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How to Instantly Create Intimacy With Any Person You Meet
Phase 1: Be intentional.

Phase 2: Breaking the ice.

- Make eye contact and smile.
- Observe something specific about them then ask a question about it.
- Ask for/offer a favor.
- Follow up with “feeling” questions versus fact-based questions.
- Don’t ask small talk questions.

Phase 3: Connection.

- Listen. No, really listen.
- Identify their passion and talk about it.
- Be their mirror.
- Make them laugh.
- Be willing to be vulnerable.

Phase 4: Conversion.

- Link the conversation to a location or activity.
- Listen for opportunities.
- Just ask.
introvert  social  relationships  conversations 
10 hours ago by drmeme
> anyway those are my unstructured thoughts about the group chat. shoutout to the group chat!! hopefully i get to be in one one day
> there is nothing more joyous than seeing a conversation bloom and meander and twist and blossom in a safe and intimate group chat among friends. it feels to me like a unique type of mediated communication that i struggle to find an in-person analog to.

> that wild, freeform energy of people you love all sharing and expressing and listening and hearing all at the same time is so exciting!! it feels like this explosion of simultaneous and related thoughts that all still coalesce and move together

> maybe it's similar to a group of people all talking together in-person! but so many in-person practices and etiquettes don't really translate to the group chat, so it feels more sudden and energetic in a way

> like in the group chat, it feels like there's a talking over each other but in a way that is responsive and doesn't feel rude! and in the group chat, you don't navigate that anxiety of "do i speak now, do i not, is what i'm gonna say gonna be ignored" as much, in my opinion

> i think it's partially because in speech, there is a limit where truly only one person can be talking at a time. in the group chat, through text, everyone can be constantly talking and listening all at the same time and there is a brilliant energy to that!!

> anyway those are my unstructured thoughts about the group chat. shoutout to the group chat!! hopefully i get to be in one one day
jonny-sun  messaging  group-messaging  groups  conversations  socialmedia  via:jasdev 
6 days ago by cdzombak
> anyway those are my unstructured thoughts about the group chat. shoutout to the group chat!! hopefully i get to be in one one day
> there is nothing more joyous than seeing a conversation bloom and meander and twist and blossom in a safe and intimate group chat among friends. it feels to me like a unique type of mediated communication that i struggle to find an in-person analog to.

> that wild, freeform energy of people you love all sharing and expressing and listening and hearing all at the same time is so exciting!! it feels like this explosion of simultaneous and related thoughts that all still coalesce and move together

> maybe it's similar to a group of people all talking together in-person! but so many in-person practices and etiquettes don't really translate to the group chat, so it feels more sudden and energetic in a way

> like in the group chat, it feels like there's a talking over each other but in a way that is responsive and doesn't feel rude! and in the group chat, you don't navigate that anxiety of "do i speak now, do i not, is what i'm gonna say gonna be ignored" as much, in my opinion

> i think it's partially because in speech, there is a limit where truly only one person can be talking at a time. in the group chat, through text, everyone can be constantly talking and listening all at the same time and there is a brilliant energy to that!!

> anyway those are my unstructured thoughts about the group chat. shoutout to the group chat!! hopefully i get to be in one one day
jonny-sun  messaging  group-messaging  groups  conversations 
9 days ago by jasdev
The Lost Art of Instant Messaging
> you generally felt a sense of presence with your contacts. You at least knew what to expect, generally, when you messaged somebody.

​> The expectation is the conversation never really ends, but in fact, it never really starts, either.
via:jasdev  jason-brennan  messaging  presence  imessage  conversations  socialmedia 
7 weeks ago by cdzombak
The Lost Art of Instant Messaging
> you generally felt a sense of presence with your contacts. You at least knew what to expect, generally, when you messaged somebody.

​> The expectation is the conversation never really ends, but in fact, it never really starts, either.
jason-brennan  messaging  presence  ambient-intimacy  imessage  conversations 
7 weeks ago by jasdev
Blog - Socialpro
SocialPro Blog: Make any conversation interesting. Be confident in social settings and always know what to say. Form real connections with those you like.
people  social-skills  conversations  communication 
8 weeks ago by bigpicbruh
How to start a conversation with anyone - step by step - Socialpro
Conversations with friends:
By picking up on something you talked about last time.

communication  conversations  tips 
8 weeks ago by bigpicbruh
The Five Communication Styles - Claire Newton (psychologist)
assertive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, submissive, manipulative
communication  conversations 
april 2019 by GreggInCA

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