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Abandoned train stations and their history - INSIDER
From the mysterious ghost stations burrowed underneath Paris to a station in Cincinnati, Ohio, that never saw a single passenger, here are 18 photos of abandoned train stations and the history behind them.
abandonment  abandoned.architecture  subways  trains  france  spain  usa  norway  germany 
december 2018 by po
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'... So right now, the presumption (the starting point) is that the mother will nearly always get sole custody and the father will get access according to the standard, every-other-weekend formula, and that this is in the best interests of children. -- Problem is, the research does not demonstrate that this model is in the best interests of anyone. In fact, the model was formulated mostly on intuition, not data. It was generally felt that kids, especially very young ones, would be "stressed out" and "confused" by the "upheaval" of too much time with the other parent, changes to routine and domicile, etc. This is quite bizarre, given the ubiquity of daycare and parents' willingness to place even their very young children in the care of non-parents away from the home for most of their waking hours several days a week, and the ubiquity of babysitters tucking in even very young children at night when mom and dad have a wedding to attend or want to go to a fancy restaurant. Neither of these routine things parents do are generally considered to be damaging to children (unless they occur in excess). -- The intuition behind the standard custody policies is contraindicated by most of the research done over the last few decades. Children are stressed out by effectively losing ready and frequent access to one of the parents they've bonded with. They feel abandoned. The parent they had access to on a regular basis, usually daily, is now absent most of the time. Unlike a once a week date night for mom and dad, when they're stuck with a sitter, they see their own dad as often as they saw the sitter. Unlike daycare, where they get daily affirmation that both mom and dad are there when they go home at the end of the day, they have to wait a week or more to get that affirmation regarding one of the parents they have bonded with, love, rely on and are attached to. -- Absent certain factors like abuse, maximizing time with both parents has been shown to be in the best interests of children AND in the best interests of parents, believe it or not. While the intuition was that sharing parenting time would increase conflict between the parents (because they'll be in contact more often and have more opportunities to fight), the opposite is more typical. Parents find themselves in a position where they HAVE to interact regularly, where it becomes routine rather than the dreaded awkward or hostile conversation every other week during the hand-off. Neither parent feels marginalized to the degree that happens with negligible access for one of them. Both parents end up feeling like they're getting some of what they want, instead of one parent getting all of what they want and the other getting crumbs and resentfully acting out. -- More than this, the presumption that parenting will be shared removes the "winner takes all" factor out of divorce negotiations. The sole custodial/visiting parent model means both parties are fighting to win because if they lose, they lose big. And it's not just the primary asset of the marriage (the kids) that you stand to lose. Where the kids go, so does the property and income of the noncustodial parent. Child support is frequently calculated based on parenting time – the less time a dad has with the kids, the more child support he's ordered to pay. ...'
psychology  childhood  abandonment  parenting  divorce 
november 2018 by adamcrowe
Letter of Recommendation: Dead Malls - The New York Times
There’s a passage in an Anne Carson poem, “The Glass Essay,” that describes the process of grieving a breakup as the seasons repeat themselves: “I can feel that other day running underneath this one/like an old videotape.” In dead-mall tours, we can glimpse the traces of our past selves embedded in the modern footage — paging through jewel-cased CDs at what are now empty racks; sitting in movie theaters at the moment the house lights go down, revealing tiny lights strung along the floor like runways at night; perched on now-desolate benches, waiting for rides. By watching, perhaps, we can try to reassure ourselves that who we were and how we lived still exist, if on an altered plane — that, like the malls themselves, our pasts will resist their own erasure.
decline  poetry  history  abandoned  abandonment  decay  malls  nyt  nytimes  *** 
july 2018 by gpe
When They Come to Your WordPress Website
The cheap cost of establishing an online store belies the true cost associated with generating a successful online business This is something many advertisers omit to tell you when you sign up for “" />
wordpress  monthly  content  plugins  ecommerce  websites  shopping  cart  abandonment 
april 2018 by global.dwellers
Microsoft And The UWP For Enterprise Delusion – Dean Chalk
I have been a full time enterprise .NET developer since Microsoft released the beta version of .NET in 2001. By the time WPF and XAML came around in 2006 I was freelance developer in the investment…
microsoft  desktop  application  enterprise  development  abandonment  wpf  legacy  criticism  uwp 
march 2018 by gilberto5757
✢ Fantastic Elves and Where to Find Them
"Harry is an elf. No, he's not a bloody house elf. He lived in a place where they had got him confused with a house elf for nearly six years. They had him doing all the chores and he slept in a cupboard. Not a particularly cheerful cupboard, either. But he's not a house elf. He's a regular elf, thank you. Come on, people. It's like you're not wizards or something. PreHogwarts, NOT a creature fic. Character study." (36,731 words) Sequel: The Handbook of Elf Psychology
  harry_potter  draco_malfoy  gen  independent!harry  smart!harry  elf!harry  abandoned!harry  pov:harry  character_study  humor  magic  elves  abandonment  cabin/wilderness  series/verse  fandom:harrypotter  author:evansentranced  have:pdf 
february 2018 by elwarre
The Changer
"Harry Potter has been missing since he was eight. Now, seven years later, Severus Snape has a one night stand that just doesn't seem to end. How long will they be able to keep their secrets? HP/SS" (97,320 words - abandoned WIP) The underage in this is sort of explained but still uncomfortable.
harry_potter  severus_snape  sirius_black  minerva_mcgonagall  harry/severus  bamf!harry  hooker!harry  homeless!harry  streetkid!harry  protective!harry  abandoned!harry  illiterate!harry  top!harry  protective!severus  understanding!severus  drama  hurt/comfort  friendship  homelessness  streetkids  prostitution  abandonment  abuse:child(past)  issues:class  illiteracy  underage  bonding/soulmates  kink:switching  first_time  hp:au:different!hogwarts  fandom:harrypotter  author:vingilot  wip 
january 2018 by elwarre
✢ The Handbook of Elf Psychology
"Sequel to Fantastic Elves and Where to Find Them! Harry is captured by wizards and brought to a castle. The wizards are obnoxious, but there's a lovely wood nearby which is quaintly named the "Forbidden" Forest. Harry thinks that's adorable." (99,261 words) This is delightful.
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january 2018 by elwarre

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