Perhaps most importantly research from North America finds that fathers have lower levels of testosterone.16 Other research establishes that committed fatherhood actually causes men’s testosterone levels to drop. Lower levels of testosterone result in increased paternal response in men. -- ... The very act of providing for mate and offspring may be the mechanism by which dominant, mate-seeking masculinity becomes responsive and nurturing. Following from this we can see that male providing, far from being a dominance behavior as assumed by Bernard and others, emerges from the male nurturing repertoire.'
men  paternity  fatherhood  sacrifice  altruism 
april 2019 by adamcrowe

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